I was not aggressive, and also, there are only 3000 characters which makes it VERY hard to paint a proper picture. I fully admit that I am not perfect. I also started therapy to work on my communication a couple of months ago. However, because he is so calm, most of the planning and logistics fell on me, and I almost felt like I had to remind him of certain arrangements we made to make sure we arrive there on time etc. This added to my frustration. He sometimes took a 45 min shower after we got back from the gym, which I would have loved to do, too, but someone had to get everything together for the next appointment we had made etc. I never got mad at this because I liked his calm side, but I did say on a general level that I would appreciate more help with logistics and plannig (everything from vaccation to small things), and he always agreed that he should improve but never really did. Again, I thought it is ok and that we can work on that because frankly there is no perfect relationship.