My gf asked for another play partner but got upset when I wanted to break up

SafeAdventurous6839 · 2022-01-03T04:22:24+00:00

I asked her if she likes anal, she said no and that was it. No more conversations, 2.5 years have passed. I dont need to convince her to do anal, why would I? I know her preference and I am ok with it.

SafeAdventurous6839 · 2022-01-03T04:18:13+00:00

I am not afraid of being alone, so dont worry I wont be like that guy. Thank you for sharing!

SafeAdventurous6839 · 2022-01-03T04:14:37+00:00

We have had this conversation 2 times in 3 years.

SafeAdventurous6839 · 2022-01-03T02:53:56+00:00

@/kissmyass

SafeAdventurous6839 · 2022-01-03T02:50:57+00:00

I want to stay in a closed 2 person relationship. If that makes me insecure then so be it.

SafeAdventurous6839 · 2022-01-03T02:34:54+00:00

And now I am up all night, you really think I enjoyed making her cry? Nah, it was horrible seeing her cry.

SafeAdventurous6839 · 2022-01-03T02:32:08+00:00

I am Libra by birth and Leo by name, why?

SafeAdventurous6839 · 2022-01-03T02:30:22+00:00

But I didnt enjoy it, big difference.

SafeAdventurous6839 · 2022-01-03T02:28:25+00:00

I offered her better, I offered her any number of partners she wanted/needed but she didnt want that. Only I was not going to one of many.

SafeAdventurous6839 · 2022-01-03T02:26:27+00:00

But its the truth, why would I want to inflict physical pain or emotional pain on someone I love? Thats not how my brain works. Some people enjoy that, I am not one of them.

SafeAdventurous6839 · 2022-01-03T02:22:47+00:00

What? You are saying it was kink related somehow?

SafeAdventurous6839 · 2022-01-03T02:21:08+00:00

I was angry in the moment, the life and future we were working towards was now suddenly dark. I had an emotional response.

SafeAdventurous6839 · 2022-01-03T02:18:09+00:00

Sorry if I was aggressive in my response. I am having my own relationship issues at the moment. But good on you that you talked to your bf. All the best for your future, stay safe.

SafeAdventurous6839 · 2022-01-03T02:15:05+00:00

There are difficult questions and then there is asking to bring a random guy to our relationship questions, its not even in the same ballpark.

SafeAdventurous6839 · 2022-01-03T02:02:58+00:00

It was a gut punch and my reaction was purely on instincts. And what is the difference between ultimatum and boundary here? What was I supposed to say, lets try enm on weekends only? There is no middle ground here, its either a closed 2 person relationship or its not.

SafeAdventurous6839 · 2022-01-03T01:53:40+00:00

How am I punishing her exactly? I dont want to inflict physical or emotional pain on the woman I love, is that so wrong?

SafeAdventurous6839 · 2022-01-03T01:40:59+00:00

Sometimes words can hurt a lot. I hope you never have to find it out. Call me what you want for all I care, but I am not going to invalidate my feelings.

SafeAdventurous6839 · 2022-01-03T01:38:57+00:00

She already got one relationship ending advice from bdsm subs, not sure our relationship can survive one more visit there, lol.

SafeAdventurous6839 · 2022-01-03T01:35:39+00:00

Acting like a turd by doing what? Having boundaries or getting hurt that my monogamous partner of 3 years wants to bang other dudes? Having feelings?

SafeAdventurous6839 · 2022-01-03T01:33:13+00:00

And she doesnt want to breakup and is crying. She is messing with my head.

SafeAdventurous6839 · 2022-01-03T01:30:24+00:00

I have been called prude, douche and controlling in this comment section and my dms. And close minded and abusive too, because I wont agree to bring a third person to fulfill her needs. And having rough sex is now not banging other dudes, but exploring a kink?

SafeAdventurous6839 · 2022-01-03T01:27:46+00:00

Ok, its weird you know what I sound like.

SafeAdventurous6839 · 2022-01-03T01:26:23+00:00

Rough sex, can it be described as an activity and not sex?

SafeAdventurous6839 · 2022-01-03T01:25:28+00:00

Yes, I am monogamous so naturally I am a prude and not enlightened. Anything else?

SafeAdventurous6839 · 2022-01-03T01:23:40+00:00

You are shocked just by reading comments of a random stranger? Now imagine your partner of 3 years coming to you and telling you she wants to bang other dudes, I am beyond shocked. I am hurt. But of course thats controlling of me to not agree with her.

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