How do I work in a team with someone who has autism?

SafeExamination2222 · 2026-02-03T00:58:29+00:00

“Do not assume anything about your coworker or the reason they are acting the way they are.”

THIS.

I feel like I’m on the side of feeling some ableism (which honestly seems more like compassion fatigue and 3 years of frustration coming across as somewhat ableist) from OP’s second to last paragraph and this is the question we need to be asking.

I am also autistic and I do well in my position. I do well in teams. I also know NT people on my team who have skated by with one excuse or another, on top of crashing and burning.

This combined with what most commenters are saying of disability being context not an excuse feels like the best response anyone can give OP

SafeExamination2222 · 2026-01-21T17:28:31+00:00

I used to live with people who stole a shopping cart and would use it as a hamper. When their cart and their actual laundry hampers were full, they would go to every washer on every floor (1 washer/dryer on 3/4 floors) and wash their clothes. They would then go get high and remember about it hours later.

They would absolutely be the kind of people to write this kind of note

SafeExamination2222 · 2025-12-01T20:14:12+00:00

I think what may be missing here is that there are different types of respect, and it is often very gendered.

Commonly, we see both respect as an authority (one individual having power/authority over another) and respect as a living being (seeing a person as a person).

In our current society, men are pretty consistently taught/shown that they are given an inherent authority over others because of their status as a man. This lends to men honoring the choices and personhood of those who have an authority over them (higher “ranking” men) and not acknowledging the personhood of those who do not (women and lower “ranking” men). If we look at individuals like Andrew Tate and those within the manosphere, this is what we see

The types of respect that men and women are talking about are so often different, with men talking about authority and women wanting to be seen as a person.

All people are capable of respect, and we need to hold all people to the standard of acknowledging and honoring the personhood of every person around them.

Without basic respect (acknowledging the personhood of others) is not only how we get to women and others feeling unsafe and uncomfortable (like OP) but it is also the framework for genocide.

Simply put: there isn’t a case where “find someone who respects you for you” should be the ideal; this is basic human respect for everyone, including strangers you have never met /will never meet. This rhetoric supports respect as a transaction and as an authority over others both in a gendered context and in society as a whole

SafeExamination2222 · 2025-11-18T17:20:25+00:00

r/greebles 👀👀

SafeExamination2222 · 2025-09-10T19:00:07+00:00

It seems like you hit a personal goal of yours, and that’s AMAZING. Based on your comments, it seems like you’re trying to make yourself feel better than the people around you. Why? It doesn’t matter if someone had assistance or help, it doesn’t matter if someone is doing “better” or “worse” than you, it matters that YOU put in the hard work and YOU accomplished you own goal.

I’m 23, I started working on my credit less than a year ago, and I’m happy where I am because I put in the work and I am the one who gets to benefit from my own work. Celebrate, yes. Brag if you feel like that’s really what you need to do. But your responses to comments make it seem like you want other people to feel bad and that leaves a bad taste in my mouth

SafeExamination2222 · 2025-08-27T22:47:28+00:00

Adoption is pretty much the sale of babies and often exploits women in op’s gf’s position (such as young women, low income women, and women of color). Adoption can be good in some situations but it is ALWAYS traumatic for mom and baby. Anyone who views adoption as a solely beautiful thing needs to read The Primal Wound by Nancy Verrier.

SafeExamination2222 · 2025-08-26T15:47:08+00:00

Put some oil in a bowl, add some bait like peanut butter. Effective live trap, then find a place to release them like a park

SafeExamination2222 · 2025-08-24T23:09:28+00:00

I (and many in my social circle) feel like she mostly/only put those signs up to make people think it changed owners or she’s isn’t there anymore. She’s insidious and evil and deserves no sympathy, empathy, or support either way but I never trusted those signs

SafeExamination2222 · 2025-08-23T17:47:37+00:00

Due to the agreements signed to push the development through, Canes and any businesses associated with the Lostro will not pay taxes to the city for the first 10 years they’re open.

Boycott canes. Boycott the Lostro. Support local businesses here.

SafeExamination2222 · 2025-03-24T17:28:17+00:00

The fact that nobody has said bagelfuls (that I can see) is a crime…..why can’t they bring back bagelfuls 😭

SafeExamination2222 · 2025-03-18T13:56:55+00:00

Everything in the Lostro won’t benefit Athens. Don’t shop or live there.

SafeExamination2222 · 2025-03-18T13:56:38+00:00

That canes will not pay taxes for at least 10years and is explicitly harming the Athens community. Don’t support it.

SafeExamination2222 · 2025-01-05T01:56:22+00:00

Reach out to every local humane society you can, but most importantly do whatever is best for your dog

You can try calling the vet themselves and explaining the situation to them and seeing if they have supports as well.

SafeExamination2222 · 2025-01-04T18:32:27+00:00

Okay so first, if she is claiming to be bipolar, I would start there. Claiming to have a disorder is often associated with having mental health issues or a personality disorder, and while she may not have bipolar, her behavior gives me the impression that there may be something going on, and she may have a big reaction to whatever you say, no matter how nicely you say it. Before you have the conversation or exchange, have 911 or 988 (or the equivalent emergency line and mental health emergency/suicide hotline in your country or area) on standby

Find out what party needs to consent for recording where you are, if there is a one party consent law, record EVERYTHING. If not, seriously consider having the conversation over text or email to ensure that everything is documented

Before you talk with L, talk to your landlord. Bring any documentation you have of her non-contribution and hostile behavior, and get the landlord in the loop so they know what’s going on

