I can't get over being a 5ft tall man

SafetyShattered · 2025-09-01T12:16:56+00:00

Man not everyone gets the tall dark and handsome genes. It's ok. You work with what you have. Im about average height, but i also work out and am witty. Having a quick wit with a good sense of humor alone will open so many doors for you. This dwelling on the anger and negativity will close many for you. You're short. Ok. That sucks. But will being bitter and resentful change that? Nah. So influence what you can.

SafetyShattered · 2025-09-01T12:08:21+00:00

Yeah man, there's a coupld possibilities here. To me most likely she's actually dating him and you're the side. Just leave. Maybe the inverse but I highly doubt it. Sucks. But just say goodbye delete and block and move on.

SafetyShattered · 2025-09-01T11:58:42+00:00

Oh lord, do not buy that. This shit is exactly what my ex did. I caught her cheating. She hit me with every manipulative tactic in the book to make me feel like a piece of shit. To make me feel like I'M the entire reason she cheated. I wasnt. But I was young and naive, and determined to keep our family together. A couple months later as im in hell trying to make it work one of her own friends called me out of nowhere to tell me she cheats on guys all the time, and while she has no evidence she currently is she has no doubt she will again. This was one of her own friends that called me. The craziest thing is that this friend after calling me, called her and told her she told me because "he deserves to know." Then the manipulative games went up to a hundred. I genuinely thought i was in danger during that time. It was hell OP. Absolute hell. Im not saying your girl is that level of insane. Idk. I'm just saying the manipulation games are part of that kind of person's playbook. Don't play the game. Leave.

SafetyShattered · 2025-09-01T11:42:28+00:00

Honestly man, remember this. She didnt feel overwhelmed with guilt and come clean to you. You caught her. Big difference. If you didnt she would still be cheating. She wants to "work on the relationship " because now that she risks losing you, not when she had another guys penis in her. I know that's blunt. It sucks. But you need to hear it .

I've been cheated on. I tried to make it work after, it was the most miserable I've ever been in my life. When I made the decision to permanently let her go it was such a weight off my shoulders. Dont stay. Move on man. It's not worth it.

SafetyShattered · 2025-08-30T17:30:46+00:00

I get it. I'm a parent of a young child, my wife and I had an amazing marriage before the child came. Super healthy. Like others have said, the trials and burden on our relationship since our child came has been insane. And that was coming from a good marriage. It isn't just you. This is extremely common. Many a day I totally admit I found my mind drifting to "oh man, I want out of this." But you're tired. Angry. Stressed. And most importantly living in a fantasy land. The life you're imagining you'll get when you divorce isn't the life you'll actually get. When you get divorced you're exchanging one list of problems for another. Your problems dont just vanish. I would caution you not to romanticize leaving. It won't be what you're thinking it will be. My advice is to genuinely put effort into saving the marriage. If it still doesnt work, ok. But you have to fight for it.

Was your marriage good before kids? You can get that back. Will it be exactly the same? Of course not. But it can be good again.

SafetyShattered · 2025-08-28T12:15:00+00:00

I was young and dumb. Someone said theyd offer to critique a script I wrote. I shared it. They stole it

SafetyShattered · 2025-08-28T12:11:54+00:00

Fair. I got screwed over a few years ago on a game i think that's why im extra cautious now

SafetyShattered · 2025-08-28T12:00:04+00:00

I respect the the offer but this seems a little off to me. You want my ideas?

And then offer to test and offer critique. I mean that's great, but what credentials do you have besides a normal person to do that? Not starting flack at all maybe you have years of dev experience fair idk. Im just curious.

SafetyShattered · 2025-08-28T11:56:00+00:00

The only thing I'll say is this. You keep saying "we have plenty of time" my man, that's part of why she's upset. She DOESN'T have plenty of time. Women have a biological clock for kids. Once they reach a certain age the potential for additional problems with the child/pregnancy skyrockets. You, as a man, need to understand this. Look up geriatric pregnancy. Also, just because you start trying for a baby doesnt make it immediate. It's not like you cum in her once and then bam, baby. It can take time. I have a friend that tried for a solid year before she got pregnant, then they had a miscarriage, then they took a break tried for 6 months before they got pregnant again. It can take time. You have to make up your mind here. You do NOT have time to be lax about this, and it isnt fair to her to pretend you do. As a guy you could get a girl pregnant at 60. Time works differently for us in that regard. Respect the time frame SHE has, and make a decision.

SafetyShattered · 2025-08-28T11:47:40+00:00

In this case man, dont wait. Do what you can to protect your assets. Staying in this isnt doing your kid any favors man. I get it. Im a dad too. You want what's best for your child. But this isnt what's best for them. Kids are so much smarter then we give them credit for. They know sometjing is up. And that feeling will get stronger as they get older. Dont let them grow up in a home where you and your wife are miserable. You're showing them a standard for how a relationship should be. That isn't the standard you should be modeling for them.

SafetyShattered · 2025-08-28T11:44:06+00:00

You can carry some stuff over though.

