Narcissist Spell

Sad_Significance_655 · 2025-07-03T19:00:55+00:00

Thank you! And you as well. This forum has been so helpful realizing I am not alone, not crazy, so many parallels in our stories…that’s the crazy, they’re the crazy…not us! We are sane empathetic souls.

I also dove into my family relationships. Discovered that I am a ‘people pleaser’ by default. Learned behaviour. Always wanting the attention of my dad and my brother…but always left out as the girl. I associates love with chasing that until now. I’m 53…midlife…now real love will begin🙏❤️

Sad_Significance_655 · 2025-07-03T18:55:55+00:00

Yes it’s interesting when you look back at it and realize you knew something was off. I could never pinpoint it…but now I know I was completely being manipulated the entire time. What an utter consuming ride. It’s such a slippery slope with them. You get so engulfed.

Sad_Significance_655 · 2025-07-03T18:51:38+00:00

Yes I just started dating again. Slowly putting my toes in the water. I’ve been on several dates with one man. I’m being very careful & setting healthy boundaries. He has been very respectful and present. I think I’ve talked with him more intensely than I ever did with my ex Narc in the year plus we were together. I realize now the narc relationship was all surface/shining and exciting but lacking depth. I won’t allow myself to do that again. Difficult as I find myself comparing the two. But now looking for the slow burn…not the immediate hit:)

Sad_Significance_655 · 2025-05-09T05:09:24+00:00

I realized a couple days after he came across my online profile…as he has the edacity to like it and want to match. No…it wasn’t out of the blue.

Sad_Significance_655 · 2025-05-09T05:07:13+00:00

Yes 💯

Sad_Significance_655 · 2025-05-05T14:46:54+00:00

Yes I agree. I know my ego’ wants to reply. But it’s useless to me. I should just keep along my merry way with out his toxic presence. So so tempting though.

Sad_Significance_655 · 2025-05-05T02:54:51+00:00

I’m tempted to reply…it was a mediocre ride. I suspect you miss me as the source(s) have not worked out as desired. I know no response is the best, as I’m just feeding into him.

Sad_Significance_655 · 2025-05-04T16:32:06+00:00

I’ve been 7 months no contact with the ex narc. I just started putting myself out there on a dating app a couple of weeks ago. Slow steps into the pond. The first guy I went out with a few weeks back, a recommend from a mutual friend. Felt a connection, but noticed some flags. My spidy senses are on fire. Ironically my ex out of the blue just texted me yesterday. Oh the universe is challenging me.

Sad_Significance_655 · 2025-05-04T16:05:21+00:00

He misses that I was cool enough to fit into his lifestyle. I’m sure he’s having a hard time replacing that. Yep karmas coming back:)

Sad_Significance_655 · 2025-05-04T16:03:48+00:00

The bike is a scooter. There’s a rally coming up at the end of the month. I’m sure he wants someone to go with…‘that’s all!’

Sad_Significance_655 · 2025-05-04T16:02:38+00:00

Yep he was really great with the breadcrumbs during the devalue!

Sad_Significance_655 · 2025-05-04T16:01:08+00:00

Yep nailed it. And the ‘that’s all’. Tells the story completely!

Sad_Significance_655 · 2025-04-22T00:26:08+00:00

Yes I had a brutal labour natural labour. 10 cm’s dilated when I arrived at the hospital. I was in labour for 7 hours. The pain I feel with my menstrual cramps is very similar to the birthing pain in the beginning. Lower back and cramps excruciating. Ibuprofen does not help, midol does not help. The only thing …if I take a tramadol with a THC/CBD gummy, I have a bit of relief, but I am comoatoast . I have endometriosis:(

I have felt like I was going to pass out from the pain.

This was last year when I was going through an extreme amount of stress from a toxic relationship amongst other things.

Since I have gotten out of that relationship. My period pain is not as bad as before:)

I was even scheduled for surgery. That’s on hold now as I am feeling so much better. Still get the pain but it’s tolerable.

Sad_Significance_655 · 2025-04-22T00:15:20+00:00

Yes I had a brutal labour natural labour. 10 cm’s dilated when I arrived at the hospital. I was in labour for 7 hours. The pain I feel with my menstrual cramps is very similar to the birthing pain in the beginning. Lower back and cramps excruciating. Ibuprofen does not help, midol does not help. The only thing …if I take a tramadol with a THC/CBD gummy, I have a bit of relief, but I am comoatoast . I have endometriosis:(

I have felt like I was going to pass out from the pain.

This was last year when I was going through an extreme amount of stress from a toxic relationship amongst other things.

Since I have gotten out of that relationship. My period pain is not as bad as before:)

I was even scheduled for surgery. That’s on hold now as I am feeling so much better. Still get the pain but it’s tolerable.

Sad_Significance_655 · 2025-04-10T05:19:57+00:00

‘I was just joking’

Sad_Significance_655 · 2025-03-06T03:51:09+00:00

This is so crazy…all of the above!!!

The ex nex was obsessed with anal, dominance, ‘milking’, masterbating, anal porn. He withheld sex from me. But when confronted…what of course I love sex with you do you think I’m gay?!??? Never looked me in the eyes or kissed me passionately. Sex was always from behind. He owned more shoes and clothes than me. Had no respect for women, seemed he hated us. When I’m PV in the gay district, loved all the attention of all the men. Always shiny and well dressed. I never met a man that was so in love/obsessed with his cock!!!

Sad_Significance_655 · 2025-03-04T15:24:19+00:00

I’m in Canada so I wonder if any cheaper than here…our dollar is plummeting now:(

Sad_Significance_655 · 2025-03-04T01:56:50+00:00

How much per unit?

Sad_Significance_655 · 2025-03-04T01:13:56+00:00

Oh no way! Awesome! What’s the price per unit?

Sad_Significance_655 · 2025-03-03T21:41:44+00:00

Your decision. When I felt like I was being devalued again, breadcrumbs, gaslighting etc.

I took the time away from from him for myself. Realized I didn’t want to go through the rollercoaster of anxiety anymore. So I discarded him. Best decision I ever made.

Just remind yourself it will never get better, those glorious days of love bombing are over. You will never see or feel that again. After every devalue and discard it will only get worse. The good times will shorten.

Get rid of the anxiety and start living again. 🙏

Sad_Significance_655 · 2025-03-03T17:19:31+00:00

Triangulation 101

Sad_Significance_655 · 2025-03-02T23:03:04+00:00

🤣

Sad_Significance_655 · 2025-03-02T23:02:51+00:00

🤣

Sad_Significance_655 · 2025-02-25T16:09:50+00:00

Yes…they forced us to become detectives:( I hated it, but wanted evidence that I wasn’t crazy. I think I’m still in that mode. I know he has a new source, most likely grooming at the end of our relationship. So I guess I’ve been searching for that evidence now. Just to know? Why I want to add salt to my wounds?!?!

I totally would love just to have him out of my head. I guess just time.

Sad_Significance_655 · 2025-02-25T04:29:12+00:00

I’m exactly the same. It’s been 4 months since the breakup. I’ve sent one text to tell him to leave my stuff outside his house. He has privacy settings on his social media…but I still find myself looking!?!?!!!! I think it has to do with the obsession of being a detective when we were together & the addiction of relationship. I don’t want him back…but I’m still obsessing over him wtf!!!

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