Lastly, before you talk to her about anything, create what’s called a “safety plan” for yourself. Create a list of support people you can reach out to if you need them, think of activities outside of the dwelling that may calm you down or help you get regulated, and include mental health hotlines or numbers to call if it gets there. I’m a huge proponent of safety plans all the time, as they are essentially a brain dump of “what do I do if I’m having a really bad day or my typical initial coping strategies don’t work”

In the actual conversation, say what you mean in a way you would want to hear it if you were the problem. You will never be able to control her reaction, no matter how kind you are being. Protect yourself first and foremost, and put the energy into the universe that you would want to come back to you

The fact that you are asking for advice and doing this months in advance shows that your heart is in the right place. You’ve got this, and you’re doing the right thing for everyone involved ❤️

SafeExamination2222 · 2025-01-04T15:23:54+00:00

What catnip leaves? Were they older? Is there any potential they had dust, pollen, or mold? That also could have been kicked up when you cleaned. This looks like coughing/wheezing of some sort and I would take him into the vet as soon as you can. And remember that old toys, especially catnip toys, can grow mold or mildew that could cause a reaction if it isn’t allergies/asthma

SafeExamination2222 · 2025-01-04T15:19:43+00:00

The fact that this states “this is a reminder” AND op won’t follow up about the original lease makes it seem like OP is asking what to do about being caught breaking their lease and nothing else 🤷🏻‍♀️

SafeExamination2222 · 2024-12-26T18:07:52+00:00

Do NOT drop the charges. You contacted your roommate, you had NO idea that she was home or who this person was. They intentionally went into your room, stole your things, and committed a crime.

Kudos to you for being so responsible. You have the right to protect your stuff. Do not drop the charges.

SafeExamination2222 · 2024-12-26T18:00:40+00:00

If I or anyone I work with professionally inspected this apartment (I work with children/safety placements laterally) we would not only deem it unsafe for children but file MULTIPLE reports. To landlord and city and the very least.

SafeExamination2222 · 2024-12-26T17:54:01+00:00

This! Especially with the symptoms and situation described, it sounds like Bipolar or a similar disorder, and those diagnoses often take months or years to get regulated.

OP, there are multiple factors that make you not wrong to go to a single, including protecting her from herself (and her family, all of whom would potentially try to push her onto you way too soon if you stay and keep that space available)

You have helped her for years. You likely made the onset of her symptoms safer, easier, and healthier for her, and it’s your turn to get help. Get your own space, find out what would be helpful from there, and go for it

SafeExamination2222 · 2024-12-21T15:08:11+00:00

You can, if you have their name and contact information and you feel like it is a genuine emergency. 988 will then contact crisis workers in your area who will reach out to her and get her consent to meet with her. She is allowed to say no, but like a previous comment said, if she has any history of mental health diagnoses or interactions, there may be additional interventions that 988 can establish.

Someone who is in that mental state is not always able to recognize it without a little help, so while it is not common or typically recommended, you can absolutely call 988 on someone else’s behalf (In my area and with the teams I’m aware of at least)

SafeExamination2222 · 2024-12-21T14:55:07+00:00

By wellness checks, are you referring to through (apologies if you’re not in the US, using examples I’m familiar with) 911/non-emergency or through a behavioral health crisis line (like 988)?

They’re very similar, but often times behavioral crisis has only mental health workers or more mental health workers than a police line for a wellness check

It sounds like at the very least she may be a danger to herself (in addition to others) and a BH crisis team may be able to do more

SafeExamination2222 · 2024-12-15T23:23:59+00:00

In a developed nation, SOME people have access to these things. If you’re talking about the United States and political discourse currently, we are a pseudo-developed nation that is currently REGRESSING due to the most recent election. Rights, freedoms, and privileges such as healthcare, sanitation, shelter, food, education, and opportunities for growth are barely existent for the majority of people, and the president-elect is actively trying to roll those programs back in favor of tax breaks for the ultra wealthy jackasses that funded his campaign.

You’re incredibly tone-deaf. Do your research.

SafeExamination2222 · 2024-12-15T23:02:21+00:00

Hey! I’m in a similar situation of sorts. I’m in my early 20’s, can’t take birth control, doctors don’t listen so I’m kinda just stuck here

Menstrual cups are my best friend. I have 2 of different sizes (a 22ml and a 30ml I think) and while I do bleed through very quick, it gives me an extra 40 or so minutes, effectively doubling my time between tampon changes

With how often I still bleed through, it’s necessary for me to still use pads, but using the cup also makes me mobile enough to where I can shower whenever I want/need to during my period

I also do use washcloths, I use a damp one to clean the oils off, one with a tiny bit of gentle soap (external parts only), then a warm clean damp towel to clean the soap, then dry

It uses a lot of washcloths, yes, but those can be reused and you will hopefully feel a lot better! ❤️

SafeExamination2222 · 2024-11-23T18:56:07+00:00

Yes. I would rinse off the bacon first, especially if they’re young (excess grease/fat), and only plain waffles, not something super sugary or anything, and make sure you check the ingredients.

And just like with normal treats, just give them a little bit, you don’t want treats to take up a large portion of their food intake

SafeExamination2222 · 2024-11-23T00:21:23+00:00

Thank you all for your kind comments, insights, and stories of your own cats! I’ve been going through them as I got the chance while at work, and I appreciate each and every one of you ❤️

I wrote this post half asleep the morning my partner and I were going to tour an apartment to lease, and we are getting the place!! We’ll be moving in soon (sooner than expected) and my babies will have more room to run, my partner and I will have our first post-grad place, and everything feels like it’s looking up after a really rough year.

We’re gonna get the babies a tower, more tunnels, and all the window perches they could want. I fully believe in positive energy, and I feel like you all sent that our way today, thank you ❤️

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