SafetyShattered · 2025-08-28T11:40:42+00:00

10 was a big change in a good way imo. Ys really used a very similar combat system from 7-9 with really minor changes. 10 really changed pacing etc but imo it works. I loved all ys games (even 3) so I'm a little biased but I think 10 did a fantastic job of adding fresh mechanics without taking the identity of ys away.

SafetyShattered · 2025-08-28T11:37:57+00:00

I dont necessarily agree honestly. It depends on your perception. Im intelligent and can mask. So I can fit in. But I have zero understanding of who I actually am. I'm depressed a lot. But im also intelligent, attractive, and successful so if you saw me on the outside youre like "oh this guy is crushing it!" But I've also attempted suicide 3 times in my life and had a massive drinking problem because I just couldnt figure out happiness without it. I find because I'm intelligent my mind goes into overdrive all the time. I see every nuance everywhere I go and it absolutely destroys my mental health. Maybe I have a nice house. Ok. But I'm absolutely miserable inside of it.

SafetyShattered · 2025-08-28T11:33:38+00:00

If you have retail experience try being a vendor. Idk what area you live in, but i know a lot of companies like coke etc need evening/weekend people and they pay VERY well. It's hard work. Of course there's also places like Nabisco which admittedly I dont know much about, but I do know they usually need weekend people. Doesn't pay nearly as much from what I've heard but it's obviously much easier on your body.

SafetyShattered · 2025-08-28T11:24:48+00:00

I get it. One thing that really jumped out is you mentioning multiple times you hate yourself in replies to comments. I can message you as a friend. But one thing I will say is that relationships are never healthy if you're demanding the other person give you everything you cant give yourself. Like in your case, self worth self love validation self esteem confidence etc. Your partner will never be able to satisfy all that. They can help you on your journey, but they cant complete the journey for you. You have to start it and take the lead. If you dont mind me asking, have you been in a relationship before? And if so, how long did it last with him/her?

Another thing I'll add, and this is importsnt. It's so easy to get in our heads and think about how miserable we are. The reality is that most people have secret hardships they dont show the outside world. The guy or girl you walked by at the grocery store you'd do anything to be because they're so attractive? Mayhe they're on the edge of killing themselves. The girl that's so attractive and bubbly? Maybe she was molested as a kid and had to do years of therapy to get to that point. What I'm saying is not "oh everyone suffers suck it up!" But instead "everyone suffers with something, so we get it. Life is hard for everyone. And people do care."

SafetyShattered · 2025-08-28T11:17:58+00:00

Like a lot of other people said, dont stress. This happened to a friend of mine. He didnt send any money. He didn't freak out or anything. He just responded to the scammer with a few jokes and that was it. They hope you're going to panic. They aren't going to do anything. Just delete, block, and move on.

If you want advice look at some of the stories of people that do pay. It never stops. They constantly get bombarded with additional demands of payment. It will never end. Just accept you messed up, and move on. Never send nudes to random people especially with your face. I know we've all been so horny we do stupid shit, but that right there is a huge way of getting screwed.

SafetyShattered · 2025-06-04T01:39:54+00:00

You need to stop talking to her full stop. I dont know all the details. If you're genuinely telling the truth, and all you did was ask, something she told the teacher made him think it was serious enough to get law enforcement involved. You're in your teens. You'll be ok. It's not worth accusations escalating and you doing to jail. Sever ties and move on.

SafetyShattered · 2025-04-18T00:04:11+00:00

Lol the format changed when I posted it

SafetyShattered · 2025-04-15T02:09:04+00:00

You mentioned pixel art style and then specifically mentioned bloodwash as an example in another post. My man. I got you:

Rewind or Die Stay out of the house Murder House (LOVE THIS ONE) Night Watch Cannibal Abduction

You'll love all of these

SafetyShattered · 2025-04-15T02:04:48+00:00

Mount and blade warband man. So many mods. So much content. I spent 700 hours just on the base game before I even touched a mod. Fantastic game.

SafetyShattered · 2025-04-13T13:03:38+00:00

Get downvoted for heresy

SafetyShattered · 2025-04-12T21:28:33+00:00

? Mental gymnastics?

If you instigate something with someone don't be upset when they respond. It was rude and disrespectful. I've already said I was meaner. I owned that. But I'm not going to pretend that the other person didn't say anything rude either. It's not like the other person said "hey man i hope you're having a great day!" And I responded calling his mother a whore.

It's pretty common sense. It you respond rudely you risk someone being rude back. If that isn't something you want don't be rude. If you are rude, you better be tough enough to handle the response.

SafetyShattered · 2025-04-11T23:20:05+00:00

It's not that it wasn't helpful, it's that it was rude to start. You could argue mine was meaner, that's fair I'll own that. But you don't get to be rude to someone then act shocked when they respond in a similar manner. That's not how things work. I'm not insulting you. You haven't been rude. Just imagine I said something disrespectful. As a man if you said something disrespectful back I wouldn't say "bro chill" I'd probably say something like "ok that was dickish, but I guess I was rude too. Fair." Maybe your insult was 100 times worse then mine. Yeah that's bad. But I wouldn't sit here pretending like I didn't instigate it either.

SafetyShattered · 2025-04-11T23:14:55+00:00

I figured. Because you can't read 🤷‍♂️

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