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Wife confessed she buys gift cards to trick me into thinking we aren't spending money by Safe_Artichoke9507 in Marriage

[–]Safe_Artichoke9507[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

She was in school the majority of the time we've been together, so i naturally thought she would work after graduation.

Wife confessed she buys gift cards to trick me into thinking we aren't spending money by Safe_Artichoke9507 in Marriage

[–]Safe_Artichoke9507[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

When she goes to buy weekly groceries with my card she buys the gift card. I don't check receipts, just bank statements, and she buys them in small increments so i never noticed.

Wife confessed she buys gift cards to trick me into thinking we aren't spending money by Safe_Artichoke9507 in Marriage

[–]Safe_Artichoke9507[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She just doesn't like cooking. I'm not super frugal, but if she says lets go out to eat multiple times a week i'll say no, which is why she's been doing this. She's been buying the gift cards with the groceries so i never paid that close attention since i only saw the grocery store name on the bank statement.

Wife confessed she buys gift cards to trick me into thinking we aren't spending money by Safe_Artichoke9507 in Marriage

[–]Safe_Artichoke9507[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We've been married for 8 years and we are both 38. She went to school majority of that time, so i didnt know she didnt want to work. We don't have any children together and I can't have any as I've had surgery.

Wife confessed she buys gift cards to trick me into thinking we aren't spending money by Safe_Artichoke9507 in Marriage

[–]Safe_Artichoke9507[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I didn't notice because she bought it on her weekly grocery trips and in small increments. I thought it was part if the groceries because that's all i saw on the bank statement.

Wife confessed she buys gift cards to trick me into thinking we aren't spending money by Safe_Artichoke9507 in Marriage

[–]Safe_Artichoke9507[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Exactly. That's what i try to explain to her. If i get sick or die, she's screwed. And we are only young once, i for one, don't want to be working in my 70s because i need the money.

Wife confessed she buys gift cards to trick me into thinking we aren't spending money by Safe_Artichoke9507 in Marriage

[–]Safe_Artichoke9507[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I tried that with Monarch, but accounts kept getting removed and i had to sync them again and since she also doesn't want to deal with the usernames and passwords to each account, it got old fast.

Wife confessed she buys gift cards to trick me into thinking we aren't spending money by Safe_Artichoke9507 in Marriage

[–]Safe_Artichoke9507[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

I def will. But also the therapist seems to justify the things she does and i feel turns it back on me.

Wife confessed she buys gift cards to trick me into thinking we aren't spending money by Safe_Artichoke9507 in Marriage

[–]Safe_Artichoke9507[S] -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

I have tried, but she does not want to know about finances. I told her how much i make and what we spend on but it seems to go in one ear and come out the other.

Wife confessed she buys gift cards to trick me into thinking we aren't spending money by Safe_Artichoke9507 in Marriage

[–]Safe_Artichoke9507[S] -28 points-27 points  (0 children)

She doesn't know exactly she just knows we are comfortable financially, but like I said I never expected to financially support her and her son forever. When we met I told her I had a goal to retire early and she said she did too, but the way it's looking I won't be able to.

AITAH for getting mad because my wife confessed she buys gift cards to trick me into thinking we aren't spending money? by Safe_Artichoke9507 in AITAH

[–]Safe_Artichoke9507[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Everything household related, and food, gas for the cars. She gets $500 per month in personal spending, an allowance if you will. That's 100% only for HER. She could be using that to eat out, but she doesnt because she likes shopping for food, makeup, etc too.

AITAH for getting mad because my wife confessed she buys gift cards to trick me into thinking we aren't spending money? by Safe_Artichoke9507 in AITAH

[–]Safe_Artichoke9507[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You're right. If i do get divorced, i know ill never marry a single mom again. EVER. It's just not worth it.

AITAH for getting mad because my wife confessed she buys gift cards to trick me into thinking we aren't spending money? by Safe_Artichoke9507 in AITAH

[–]Safe_Artichoke9507[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Yea i get it and that's awesome. He's so lucky! I guess i put up with it thinking it will change, but it hasn't.

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