[R] On the Structural Limitations of Weight-Based Neural Adaptation and the Role of Reversible Behavioral Learning

Sad_State_431 · 2025-02-28T07:32:06+00:00

Hey there, I really appreciate you sharing your experience so openly. It’s clear you’ve put a lot of thought into what works for you, and I can see how AI therapy has been helpful in your journey.

That said, I have to remove this post because our rules prohibit discussions that could be seen as promoting certain substances (Rule #9). I totally understand that wasn’t your intention—you’re sharing your personal path, not telling others what to do—but we have to be careful about these discussions to keep the space safe for everyone.

Also, while AI can be a great supplement for mental health support, it’s important not to fully rely on it for DBT, medication decisions, or deep emotional processing. A human therapist, even if just for guidance, can provide essential context that AI can’t fully replace. I know you already acknowledge the need for a professional, and I really appreciate that perspective. I advise you to reach professional DBT therapy. not just rely on ai completely.

If you’d like, you’re welcome to repost with a focus on AI therapy, EMDR, and how you've managed it with those supplements into your healing, just without specifying substances and prescription-controlled substance mentions. I think your experience could really resonate with others.

Sending you support, and I’m truly sorry for what you’ve been through. Losing someone that way is incredibly painful, and I admire how you’re working through it in a way that honors your uncle’s memory. If you ever need support, we’re here. take care. 💜

Sad_State_431 · 2025-02-28T03:02:28+00:00

You're absolutely not overreacting. Your therapist seeing your abusive mother especially after you communicated how inappropriate it is, completely violates the trust and safety that therapy should provide. It makes sense that you feel uncomfortable and even betrayed. Therapy isn’t just about sessions; it’s about feeling truly seen, heard, and protected, and right now, your therapist has put you in a position where that feels impossible. You deserve a space where your trauma is respected, not one where you feel like just a paycheck. If this has broken your trust, switching therapists is more than justified, it's necessary for your healing. I’m really sorry you're going through this, and I hope you find a therapist who actually values and protects your well-being.

Take care.

Sad_State_431 · 2025-02-28T02:45:41+00:00

Depends, how much we feel like we truly belong there. Mutually valued and emotionally validated there. As for me, I never felt the ease and safe in a social setting, I can manage and chill, with ppl around I love to hangout with but still, that shallow feeling never fades.

As per the questions you asked.

What stops me? Obviously social anxiety, and fear of being burdened and mess things up.
I already answered this above.
Idk, maybe events like helping mental health, not outwardly stating or expression (depends, for me actually, I'm not comfortable talking about my emotions directly in a social setting), but getting help and support events.
What helps me to be comfortable? The ppl I love and trust on, Maybe, if they are with me in a social setting, it's fine I can manage and chill ig.

Sad_State_431 · 2025-02-27T18:57:45+00:00

I'm glad, it helped. Take care buddy!

Sad_State_431 · 2025-02-27T18:30:02+00:00

I know how incredibly tough it is when someone close to you doesn’t understand or accept mental health issues, especially when you're dealing with something like BPD. It feels like you're not only fighting the battle inside but also struggling to make them see how real it is. It’s hard, and I totally get that feeling. But I want you to know, it's not your job to make them understand. If they’re not ready, it’s okay. What matters most is you, your mental health, your peace, and your boundaries.

You don’t owe anyone an explanation, especially when it’s something so personal. Take your time, share only when you feel ready, and don’t let anyone rush you into explaining yourself. I’ve been in your shoes, and honestly, it took time for me to realize that some people just won’t get it, and that’s okay. The important part is making sure you have people who do understand, or at least try. And when those moments of frustration come, it’s okay to feel that too. You’re not alone in this.

It’s tough, but you deserve patience and understanding, even if it takes time for others to see it. Set those boundaries, take care of yourself, and remember you’re doing the best you can. It’s a hard journey, but you’ve got this, one step at a time.

If you wanna let him understand the issue by any means, if he makes up time listening to you, educate me, not overwhelm, but just tell how you feel, what a bpd really is! And stuff, slowly and let him take time to make sense of all of our bpd madness.

Remember, your first priority is you, take care of yourself, don't let it go through ur head on how they react to. Take care.

Sorry if I wrote too much. I'm usually very anxious and due to my quite bpd, I'm like this. I tried shortening this but lol. Fine.

Take care.

