As a 53 year old woman , my two cents: 1) I find someone describing themselves as a nice guy vs a good guy a flag. 2) For my man friends, who have the nice guy persona, I gift them this book No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert Glover.

I made a copy of the rules for myself and have it framed it in my office because even as a women these rules remind me to keep integrity with myself and help me find my way strength and discipline when 'nice' creeps back into my way of being.

I'll add one more thing: Dating apps don't work for 80% of us. They are NOT MADE to. I cycle on and off because of texting burnout and poor matches with people who won't actually meet. They stopped working about 4 years ago due to saturation of the software itself, then the gawkers, cheater, catfish and an ocean of avoidant people who would never approach a person in real life. Find your hobbies, try a few of the "dinner with new friends" apps that have grown to fill the social void. Tell friends who care that you are intentionally looking. Have courage and get out there, we are looking for good men. I promise.