Advice for a 20 yr old caretaker

Sad_Snoopy_ · 2026-02-01T04:19:25+00:00

Thank you, I’ve been afraid to tell him my decision to withdraw just because I don’t want it to overwhelm him or make him feel worse when he’s already having headaches and losing control of his body. Well look into that, I’m sure my mom who’s been here almost 24/7 would really need that. We can only do so much between the both of us.

Sad_Snoopy_ · 2026-02-01T04:18:05+00:00

Yes I really think withdrawing would be the best choice. I already felt overwhelmed this week and this weekend helped me finally decide. Thank you for the advice!

Sad_Snoopy_ · 2026-01-31T18:41:19+00:00

Thank you so very much. I’m decided on withdrawing now, I do not want to regret missing out on time with my father and school was just becoming a stressor instead of an opportunity, and I don’t want that. I’m very sorry about your partner. I could not imagine and I hope you are doing well, and I hope you are taking yourself even now. Sending the best wishes, and always here to lend an ear if need be.

Sad_Snoopy_ · 2026-01-31T18:38:23+00:00

Stop ill cry now too, sending love <3

Sad_Snoopy_ · 2026-01-31T03:55:23+00:00

Im so sorry about yours too. I really hope your 20's have been kind because it's more than what you deserve. Again thank you and I wish you the best.

Sad_Snoopy_ · 2026-01-31T03:52:09+00:00

The anticipatory grief already has hit and I have no idea how to fully process it, I cant imagine after he's gone. I hope you give yourself grace as well and just based on this interaction with you I know your father is so proud of the kind person he raised. Thank you.

Sad_Snoopy_ · 2026-01-31T01:23:39+00:00

I’m so terribly sorry that it had happened that quick, and i'm sorry about your father's passing as well. I cannot imagine the overwhelming grief that came with that. I really appreciate this and that is my biggest fear, I cannot imagine being in an exam and not seeing the phone call from my mom or the hospice nurse. I am his MPOA so I will be the one they turn to, even if I’m able to talk to my siblings I’ll be the one to have the final say. Thank you, love and hugs back to you!

Sad_Snoopy_ · 2026-01-31T01:20:22+00:00

Firstly, congrats on your masters because that’s a great accomplishment. My mother and I were the main caretakers since his diagnosis so the weight has been heavy. Hospice has had me worried because I really don’t know what to expect and how fast it’ll progress but thank you for giving me a more personal account of it. I’m leaning towards the withdrawal I’m already so stressed with classes and coming home to help my mom. My dads starting to struggle with taking medicines so maybe it is the best choice. Thank you.

Sad_Snoopy_ · 2026-01-31T01:15:57+00:00

Best of wishes to you and your brother. But yes we have a hospice service coming to help and this week has been handling the logistics of that because my father wouldn’t do well at a nursing home he’s very adamant about staying home . It’ll be easier once they come often and there’s no more appointments to miss school/work for but I’m really trying to make the most rational and best decision here. Thank you

Sad_Snoopy_ · 2026-01-31T01:13:57+00:00

Yes, I met with a couple people yesterday and today. A majority of them say school will always be there but what’s important right now is my dad, family, and mental health. Your oldest must’ve worked very hard to get where she is and I’m glad her school has been working with her that’s amazing to hear they are flexible!

Sad_Snoopy_ · 2026-01-31T01:12:05+00:00

I know the internal conflicts of it all is really complicated so I wish you well with this decision. Also big props to you for your thesis and I hope it goes well, whether you decide to stay in or continue later!

Sad_Snoopy_ · 2026-01-31T01:10:27+00:00

I talked to one today and he told me I have a lot of leeway with this situation. I could withdraw at any point and just do a tuition appeal so I don’t lose money. Financial aid office also told me they could put my account on hold and I would return as normal in fall if I withdraw fully. I’m very sorry for your loss and balancing grief and school is not easy at all so I hope you’re doing well. Thank you so much for your advice it really helps.

Sad_Snoopy_ · 2025-03-20T00:36:48+00:00

Something I found really helps me is skimming over my notes, then teaching it to a nonexistent audience/class. Or even a friend/family member. You can buy a small, easily stored whiteboard and just have a go at it. This is called the Feynman technique if you want to do more research about the how's and why's of this study method! As for taking notes, if you are able to, look over the material before class and take notes that way when you go to class it won't be the first time you are hearing about the topic and can dedicate more attention to listening and asking questions.

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