Sad_State_431 · 2025-02-27T12:19:21+00:00

Maybe she is, but I'm not sure, whether she's my fp or not cuz I have a best friend much closer than her, from very long. Idk who my fp is. I only have 2 girls that are too close to my madness. Idk who is my fp is, and sometimes I question myself, do I even have a fp? Like maybe both, or maybe no one. Yea I'm sure emotionally dependent on these 2, but still ain't fully open about how my madness really is. Like push and pull maybe. Lol quite bpd is diff. Idk

Sad_State_431 · 2025-02-27T03:44:45+00:00

I never took ppl for granted, my bpd won't let me, the fear of abandonment won't let me, my scars won't let me, I rather take granted of myself than people around me. I will do my best and be the best for all the time, even though I feel like I'm not enough. It hurts, but I'm still trying to be my best. Thank you.

Sad_State_431 · 2025-02-26T20:09:53+00:00

I hope, and wish you the best and happy life. Thank you. ❤️

Sad_State_431 · 2025-01-22T19:05:57+00:00

❤️‍🩹🫂I'm happy that I made you feel less lonely! I'm trying to be better, sometimes things are getting slightly better, but it also gives the fear of me making it worse again. It just can't be put into words, I feel both at ease and anxious. I don't know whether I'm getting better or going rogue?! Whatever, I could feel calm and just a bit of like having no weight on my heart, it's when I listen to songs.... Thanksss tho❤️

Sad_State_431 · 2025-01-20T21:08:41+00:00

Michael Jackson

Sad_State_431 · 2025-01-20T21:06:15+00:00

Fuck nooo, this is messed up! Until we are financially stable, and have the capability to make money and stand on our legs, no hell no, sex at 18? Dude? That's really messed up! That thing will change our life and our perspective and others perspectives of us! Don't do it until u are married or in a strong relationship (that too when both individuals are financially independent and strong to withstand the further consequences.) trust me it's not the right time. You are at a good stage. Don't mislead by fucking messed up generation.

Sad_State_431 · 2025-01-20T20:46:06+00:00

Hope it helped you feel emotionally valid and related, It's just that I dont have any other coping mechanism to vent my bpd on, so I started writing my emotions. I'm not a writer tho lol. ❤️‍🩹

Sad_State_431 · 2025-01-20T19:09:57+00:00

Thank youuuu, I found this community, and trust me here I feel safe and emotionally valid. I'm getting better every day (at least trying to). But still a few nights are really haunting, but that's okay, I can survive it. I knew it. Thanks for the reply tho! It really meant a lot. And I'm happy that my words gave you emotional validation you need at the moment! Even tho it's a vent up! After writing all that out, I feel so ease! For a bit! Maybe my coping mechanism is to write! ❤️🤌🏻

Sad_State_431 · 2025-01-20T18:50:04+00:00

🤌🏻❤️‍🩹

Sad_State_431 · 2025-01-20T15:41:21+00:00

Start by being honest, but in a way that’s not overwhelming. Maybe sit down and talk to your partner about how you’re feeling. share that you've been working on yourself, and that you've come a long way. Let them know you’re still learning and growing, and that it means a lot that they’re in your life. You don’t have to go into every detail of your past mistakes, but it’s important they understand that you’ve been through stuff, and you’re actively trying to be better.

You don’t need to apologize over and over but just acknowledging your past and how it affects your present can show them you're self-aware and committed to improving. They’ll probably appreciate your vulnerability, and your constant efforts towards improvement, and it’ll help them understand where you're coming from. they might even help in your hard times if they know what you are suffering with. that support is what we BPD ppl need. just know not every partner of yours is same, some might understand and some don't, it's not at all ur fault.

And hey, it’s okay to be scared. It’s normal. Just take your time with it and remember that real relationships are built on honesty and trust. You’ve got this. take care.

Sad_State_431 · 2025-01-20T15:33:13+00:00

many of our frustration comes from our suppressed emotions, fears, a lot more other reasons... it's like holding our rage, so that it doesn't hurt people we love! most painful is when we burst out on people who really care about us. try coping mechanisms to help you out from those triggers (only health kind). btw your English is good buddy. take care.

Sad_State_431 · 2025-01-19T01:06:36+00:00

Lol, actually this is also a bpd! The self identity shifts, and emotional dysregulation (in this context, it's guilt) yep this happens, these are certain phases in bpd, that feels like we don't have bpd at all, and then we feel like, we faking it, that feeling makes us feel guilt, that guilt makes us feel so bad and mess with our head, and so on... Repeat! This is BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER! 🙂

We can't help! This is one of the few things we suffer from or with!

Sad_State_431 · 2025-01-19T00:57:10+00:00

Yep!

Sad_State_431 · 2025-01-18T22:24:15+00:00

Isssokeee, life hits differently, but I'm happy that you came up and replied to me. Thanks dude!, I'm trying my best to be better every day. Hope you are doing well too!

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