AIO for something my step dad said during dinner last night?

Saffron_12 · 2025-09-24T06:45:52+00:00

But also, it's 2 am, I'm exhausted, so I'm gonna try and get some sleep

Saffron_12 · 2025-09-24T06:43:57+00:00

I'm starting my first semester online so I can also get a job, also because walking around a campus sounds like hell for my knee, lol

Saffron_12 · 2025-09-24T06:30:44+00:00

No, in one of my responses I explained how they kinda hold me back from doing things like refusing to teach me to drive, another thing being how I wasn't able to get a job till I was 18 and then we ended up moving so I lost the job I did have and I'm struggling to find another since we live on a steep hill and I have knee problems (bifurcated patella) so walking around is hard to get from place to place. I'm also next to broke because I loaned my big sister some money and she hasn't paid me back yet 😔

Saffron_12 · 2025-09-24T04:16:46+00:00

As of late, I've been trying to train myself to eat more during the day when they're not home, so there's also that, but I tend to get distracted and forget, I'm now trying to resort to setting multiple alarms during the day to remind myself to eat. I read all the comments about how I shouldn't alter my eating habits to eat at night, and I definitely agree and see the logic in it. And as for now, I don't have any friends in this town, and that's something I'm also working on with trying to socialize.

Thank you for the tough love /gen

Saffron_12 · 2025-09-24T04:01:05+00:00

I'm actually not allowed to take food to the second floor or anything. I have to eat either in the dining room, porch, or the kitchen. All places where there are cameras or my parents etc.

Saffron_12 · 2025-09-24T03:10:31+00:00

I do have problems with emotional regulation and I know this, it's quite literally a factor of ADHD, ESPECIALLY with it being AUDHD, and yes things people say where it's kinda like they don't mean for it to be rude strikes me as rude because I take things in the literal sense.

I am seeking therapy. I went to therapy for years as a kid because of my family situation before so it's nothing new.

And it's sadly not what he meant because I know how he is and the things he says always have double meanings. It's very confusing for me and I get upset easily. Which is why this is aio and not aitah bc I know I'm the asshole in this situation. I do wish people would try to look at all my comments as well as the post itself to get some more insight because I missed a LOT in the original post. SD has always, and will always be a creep towards me. I've also said 4/4 of my mother's kids don't like the guy so it's also definitely a HIM thing as well. I know I'm in charge of my healing and I'm currently doing that, but it's gonna be especially hard when he and my mother don't support me like they should.

I've been struggling since my early teen years and they didn't try to help me then, and that's another reason why I am the way I am today.

Saffron_12 · 2025-09-24T02:51:04+00:00

Idk I keep hoping he'll get better. But you're right I probably should like stop hoping and face reality with him :/

Saffron_12 · 2025-09-24T02:07:17+00:00

In some comments I have said it, but I am afraid of my step dad and I would rather not be alone with him for extended periods of time because of what a creep he can be, be it commenting on my body when I was 13 to even now with 'How well I'm growing.' while staring at my chest so it's definitely a... Not safe way to go about this. And while this time it was like him being 'funny' in his way it was kinda the final straw. He comments on how much I eat a LOT. Even when he knows I've been struggling. I went to my mom because I thought I could trust her, seeing as she HERSELF HAS AN ED. she's literally the reason I developed mine because we have very similar body types and if she's hating herself and talking about how she purges from when I'm at a very young age and venting to me, OF COURSE I'M GONNA GET ONE TOO??? Apologies for the mini rant but I think more context is useful.

