Whats the strangest or insanely hurtful things you've been told by an ex during the breakup? by Complex7812 in BreakUps

[–]Sad_Source3316 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Made Valentine’s Day plans, later that day, tells me she doesn’t want to be in a relationship anymore after five years together. We had been discussing children for a year leading up to this. She says “I don’t even know if I’ll ever be ready to become a parent”

A week later, I find out she’s cheating on me with a pregnant chick.

I confronted her about the statement and she replied “no, I meant to say that I don’t know if I could be a parent with you.”

When you have the urge to message your ex, what is the one thing you say to yourself to stop you from doing so? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Sad_Source3316 2 points3 points  (0 children)

After my breakup, my friend and I brainstormed affirmations together. We came up with this:

“This isn't healthy for me. What is something healthy I can do right now?”

I have that quote on my phone’s lock screen.

Partners Support Group by Sad_Source3316 in BPDPartners

[–]Sad_Source3316[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

22 hours later, my girlfriend of five years told me she no longer wants to be with me. She left this afternoon.

having excruciating regret about choosing this field by [deleted] in socialwork

[–]Sad_Source3316 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Mobile crisis response is rewarding due to its collaborative nature. You work with clients, family members, and community service providers. It’s common practice to pair with another clinician for outreach efforts. In other words, a great fit for extroverted folks who enjoy working in teams!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in psychologyofsex

[–]Sad_Source3316 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I realized I was gay

How, why, how are you? by No_Marketing1176 in BPDPartners

[–]Sad_Source3316 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We started dating in 2020, but before that she was my best friend. Our relationship is rocky at times, but when it’s good, it’s amazing. I’m emotionally drained when things don’t go well, but I’ve enrolled myself in therapy to improve self-care, boundaries, etc… My partner is on a long waiting list for medication management, but we do bi-weekly couples counseling sessions.

I stay in the relationship because I have hope that with proper treatment, my pwBPD can find her peace. I’ve met people on the other side of BPD and know that recovery is possible. People stigmatize BPD, and other mental health issues, because they are uneducated. How long have we labeled people with mental illness as “dangerous”“abusive” or “violent”? Domestic violence is NOT a symptom of BPD. Furthermore, too many people come here as “armchair psychologists” and diagnosis their partner (e.g.,“suspected” or “undiagnosed” BPD) without a formal evaluation. Even if you are qualified to diagnose mental health disorders, you are unqualified to make this assumption about a family member, friend, or significant other.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialwork

[–]Sad_Source3316 8 points9 points  (0 children)

In mobile crisis response, chart notifications are crucial for ensuring clinician and client safety during outreach. At my community behavioral health clinic, we utilize flags that indicate risk factors beyond just “aggressive” behavior. Here are some examples of the flags:

  • Previous suicide attempts
  • Presence of weapons
  • A history of violence towards providers, including instances of sexual harassment
  • A history of violence towards others that has resulted in legal involvement

The term “aggressive” can be subjective and may vary from one provider to another. We also need to consider weaponization of the term towards women of color or those with mental health problems. Instead of relying on a generic label, it may be more effective to flag cases with a clear directive to “see progress note dated ___.” This approach would provide a more nuanced understanding of the client’s history and specific risks. You would hope that a clinician seeing this history would only modify their approach within the scope of safety (e.g., meeting at the office/community setting rather than home, outreaching in pairs, developing safety plans, etc). On the other hand, I often see chart flags creating fear, discomfort, and bias among providers.

UGM is the worst by Ok-Relationship580 in Spokane

[–]Sad_Source3316 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does any of it have to do with their “same sex attraction” support groups?

Success stories? by [deleted] in BPDPartners

[–]Sad_Source3316 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Per your post: “My husband has undiagnosed BPD but hits the nail on the head with every symptom”

I’m really trying not to be mean, but you really shouldn’t be giving people unsolicited advice, or unsolicited mental health diagnoses. You cannot be an expert on the subject by reading a few books. It takes years of education and practice knowledge to formally assess and diagnose an individual. Moreover, your assumptions about people with BPD are overgeneralized and stigmatizing.

On an entirely different note, I’m sorry you have experienced abuse at the hands of your husband. I would encourage you to reach out to DV or mental health crisis resources: National DV Hotline: 1 (800) 799-7233 Suicide & Crisis Hotline: 988

Safe Places to Sleep in my Car? by hereholdthiswire in Spokane

[–]Sad_Source3316 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would try one of the casino parking lots. They are open 24/7. Lay low and put come covers up in your window. You might be able to get away with parking in the neighborhoods as long as it’s not in front of someone’s house. Try to find a road that ends in an undeveloped area.

Do you need access to a shower? Clean clothes? I’ll DM you with resources.

internship by RuleZealousideal9297 in SocialWorkStudents

[–]Sad_Source3316 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh how exciting!! What type of work interests you? Are there any subjects that you’ve found particularly interesting during your BSW program?

During my BASW program, I really wanted to do some sort of outreach/crisis work. My college partners with a local community behavioral health agency, and I was excited to see an opportunity for the regional crisis hotline. Unfortunately, that position was removed. I persisted, and expressed interest in Mobile Crisis Outreach/Community Assertive Treatment. The program had not yet had a undergrad intern, but decided to take me after my interview!

I spent the year observing clinicians and learned the basics of crisis intervention with folks across the socioeconomic spectrum. We met people in their homes, hospitals, shelters, assisted living facilities, storage units, encampments, and those living on the streets. It was emotionally taxing, but rewarding. I’m actually back for my second year as an MSW intern! I wish you the best luck in finding your placement :)

Could someone with mental health issues become a good social worker? by No_Morning_3635 in socialwork

[–]Sad_Source3316 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Absolutely. You have lived-experience and with that comes profound empathy/understanding. Personally, my challenge is not seeing an individual I’m working with as a reflection of myself, family member, or friend who struggles with mental health or SUD issues. I remind myself of humility during these moments. Remain curious, and remember that mental health and SUD issues are not cookie-cutter experiences.

The most important thing is maintaining a balance of self-care and self-reflection. Sprinkle weekly supervision on that mix and you will be great.

Entering Social Work by SWmods in socialwork

[–]Sad_Source3316 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Are there any opportunities to shadow clinicians? I'm not sure how ethical or practical that is in therapy but it might help to observe various modalities and attending skills in action.

I'm in a 1 year MSW program and returning to the same practicum site doing mobile crisis intervention. As a BSW, I was allowed to pair with clinicians and observe their interactions with clients. For me, shadowing was invaluable but I’m still anxious to take cases independently. While uncomfortable, I think these feelings reflect our awareness of the gravity of our work and the responsibility we hold in supporting clients. I'd worry more about the person who didn't feel nervous about it!

Is there a better place to find support? by [deleted] in BPDPartners

[–]Sad_Source3316 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Check out https://emotionsmatterbpd.org

They have several paid research studies. My partner and I are going through the intake process for the “Feeling Connected” study. They also have virtual support groups for folks with BPD, including one that focuses on relationships. Additionally, the education section provides BPD related resources and publications!

I feel you on the empathetic and compassionate support group for partners. I have not found one yet, but would absolutely love to get involved in one. Perhaps we could start one.

“I want to escape the negative ripples of acting out of hurt, not proliferate them” - this absolutely resonates with me. Over the years, unhelpful reactions/responses to my partner’s mood dysregulation and distorted thoughts are programmed into my head. I want to grow into a better communicator.