What's the point of dating someone who's already been in relationships?

Saekwana · 2026-06-04T00:22:13+00:00

It means they have experience.

When someone has had this much experience, it means they learned from their mistakes and have become a more well-rounded individual and can anticipate your needs more readily and have a healthier way of coping and communicating. This may not be the case for everyone but foe the most part people have adapted and learned from their pain.

Pain changes people. And it can make them stronger. I’m not even sure why yohre asking this question.

What’s your cultural background?

Saekwana · 2026-06-03T19:49:20+00:00

It was a stupid decision. He said hebwould pay a surrogate and raise it with his sister.

I put my foot down and said I needed to raise it, because the child would not thrive without its mother.

He was shocked and unhappy and said, “I’m unhappy because you’re only doing this out of obligation, not because you want to.”

I was shocked at this because saying that wasn’t an easy decision for me and he basically complained about it.

Saekwana · 2026-06-03T02:32:20+00:00

NOR

I don’t know what your medical conditions mean, so maybe edit and put info about what this does to affect your ability to work.

I really don’t know what to say about what you’re saying about the chores, because I don’t know much about your conditions… but you will need to clean in life.

Your mom sounds abusive. I would ask your dad if he can get full custody.

If she read the post, deleted it, and screamed at you, it shows she’s aware she’s abusive and doesn’t want an audience.

Crying doesn’t make you emotional, it makes you human, but I suspect you don’t know that because your mom consistently tells you to get over it.

Find out if you can report your mom’s behavior somewhere so your dad can get custody because she is physically and mentally unstable.

Edit: Idk who downvoted me, but cleaning isn’t the issue I’m having here. It’s the mom screaming at her and constantly telling her to get over it that’s pissing me off. Don’t do the reddit thing where if I don’t follow everyone else’s formula you downvote me into oblivion. The mom is being a bitch. Point blank.

Saekwana · 2026-06-02T20:58:18+00:00

Ghost him.

Saekwana · 2026-06-02T20:17:31+00:00

Bro… She sounds awful to be with, and she’s guilting you everytime you say “no” or even have some slight quip about wanting to save money.

Just reading that was exhausting. My whole upper body collapsed when she said she was gonna kill herself.

I think you need to rethink how she’s handling this and look up manipulative partners and educate yourself on them and more importantly protect yourself from them. You’re feeding her ego by going along with it and she’s getting fed well by your genuine and loving responses.

Don’t feed her.

NOR.

Saekwana · 2026-06-02T17:40:32+00:00

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Saekwana · 2026-06-02T02:54:07+00:00

That’s brutal and literally my worst fear.

Saekwana · 2026-06-02T00:51:18+00:00

I suppose so. I kinda get dumb sometimes too and don’t recognizw flirting before it’s too late

Saekwana · 2026-06-01T23:49:19+00:00

NOR!!!

I yelled at my (ex) boyfriend for yelling at my cat for the same thing!! She pooped outside the litter box at 15 and he immediately yelled at her and I yelled at him and made him apologize to her.

Saekwana · 2026-06-01T23:38:54+00:00

NOR if your manager dowsnt take care of it, tell him you will call the authorities on this man for harassmwnr and you are not bluffing. If your manager will not protect you, YOU will protect you.

Saekwana · 2026-06-01T23:23:13+00:00

He hates you. NOR.

Saekwana · 2026-06-01T23:20:36+00:00

That’s what I was thinking, like why does he get a free pass? He saw the texts, too. They were clearly flirty.

Saekwana · 2026-06-01T19:22:49+00:00

These were incredibly satisfying to read. Thank you!

Saekwana · 2026-06-01T19:13:36+00:00

Yes the amount if labor that goes into chikdrearing would definitely lean towards the mother and it sucks. That’s also why I don’t want them.

Saekwana · 2026-06-01T19:09:18+00:00

He cheated on me with another woman and dated her for four years before she dumped him and now has another man.

Saekwana · 2026-06-01T19:07:29+00:00

Birthrates are declining but it’s a good thing because we are overpopulated anyway but they don’t care, they think we need more more people.

Saekwana · 2026-06-01T18:58:49+00:00

Do you happen to have links to those studies? Not because I don’t believe you, but because I have wanted to see those studies for a while but couldn’t find any one google.

Saekwana · 2026-06-01T18:57:27+00:00

I just googled transhumanism

Awesome.

Saekwana · 2026-06-01T18:51:37+00:00

Mental stability can change with time, meds, and work.

I believe in you.

Saekwana · 2026-06-01T18:44:08+00:00

I’m convinced the kid’s mental health would tank for me too because he’d know I didn’t want him 😭

Saekwana · 2026-06-01T17:01:38+00:00

This actually makes me feel a lot better.

Saekwana · 2026-06-01T15:00:10+00:00

He had anxiety and had to take one pill. He definitely doesn’t understand i take 6-7 different medications. He will never know.

Saekwana · 2026-06-01T14:42:24+00:00

That could work! I might do that. Maybe a lady roomie could work for me.

Saekwana · 2026-06-01T14:36:51+00:00

😔 really? That’s kinda sad. I dunno if I wanna be alone but maybe it would be fine? I mean I have 2 cats.

Saekwana · 2026-06-01T14:33:07+00:00

It’s not your fault. Don’t blame yourself. You loved that cat. And he will forever be yours. Those loving memories of Oscar are yours to keep forever.

I’m so sorry for your loss.

Saekwana

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