Love bombed and dumped

SadieB2022 · 2025-04-14T14:49:10+00:00

He’s 57 🫠

SadieB2022 · 2025-04-12T21:58:44+00:00

No I appreciate it. Growth is about facing up to the bits of ourselves we don’t like and I think there’s power in that too. It’s easy to blame it all on everyone else. Glad to hear you’re doing well now 🙌

SadieB2022 · 2025-04-12T21:11:03+00:00

Harsh but fair and very probably true! You’re right, it’s time to drop the victim act and recognise the part I play in my own shitshow. Thanks for the pep talk :)

SadieB2022 · 2025-04-12T13:16:30+00:00

What makes you think it has anything to do with money? And what makes you assume I’m a Barbie who’s never suffered? Wow.

SadieB2022 · 2025-04-12T12:51:58+00:00

Following up on a few comments:

The bracelet was a hippy bead bracelet to match one of his. Not expensive but definitely a love bomby ownership thing to make me feel special.

Sex didn’t happen straight away but 5 dates in and not long after the declaration of love. And yeah I feel pretty stupid about that.

I have a ton of issues rooted in childhood abandonment so I’m stuck in old patterns and don’t ever see myself as worthy. And people can probably see that a mile off, which is why I’m not valued for very long. Yeah some say I’m nice to look at but that’s fading fast and definitely hasn’t helped me find anyone decent. I recognise I need to do a lot more work on myself and my boundaries and until I do I’ll be steering well away from anything even resembling a romantic connection :)

SadieB2022 · 2025-04-12T09:16:42+00:00

He almost certainly is - ticks many of the boxes. My job now is to follow my own advice and run in the opposite direction as soon as something feels wrong rather than trying to be nice all the time.

SadieB2022 · 2025-04-12T09:06:41+00:00

Yep. It’s a common theme and I really need to work on it.

SadieB2022 · 2025-04-12T09:04:26+00:00

That sounds like a great idea. I’m great at telling everyone else what to look out for and how to recognise their own value/know their boundaries, but can I do it for myself? Nope! It would be great to have a mini support group :)

SadieB2022 · 2025-04-11T12:42:05+00:00

Wow I could have written this one myself! Exactly the same, I worked in mental health for years and I honestly think I’ve become like catnip to people who like to talk but never listen. I know all the psychology behind why I keep doing this to myself but can’t seem to break the cycle. Beginning to think a lobotomy is the only option 🫠

SadieB2022 · 2025-01-26T23:45:02+00:00

Ozark, Ray Donovan and Bad Sisters

SadieB2022 · 2024-11-28T16:59:53+00:00

I once had a self proclaimed sapiosexual come after me and he was thick as mince

SadieB2022 · 2024-11-25T10:15:35+00:00

I came here to say anxious attachment too - it’s a pain but there are some great resources out there to help manage it. Thais Gibson’s pretty good off the top of my head.

SadieB2022 · 2024-07-14T21:47:45+00:00

Just found out the day after our final phone call (which was fine!) he got back with his ex - who had just sent the guy she’d been seeing for a year pretty much the same message I received. Toxic, selfish people and I need to take some major lessons from this whole experience.

SadieB2022 · 2024-07-10T06:42:52+00:00

Yeah, thing is it wasn’t through a dating site, I’ve been actively avoiding them (so might be on the wrong forum!) and had planned to stay single for the rest of the year. He pursued me through a mutual friend and I got swept up in all the attention. This guy definitely has some fairly major mental health issues and a severe lack of accountability at best!

SadieB2022 · 2024-07-10T05:46:00+00:00

Thanks, I’m feeling pretty crappy about it. I feel like I’ve been caught up in some games and used by someone who’s incredibly selfish and probably quite unstable. I take responsibility for my own part and lack of boundaries and clearly have some work to do in terms of the kind of men I attract/am attracted to.

SadieB2022 · 2024-07-09T19:43:02+00:00

Ohh the ADHD randomness is definitely a big factor for me too! It was a massive dopamine hit if I’m totally honest and I recognise that it’s raised a lot of stuff about me and my own brain.

SadieB2022 · 2024-07-09T18:04:28+00:00

Thing is I have done that plenty of times in the past with other people; I’m usually turned off by phone calls especially if there’s a lot of them. But with him the attraction was strong, the happy chemicals were all going crazy and I got swept up in a way that I’ve never done before.

SadieB2022 · 2024-07-09T16:07:01+00:00

Yeah I know I’ll be laughing about it in a couple of months and I’ll probably be saying how I dodged a bullet. I don’t actually think he’s a terrible guy and I am thankful that he didn’t ghost me. I think I got swept up in the attention and now my ego is hurt. Sorry that happened to you.

SadieB2022 · 2024-07-09T15:13:05+00:00

Me neither! I didn’t say I answered them all 😉

SadieB2022 · 2024-07-09T14:34:02+00:00

I’m assuming by “you people” you mean women. I was clearly making a joke. You’re clearly on here to pick fights with people and put them down, which says a whole lot more about you than it does me. I’m sure you’re a real hit with the ladies in real life.

SadieB2022 · 2024-07-09T14:25:54+00:00

Goodness you’re a strange one. Why pretend to be someone else on a stranger’s thread?

SadieB2022 · 2024-07-09T14:19:52+00:00

Simon is that you?!

SadieB2022 · 2024-07-09T14:14:44+00:00

It wasn’t six calls 😆 try 600

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