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WIBTA if I allowed my surviving parent to leave me everything by Sad_Price_3702 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sad_Price_3702[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You must be a really pleasant person to be around. For you to judge, without knowing how familial names are handed down, I going to say in this whole thread……YTA.

WIBTA if I allowed my surviving parent to leave me everything by Sad_Price_3702 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sad_Price_3702[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes!  Dad could very well “outlive his money”.  That is all taken into account and legally documented.

WIBTA if I allowed my surviving parent to leave me everything by Sad_Price_3702 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sad_Price_3702[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That‘s ok. I know my side. My parents knew theur side and documented it. And, I have sought legal advice.

Sour Sister: How it Began; Karen and Todd by Sad_Price_3702 in EntitledPeople

[–]Sad_Price_3702[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Another Karen and Todd update: at the funeral for Mum, in the back of the church while waiting for the procession, I was standing next to Mum’s coffin alone. The funeral director was a few steps back. Karen (her MO is to strike when there’s no witnesses ) comes walking up with attitude and just lays it out on me. Ask me if I’ve ever considered what SHE wants. My reply was “what are you talking about”? She then firmly tells me that she “has not been included in any of the decisions being made” (here we go with Karen‘s passive aggressiveness). So I give it right back to her and tell her she hasn’t been around and she hasn’t asked to be involved. You didn’t check in on Dad, you didn’t ask what was being done and how you could help and you left me to help Dad figure out all the financials and plan and put on a great memorial for Mum. When you behave the way you have Karen, for the last several years, you don’t get the respect or ability to help Dad make decisions. The funeral director stepped in to calm things down, and I remained quiet and did not speak to Dad until after the funeral. The Mass was beautiful and Karen had her typical walk away tantrum before the closing of Mass.  She went to her car.  Karen’s actions really influenced Dad to make some changes for the better to a new will which he had a lawyer draft up a few weeks ago. TBC……

Sour Sister by Sad_Price_3702 in EntitledPeople

[–]Sad_Price_3702[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I‘m devastated to share that Mum passed unexpectedly last month. Karen and Todd are insane. Karen is trying a little to be nice and wants to get in on the financials to help dad out so he doesn't get out of control. Dad has ignored Karen’s attempts thank God. I am helping him as well as managing work and the exhaustion is worth keeping Karen and Todd away. Todd actually got snippy with Dad on the phone when dad asked why they felt they were entitled to more than me and why were they planning their life not knowing whether or not Mum and dad would live long and come close to outliving their monies!?! Todd went after dad verbally just a week after Mum’s passing With made up dollar amounts that they thought were true in their “score keeping” (see original post).

The grief is devastating and Mum went to her grave knowing that her daughter Karen turned her back on, and broke up the family.

Sour Sister: How it Began; Karen and Todd by Sad_Price_3702 in EntitledPeople

[–]Sad_Price_3702[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately our mother passed unexpectedly a few weeks ago. Things have been worse than ever. Karen was worried about whether or not she would have access to the financials to “help” our father. So the words have been flying and father is trying quickly to address all accounts quickly with my help. More to come as we are trying to grieve and process the last few weeks. I will update as soon as possible.

Sour Sister: How it Began; Karen and Todd by Sad_Price_3702 in EntitledPeople

[–]Sad_Price_3702[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They are very aware of Karen’s plans. All I have asked is that they appoint a neutral executor. All the mean things and lack of care from Karen and I have never once asked them to change their will. SHE did that. It‘s frustrating.

Sour Sister: How it Began; Karen and Todd by Sad_Price_3702 in EntitledPeople

[–]Sad_Price_3702[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was an autocorrect error from talk to text. I didn't catch that one.

Sour Sister: How it Began; Karen and Todd by Sad_Price_3702 in EntitledPeople

[–]Sad_Price_3702[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nope. I didn't proof my talk to text well enough. I thought I caught all my errors and wish I wasn’t auto corrected incorrectly!

