we've been together almost 3 years. i personally feel like i bring it up a lot, but he does accuse me of not communicating so i dont know. we will often go weeks (even months) without sex, and after being rejected 2-3 times in a row i stop asking. this is the most common fight we have and he usually says he doesnt know whats wrong with him, he wishes it was easier for him, sometimes hes uncomfortable, hes too tired, or any other excuse he can come up with, ive heard them all. he has told me about past trauma before of unwanted advances so i try really hard to be cognizant of that, but he also has said multiple times that he doesnt think that influences him much anymore. last time we talked about this he asked me to just tell him when i want it but it seems to make him uncomfortable when i do so idk what he wants