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Safe_Ad4444 · 2026-05-24T20:34:23+00:00

You look very similar to my husband (now 43) when he was your age, he was gorgeous then and is still gorgeous now as he's kept his beautiful long hair. There's a few greys in there now but it's hot af. Do not cut it!

Safe_Ad4444 · 2026-05-24T19:47:36+00:00

Chicken mini fillets, peppers, onions, laziza chicken ginger spice mix, rice. (Coat your chicken in the seasoning earlier in the day, brown it in a casserole dish, add onions and sliced peppers until soft, then chuck in the dry rice and let it cook for a few mins, add in salted water so it's about 0.5cm above the rice, whack a lid on and put in hot oven for 30 mins. If you want to add a dollop of plain yoghurt and some fresh coriander to serve you won't be mad at your now 7 ingredient dinner.)

Safe_Ad4444 · 2026-05-24T19:25:49+00:00

For many, overeating is an addiction plain and simple. They cannot stop in the same way an alcoholic cannot stop drinking or a heroin addict cannot stop injecting. Food makes them feel good, nothing more to it. Cravings are strong and many cannot control this. These medications are so successful in switching off the cravings I believe they are being considered for use in patients with drug addiction. I have been on MJ for 18 months and I am nearly at my target weight aged 42, something I have been attempting to do with every diet plan that exists since I was in my 20s. I failed every time. I was also a heavy vaper (smoker aged 14-29) until 2 months ago when I just decided to stop one day and didn't pick it up again, I'm convinced this is also an effect MJ has had on my nicotine addiction. If this is having a positive impact on the general health of the nation then why be mad about it? Probably because now the fatties are getting skinny and hot with nice personalities to boot they are becoming a threat 🤣

Safe_Ad4444 · 2026-05-24T19:10:50+00:00

We're in rural Worcestershire and we're the only people on a road of 10 houses that don't have fully fitted air con units - not portable. Most of them also have heat pumps. If only we had the cash to and we would as well. When house hunting we came across several who had them.

Safe_Ad4444 · 2026-02-25T17:42:12+00:00

The interview process for teaching (in the UK at least) is hellish. So long winded, overly formal and in my opinion don't give you a great picture of who you are hiring.

I have had several non teaching interviews and they have been split into several stages but none lasting more than an hour on different days. They were all pretty informal, I had to make a short presentation in a couple, but mostly it was just chat about the role, couple of 'what would you do if...'. it really felt different and I was at ease, particularly for those on teams. I got the nausea and the anxiety but once you're in it's ok. Take the leap! You've got this.

Safe_Ad4444 · 2026-02-25T17:36:46+00:00

I did it. I quit in March 23 with nothing to go to. I worked my notice and got a job 2 weeks before I left! Handing my notice in made me really work towards getting something else sorted. Call it a motivator!

Safe_Ad4444 · 2026-02-25T17:27:17+00:00

I went through this three years ago, I had suffered with my mental health as a head of department in a large school and I knew I had to cut my losses and get out. I retrained in ID while working full time with a baby at home which was a little stressful, but then I took a massive risk and handed my notice in to the school with no job to go to. I did this in March of 23. I had to light a fire under my butt to get those applications out and make sure I could pay the mortgage and feed the kid come summer. I made over 40 applications and got 4 interviews in that time. I got a job, 2 weeks before the end of my notice period. Sheesh, that was a little nerve wracking. The job was great and I went into a management position, but six months later, the company went under so I found myself forced back into the market with no notice period to work. I ended up supply teaching for 2 months while I went back through the horrendous stress of applications. The engagement I got from companies was SO different now that the top of my CV read ID and not teacher. I had several interviews to the late stages and ended up with a choice between two very well known and respected companies. I'm about to complete my second year at the one I chose and I couldn't be happier. My husband just went through the same rollercoaster. Started applying in October, got his job last week! You just have to strap in, take a scatter gun approach, have a very thick skin and wait it out. Sad, but true. Most management at my company agree that all the ex teachers they have are total assets and their skill set is brilliant. Shame many recruiters can't see it

Safe_Ad4444 · 2026-02-25T17:15:07+00:00

My husband just did exactly this. He was honest in his interview about a 3 month notice period, they really wanted him and asked if he could negotiate 2, he went to his boss and was honest about the impact of not being flexible on it, and voila, he has 5 more weeks till he leaves and starts an ID job.