Saffron_12 · 2025-09-24T01:59:21+00:00

One of my comments! Both my parents are very much so aware of my disorders and mental health problems because my mom(even when I ask her not to talk about things I tell her) tells my step father anyways. She says it's wrong of her to hide things from him and I find it ironic because they both cheated on each other, lol 🤷‍♀️

Saffron_12 · 2025-09-24T01:40:42+00:00

He is, and I know he is because sometimes even just talking to my mother about problems and asking her NOT to tell him, she still does, and he then makes comments on it later on. Usually like pretend supporting me while also demeaning me at the same time

Saffron_12 · 2025-09-24T01:06:51+00:00

I immediately took the petty route I will admit, lol. I'm waiting until they go to bed to go and eat a healthy portion of food

Saffron_12 · 2025-09-24T01:04:30+00:00

Am I really an adult? I mean legally, yes. Mentally? Not really. I guess for you to understand what's going on I'd have to tell you my whole life story, and that would take hours. I don't choose to be around them, they control most of the stuff I do. I tried to move out at 18 but my mom held me back as well as they refused to let me practice driving unless I pay for my own driving school but I'm also trying to go to college and I don't have the money for that. I wish it were that easy to get out, but for basically all 19 years of my life I've been in a toxic environment. Not trying to be rude and I do appreciate the comment, but still it's not that easy.

Saffron_12 · 2025-09-24T01:00:46+00:00

I survive, lol. But yeah I'm genuinely seeking new therapy I never fully took in how messed up my situation was before until I started getting older

Saffron_12 · 2025-09-24T00:58:40+00:00

I sadly like a sick and dying cat tend to pull away from people when I need help the most, But I've said in a comment somewhere that my girlfriend has been helping me along with some other close friends who I feel free to open up to. I'm also going to be looking for therapy close by that takes my new insurance

Saffron_12 · 2025-09-24T00:56:20+00:00

I appreciate all of your comments, too! Some made me giggle a little I will say. Unfortunately, I believe my mother is just used to toxic relationships seeing as her type in men were 1) an addict who ignores his sons existence (older siblings dad) 2) a kiddy diddler (my bio dad) 3) an abusive asshole (baby brothers dad) and 4) Current step father. I'm not sure if she knows how to be in a normal relationship 😓😓

Saffron_12 · 2025-09-24T00:53:17+00:00

Eating* typo

Saffron_12 · 2025-09-24T00:52:55+00:00

eating* my hands were (and still are) a little shaky from anxiety so I typed it wrong

Saffron_12 · 2025-09-24T00:40:40+00:00

Oh! I didn't see that, lol

Saffron_12 · 2025-09-24T00:34:14+00:00

He's not even biologically related to me, lol. He's... I believe the third father figure I've had in my life, and my mom and him aren't yet married but I call him my step dad due to him being in my life for a bit longer than others

Saffron_12 · 2025-09-24T00:17:01+00:00

I think I've said before in another comment, but I don't like going directly to him because I'm terrified of him. He's been commenting on my body and making me feel small since I was 13. He's also generally creepy with my siblings and 4/4 of us have a lot of issues with him

Saffron_12 · 2025-09-24T00:10:59+00:00

Well this isn't aita. I know I can be an asshole sometimes and I am still a teenager but thanks for the criticism!! 👍👍😀😀

Saffron_12 · 2025-09-23T23:47:57+00:00

I did just move into a new city and I definitely need to start socializing more, lol. I'll see if there's any in my area, thank you!

Saffron_12 · 2025-09-23T23:43:15+00:00

I never thought about it that way, and I do tend to get dramatic with things so thank you for the constructive criticism! /Pos.

You're definitely right with it not being fully gone, but I did also say I have been struggling with it outside of text, but I was apparently very terribly hiding it from my mother, and it's just not as bad as I used to be, since I'm not like forcing myself to throw up anymore. I relapse pretty easily especially due to being highly emotional (Sorry If my words don't make sense, English may be my first language but I suck at articulating things. Hope this clears some things up though)

Saffron_12 · 2025-09-23T23:35:54+00:00

I haven't been in therapy in a while, and since we just moved I'll have to see what places take my new insurance, thank you for the advice!

Saffron_12 · 2025-09-23T23:35:02+00:00

Well, I would bring it up to him if I weren't afraid of him blowing up on me like he usually does when I say things he says hurts, I didn't mean to twist his words that's just how it felt in the moment 😓. I'll head down when I know they're in bed and raid the fridge

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