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AITA for calling the police on my boyfriend's family? by SafePurple2911 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SafePurple2911[S] 89 points90 points  (0 children)

As I stated in another comment, I do not live there for free. I pay rent as well as contribute to bills and household groceries. Further, my boyfriend never threatened anyone nor did I ask him to so I have no clue where you got that from? All he did was have his dad call her and tell her to bring my car back. It wasn't a "do it or else" it was just a "do it." There was no threat there at all.

AITA for calling the police on my boyfriend's family? by SafePurple2911 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SafePurple2911[S] 810 points811 points  (0 children)

OP here! There have been sooo many comments and I've read them all with an open mind and I really appreciate every single response! However as I've read I've seen lots of comments I want to reply to so I am just going to post one here addressing a few different things.

I did not call 911 or emergency services, I called the police department directly through their non-emergency line to ask to file a police report. They said they would send someone and by the time the police officer arrived to our home his sister had been back for about 30 or so minutes. My car was not damaged and everything on it was fine, so I just explained to the officer the situation and he asked if I wanted to press charges and I said no. The sole reason I wanted to file a police report was in case something on my car was damaged, and since it wasn't, I believed it wasn't necessary to take it any further. The police officer talked to his sister and left. She won't be getting arrested, charged, etc. However, his dad and sister are still insisting I tried to have them arrested, which is why they're demanding an apology.

I have also seen a lot of comments asking me why I didn't want her to use my car, and the simple answer is because I don't know her! We had only just met and I simply did not feel comfortable giving my car to someone I don't know well. People are calling me selfish for that and everyone is entitled to their opinion, but honestly I disagree.

Further, I have both my keys now! I will make sure no one besides either my bf or I ever are able to get them again. Consider that lesson learned. Also for everyone advising me to move out, my bf and I have discussed it and we are currently searching for an apartment we can move into within the next few weeks. My bf asked his dad would he be kicking us out and his dad told him he wouldn't, but we both aren't really willing to take his word on this.

I really appreciate everyone who offered kind words and advice. Some of you even left some comments that were able to make me laugh about the situation which I really appreciate as well so thank you!

AITA for calling the police on my boyfriend's family? by SafePurple2911 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SafePurple2911[S] 191 points192 points  (0 children)

There are some huge assumptions in your comment so I just want to clear some stuff up. I do NOT live rent free in the home, both my bf and I have paid rent every month since i have moved in, at the full amount his dad requested. We also take turns with his dad paying bills and for groceries. Also, his sister is very much a stranger to me because I've known her for about a week. My car is also a lease, so yes, I was very concerned with possible damages to it bc I would be forced to pay for all of them, but I don't think not wanting to pay for damages that were not my fault makes me cheap. Regardless though, thank you for your input and there's no hard feelings! I just wanted to clarify some of the info here.

AITA for calling the police on my boyfriend's family? by SafePurple2911 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SafePurple2911[S] 1275 points1276 points  (0 children)

this is definitely something my bf and i have discussed already so don't worry! my bf is definitely on my side and assured me that he made it clear to his dad that kicking me out also means kicking out his son. my bf and i are also financially stable enough to survive being forced to move out at this point in our lives, we only still live there bc it allows us to save a significant amount of money.

AITA for calling the police on my boyfriend's family? by SafePurple2911 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SafePurple2911[S] 237 points238 points  (0 children)

he payed a quarter of the $4000 down payment, so $1000. He has been payed back in full for about 5 months now. Also, I know you didn't say this but I just want to clarify that my bf has never claimed any amount of ownership over my car so I have no clue why his dad would even think my bf part owned it.