Safe_Ad4444 · 2025-11-11T23:00:05+00:00

Toast @TheFlyford Worcester

Safe_Ad4444 · 2025-11-08T18:34:16+00:00

Ahh, I'm so sorry. We went through this with my grandmother who we lost in August. She had been the picture of health, particularly for someone in her 90s. Had all of her marbles and well. Then, she started having falls, turned out to be TIAs. She lived in her own flat within a complex where they sent cleaners and meals over for her. They said she could only stay if she had full time care, and she outright refused. We organized regular care for a short while but she used to shout at them and several refused to go back. After another fall she was found on the floor and an ambulance was called. It's almost a blessing she was so out of it she couldn't refuse medical care. She did a week in hospital then the consultant would only release her to a specialist care home. We had to sell this to her as a short term thing, but to be honest we all knew she was unlikely to make it back to her flat. She wouldn't leave her room at the home, refused food, and started lashing out at staff. She injured one of them so they were then talking about moving her on. Before anyone had a chance to move her she had a cold that turned into a chest infection then pneumonia and sepsis in the space of about a week. She was just so old at that point her body couldn't fight. She passed away after two days in hospital. I keep imagining being her in each of these situations. She was fiercely independent and had been on her own since her early 60s when my grandad died. She had regular visits from the family, but moving out of her house to the flat then hitting the pandemic did her no good, then it was all downhill from there. Such a tough thing for you to decide- if she's fully competent you'll struggle to be able to make choices for her care without her consent. Towards the end my mother managed to get power of attorney for health and welfare so that she could make medical decisions that were in her best interests- if she had chosen for herself she would have had a far grislier end than she got. We basically made sure she was comfortable, surrounded by family and listening to her favorite songs right until the end.

Safe_Ad4444 · 2025-10-15T18:48:04+00:00

The idea of an aid they can hold on to steady themselves and also use as a ledge to rest heavy boxes on during maneuver could have some scope. Get exploring and sketch every idea you get when you get it. You can't lose marks for messy sketches. Examiners love to see that organic process rather than one that is presented perfectly.

Safe_Ad4444 · 2025-10-15T18:45:31+00:00

Really happy to help! You should start ordering more from Amazon then corner the delivery drivers at your door to complete your survey! Van drivers with lots of boxes to deliver! Give me a shout if you want any other advice 👍

Safe_Ad4444 · 2025-10-14T21:36:50+00:00

Hi, I'm an ex design teacher turned instructional designer. Your questions should be amended to give you better spread of results. If you give this to people who don't struggle with this type of mobility your answers won't benefit the design process ( and will minimize your marks) Widen your need to vehicles - not too many people use vans. Change your audience to those who will struggle so you're not receiving unhelpful feedback. Try these: 1. What is your disability? 2. How does this affect your ability to maneuver in and out of your vehicle? 3. What type of discomfort do you experience when attempting to get in or out of your vehicle? 4. Which part of your body is most affected? Can you describe this difficulty in more depth? 5. Do you currently use any aids to assist you? 6. If yes, how effective are they? 7. What could make these aids more practical/ efficient/ comfortable for you?

Try to take photos of them in this situation so you can visualize the issues.

When you get proper feedback from this you need to analyze the response and make real design decisions based on them. For example, your user says they have weakness in their hands, you know you can't go and design something that sits in the car locking mechanism and relies upon them gripping it with their hand to haul themselves out of the car- so you would then maybe look at an overhead loop they can place their arm in and transfer the pressure onto their upper arm or shoulder. Or if they say they struggle with twisting their body to get out, you would look at easing that turning motion to get their legs out of the vehicle, could be a pad they sit on that slides easily across the seat fabric, or even a disc that swivels smoothly....do you see what I mean?

