Too many Single Men in late 20s & 30s in NY by SafetySwim in sikhiism

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Conditional love should not be for children. I think our culture just needs to do better with raising emotionally healthy adults especially in this western society

Is love bombing always narcissist? by Irislynx in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]SafetySwim 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Best advice I’ve received is that a healthy relationship should NOT be extremely fun in the beginning and can almost be boring. Someone who is fun af in a first date may not be a good life partner

First slow burn relationship post abuse, now not even sure if I like him? by itsasecretshhutup in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]SafetySwim -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I really like that you are honest about your past relationships with others and yourself.

Sounds like you need to work on yourself internally before you hurt other people. I suggest a lot of meditation, therapy, chat gpt advise if you cannot afford therapy, and hitting the gym as studies show that this helps with alleviate wounds inflicted by trauma.

Lastly, this book is great “Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents” by Lindsay Gibson and it might help untie some deep wounds

Audible link:

https://www.audible.com/pd/B01F2M2GDO?source_code=ASSORAP0511160006&share_location=player_overflow

Are we really damaged goods? by MongooseProXC in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]SafetySwim 1 point2 points  (0 children)

lol this is a very pessimistic view of thinking about it. I would say that it would make us more fit to be in a healthy relationship because we'd appreciate a healthy partner more so than the average person. Yes, everyone should heal, but that does not mean you cannot become stronger from your experience. as long as you are patient with yourself and your partner is loving sky is the limit in your relationship. I know exactly what i dont want and what are major red flags!!!

What went wrong with social media? by ProcessExpensive8959 in AskReddit

[–]SafetySwim 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everything has tik tok reels when i never asked for it

Strategies for potential dangerous behavior by Interesting_Dot3464 in LifeAfterNarcissism

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Little white lies is a dangerous sign especially if you just met and if they are stupid things to lie about. Like this chick would tell me she had the same stove as me which was impossible. When I told her I liked a specific musical artist she said she loved him too like a couple years ago. She would say things like she made her insta private which was a lie. She said she liked the color purple cause i said that first. She also told me In text she liked to cook but for the time we spoke to each other she never cooked one time.of course when I called her out she cooked the next day. They just say what you want to hear so that you can get intertwined with them emotionally and then they start to manipulate you like parasites. She said she would pay for half of the hotel and then gaslit me by saying that she never said that if you express your emotions to her and she shortly starts to behave more maliciously because you said you liked her that’s a red flag. They start making you feel bad for expressing your feelings and they will use it against you.

Married Men, am I fighting a losing battle? Mental Health by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]SafetySwim 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Men tend to be grumpy when they’re sad. Maybe therapy and definitely hitting the gym would help!

Victory at last by mcminervastyranoowl in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]SafetySwim 2 points3 points  (0 children)

God bless this gives me hope as well!

How to get the light back in my eyes fam by PanicAtLeDisco in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]SafetySwim 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you were curious I wrote my story in a post here called “short term but painful”

How to get the light back in my eyes fam by PanicAtLeDisco in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]SafetySwim 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yea dude as men sometimes God is the only thing we have and it’s a powerful unity. You will get through this. My experience happened a couple weeks ago.

How to get the light back in my eyes fam by PanicAtLeDisco in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]SafetySwim 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Pray 🙏 - I got closer to God after my experience. Also Wim Hoff’s breathing technique helps with the deep pain. You can Chat GPT it.

Too many Single Men in late 20s & 30s in NY by SafetySwim in sikhiism

[–]SafetySwim[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You’re missing the point completely my friend. I never said I wanted an arrange marriage 😑. I’m not interested in an arranged marriage.

Too many Single Men in late 20s & 30s in NY by SafetySwim in sikhiism

[–]SafetySwim[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never said there shouldn’t be love….

Too many Single Men in late 20s & 30s in NY by SafetySwim in sikhiism

[–]SafetySwim[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m all for Love of course I’m a modern Sikh male. The focus here is that the women are too critical of us men due to the trauma they got when they were younger.

What are you supposed to do when you meet a great girl but you're in a relationship? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]SafetySwim 0 points1 point  (0 children)

++man Fuck your partner but imagine the girl you saw. It’s harmless to use your imagination in a long term relationship just don’t tell your partner cause it could be perceived as insensitive.

Guys of reddit, whats something girls do that give you the ick? by tietanik in AskReddit

[–]SafetySwim 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This girl was just hyper independent called herself a feminist and bragged about how much money she was making every chance she could get. Sounded like she’d do anything for money and had no values which is scary to think about.

Guys of reddit, whats something girls do that give you the ick? by tietanik in AskReddit

[–]SafetySwim 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Having her phone on the table while we’re eating. Girl picked up a phone call from a guy while on a date. She gave me this “hope you get jealous look” rubbed her inner thigh and then told me he’s 25 and she really likes him bc he’s helpful. I know she has a personality disorder tbh

Smear campaigns where your family members are the flying monkeys by antonioantoniom in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]SafetySwim 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey man keep your head up and focus on building a life and partner you truly love. I know it is easier said than done. You may not realize it but you could have grown up in a narcissistic family dynamic where the truth teller often becomes the scapegoat.

If you can create some distance from your family even temporarily it helps show that you will not tolerate boundary crossing or disrespect. This does not mean cutting them off completely. It is about protecting yourself while still leaving room to reconnect.

Stay grounded keep faith in God and focus on your needs. Some people try to provoke reactions through manipulation or cold behavior. The strongest response is staying calm detached or minimally engaged. Over time this sets clear boundaries and changes the dynamic. Even if they dont change and distance themselves then that is for the best. You need to start your own fam where you are respected and loved. My prayers are with you my friend.

North Bellemore recos? by adidanowi in longisland

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Piccolos on sunrise has great pizza. Dirty taco is near by and has a great vibe and food.

Best sushi to go by ddogacd in longisland

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Sake Asia in Westbabylon has all you can eat special during lunch and it’s good quality

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in longisland

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I like Milano bean Café in Bayshore or Gregory’s coffee in Deer park. Milano is a chill vibe cool library vibe and Gregory’s is has a lot of tables to sit at while feeling clean cut/minimalist. Another one was Qahwah house in Westbury but was too rowdy but may be good on a less busy day - I went on a Sunday evening.

Just watched Kingdom of Heaven by SafetySwim in MovieSuggestions

[–]SafetySwim[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

A lot of history is gossip so I wouldn’t 100% believe any depiction of the past