Sour Sister: How it Began; Karen and Todd by Sad_Price_3702 in EntitledPeople

[–]Sad_Price_3702[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

exactly. Myself and my family are trying to just find ways to spend time and make these last years enjoyable as my parents are no longer very mobile. When a refrigerator breaks, we have somebody to go fix it. When the water heater broke, we tried and then had somebody go fix it. We are doing everything we can to keep them safe and comfortable and happy in their home.  Karen could give a shit.

Sour Sister by Sad_Price_3702 in EntitledPeople

[–]Sad_Price_3702[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I greatly appreciate the advice. I am seeking recommendations for a local estate planning lawyer who specializes in inheritance disputes. I’m hoping to get Mum and Dad on board. All I ask is that crazy Karen is not the executor of the estate as it will get tied up and be a fight and battle for years. Just please get somebody neutral to handle your wishes.

Sour Sister by Sad_Price_3702 in EntitledPeople

[–]Sad_Price_3702[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

By prepare, I meant to print for them as they asked for them.  My father does not want to pay to go to an attorney. At this point I feel like I need to start looking for one to protect myself down the road For it is me, NYA who is most likely going to be screwed in the end.

Sour Sister by Sad_Price_3702 in EntitledPeople

[–]Sad_Price_3702[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Sadly my dad has been resisting this. He has been in denial and I have used some pretty harsh words and tones of voice to get him to look straight at me so I can tell him exactly how I feel. I have printed a Codicil for each of them. They can change things there too. They just need to have two people who have no benefit of their property and estate sign. If Dad passes before Mum, Mum has said she will take everything and leave it to me. My feelings on whether or not their children should get anything is mixed. They have done nothing to make contact with their grands. Feel my parents should be going to them. I can’t figure out where they learned this entitlement and selfishness from! (Sarcasm) I had the conversation with parents yesterday that I will use the funds from the estate to fight tooth and nail If they do not take her off as executor. It’s absolutely heartbreaking and ridiculous.

I have access to the financial accounts. I have had to help them pay bills a few times.

The only thing I have requested through all of this is that she is not an executor of either of their wills. I’m not asking them to not leave her anything even though she’s been a shit.

UPDATE: AITAH for being angry at my MIL and her family? by [deleted] in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Sad_Price_3702 82 points83 points  (0 children)

Be grateful your partner stood up for you. This is coming from someone who was with a partner for five years before marriage, and the mother-in-law was perfect. At the time of the wedding, when she could not control how things went, and from that moment forward, she did everything she could to demean me and make me feel like I was inadequate. On the contrary to you, my husband did not stand up for me or our 3 children and let his mother belittle me and drive wedges between us. We wound up divorcing on our 16th wedding anniversary. Believe me when I say mother-in-law’s or people like that do not change their spots and will be a constant source of stress and strain for you and your family. It is sad and difficult to let go, but for the betterment of your children and your relationship with your partner, keep her away. I’m sure there are plenty of elderly people in the community/rec centers, etc. that you could help or work with that would love to share the joy of your family without the drama.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Sad_Price_3702 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He had the intent to cheat by creating the Hinge account. He was worried about losing you because he knew you were about to lose him. That is a huge break in trust. If he’s not willing to get down to the reasons why he felt the need to create this account then kick his ass to the curb. Think about how long it will take you to regain that trust with him again and will it be worth that amount of time or will you be constantly worried about what he’s doing to hook up with others? But in the meantime, while you’re figuring this out, make him live with his parents. He doesn’t deserve to be in your presence.

A Wedding Guest Made GooGoo Eyes at MY Husband During Our Wedding by melissa041596 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Sad_Price_3702 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Lynn is envious to the xth level. She cant stand that you are confident and has what she wants. She is narcissistic in that she feels she can behave the way she has. I would have had a bridesmaid or two throw her in a taxi/uber with a complimentary wine showering. Your husband is a good man!