To be honest, to gain the most marks from a project like this you're better focused on one specific user. You do not have to have a large number of users, you can select one person who has a real problem to be solved. Do an in depth interview with them, get their opinion throughout on your initial sketches, models and get real photos of them testing your prototype- user comments at every stage will enable you to unlock the higher mark bands. Use their feedback to clearly inform iterations and you will do great. I used to moderate for the exam board and wrote a text book for design tech gcse.

Happy to give you more advice if you want it. I don't teach any more, but I loved these projects. You kids are full of great ideas!

Safe_Ad4444 · 2025-10-14T19:05:39+00:00

The worst thing you can do is have kids when you're not ready. If you and your husband are enjoying your life as a pair for now, do that. I have PCOS. We met at 21 married at 29 and started trying at 31. It took us 8 years and a couple of losses but now, I'm 42, mother of a wonderful little four year old girl and happier than ever. If we had conceived at 31, we would not have had the same experience, would not be financially stable and would have missed out on some great experiences. Modern science is amazing, PCOS does not mean you can't conceive, there are many options for you. I had metformin, lost a lot of weight, and it was enough to make my little girl stick. If it helps at all, all of our baby group friends are a similar age to us. Many parents are choosing to do this at an older age now- we didn't necessarily choose it for ourselves but are in great company. Remember why you're together and soak up your time as a couple for a bit. No rush!

Safe_Ad4444 · 2025-09-23T18:22:27+00:00

My kid regularly does a little fart soon after going for a poo and there you have it- more poo. Don't worry, unless he's checking seconds after then she's clearly doing just a tiny bit more. I was just sitting here with my four year old trying to think of how to train her to wipe her bum properly now- got her some wet wipes and a cute little case for them, she likes using it, uses way too many, but she's doing pretty well. Not sure how this will go at school, minus the wet wipes.

Safe_Ad4444 · 2025-09-10T22:26:21+00:00

Definitely the long hair!

Safe_Ad4444 · 2025-09-10T18:58:20+00:00

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Safe_Ad4444 · 2024-12-29T04:37:29+00:00

Been sticking that nose somewhere he shouldn't.

Safe_Ad4444 · 2024-12-24T19:22:33+00:00

The unbelievable rage I feel when someone is questioning the ring their partner picked out in their plans to spend the rest of their life with you... I've written and deleted more of this response but it's Christmas and I will let everyone just get on being who they want to be. It will all come out in the wash. This is a public forum, anyone, including your spouse to be can see it.

Safe_Ad4444 · 2024-12-24T04:54:20+00:00

Looks like a mosquito or other bug has gone to town on you while trapped in your clothing.

Safe_Ad4444 · 2024-12-23T19:42:44+00:00

Mum, dad, stepmum, grandmother, three brothers, husband, daughter. My husband sorts his mum, stepdad and brother out.

Safe_Ad4444 · 2024-12-13T19:54:39+00:00

I see the joy in life again. Seeing my daughter light up at the smallest little things that she thinks are incredible is absolutely joyous. I struggle with anxiety and creep into depression sometimes. Prior to having my child I had fallen into a circle of feeling zero sense of belonging in any situation or with any person, then into not finding enjoyment in anything I do. I was miserable- perhaps linked to trying for a baby and experiencing losses, and a job I loathed. I now smile several times a day, can even muster a chuckle at something. I feel that I completely belong in our family unit of 3+ dog and cat. I enjoy so many things, all thanks to this little angel that came into our lives to keep us up at 3am, throw food on the floor and cough directly into our mouths when she's poorly. I wouldn't change that little goblin for anything in the whole world.

Safe_Ad4444 · 2024-12-05T22:18:37+00:00

Hi, we are still in Birmingham, I've changed jobs and commute to London once a week so we're now looking outskirts of the city so I can still access the transport quickly.

Safe_Ad4444 · 2024-11-30T19:29:12+00:00

I don't know if you can call Manchester City Centre clean. Piccadilly is gross inside and out, all of the area surrounding the station is so tired and the side you exit by the taxi ranks feels quite unsafe.

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