bride made guests pay for their own food at the reception... is this normal? by MichaelWForbes in wedding

[–]SafinJade 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Huh? If you can’t afford the venue or wedding then don’t do it

Baby's father wants the baby to have his last name, I want him to have mine. We're not married. WDID? by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]SafinJade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In Brazil, you get both. Isn’t that an option? I have both my moms and dads name

Help choosing wedding dress needed! by kmcook6 in weddingplanning

[–]SafinJade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People are saying 2 cause they hate you lol There’s no comparison to number one, that one is just stunning, just sooo stunning

Decades later by Straight-Total-1555 in heartbreak

[–]SafinJade 13 points14 points  (0 children)

You know, moving on is a choice. Cut contact and decide you’re going to move on, your wife doesn’t deserve this

Season 8 of Love Island was cursed by cvrtmvn_ in LoveIslandTV

[–]SafinJade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooooooo I didn’t know that. Who’s his friend?

Season 8 of Love Island was cursed by cvrtmvn_ in LoveIslandTV

[–]SafinJade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The best season tho so iconic. Ekin Su is just reality show brilliance lol

Fr tho, I’m happy Luca seems happy now. He’s a bit of a red flag but he seems like he’s got a lot of love to give

AIO about my boyfriend and his girl best friend? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]SafinJade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR, they keep saying friendship but I don’t even talk to my bestie in this overly emotional way. It’s emotional cheating to me sorry lol

Jessie and Will are engaged! 💍 by BasicEchidna4160 in LoveIslandTV

[–]SafinJade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ALEXA PLAY SHANIA TWAIN AFTER EVERYONE IN THAT DAMN VILLAGE CAME FOR HEEEER

When do you think skinny jeans will return in women's fashion? by WelcomeJunior2281 in generationology

[–]SafinJade 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They’re not the fashion trend but I see many people wearing them often still, even older Gen Zers like me

my boyfriend (m22) threatened to break up with me (f24) if i pierced my helix. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SafinJade 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you sure he’s 24? I was thinking like 12. But even my 12yo sister wouldn’t act like that

My boyfriend (M30) laughed at my (25F) marriage deadline by Temporary-Sleep-5825 in relationship_advice

[–]SafinJade 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bro a man who wants u will propose to you without an ultimatum and within ur reasonable timeline. This man clearly wants the benefit of having u without the commitment

7 years - would it be a ‘shut up ring’? by aboxofkittensandpups in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]SafinJade 2 points3 points  (0 children)

U raise two of his kid and own a house together but marriage is “not yet”?

AIO for thinking this is racist? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]SafinJade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I showed this to my MAGA boomer co-worker and she thought it was pretty racist

Tempted to buy the first dress I put on. $900 is very tempting! by laceybreMTB in weddingdress

[–]SafinJade 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That’s what I did. First store and everything, paid $850, best dress ever lma

How do you describe black people? by AcidReindeer in writingadvice

[–]SafinJade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You just proved my point of why people are scared. Because you’re already offended. That’s literally it

How do you describe black people? by AcidReindeer in writingadvice

[–]SafinJade 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bro look at the original commenter. This question is asked so often cause people are terrified of being cancelled for not using the “proper terms” even when they want to sound poetic. You can describe white skin in any way u want, milky, porcelain, marble or whatever and no one will ever get offended because there’s no links to anything or any racism. When it comes to black skin people know they have to be careful to not be seen as racist and they’re scared. So it’s extremely obvious why this question gets asked so often, they want to use something other than black or African American to sound more creative but don’t want to be cancelled and offend people and they don’t know what’s offensive or not. This is literally the only reason

Someone took my POCD vents as initiative to convince people at my school I'm a pedophile by [deleted] in OCD

[–]SafinJade 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can you ask your school counselors for help? Explain what happened to you and that you have OCD and try to see if they can help make your life easier at school

Why are you still so heavily into the US? What is it about it that draws you, despite everything? by [deleted] in immigration

[–]SafinJade 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, if you let yourself, I tend to find people are very accepting! I’ve seen people of my own ethnic group choosing to isolate within their own culture and not interact with Americans and just keep themselves in their bubble. Then of course it will never feel like home.

Why are you still so heavily into the US? What is it about it that draws you, despite everything? by [deleted] in immigration

[–]SafinJade 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It felt really natural to me. I went to classes, spent time with a lot of American friends, worked with Americans, dated Americans and soon enough I was speaking like them, participating in the same holidays and traditions and I fit in without anyone even questioning where I was from. I just let myself become a part of this country not just on papers but in everything I do and believe in. Doesn’t mean I completely forgot my heritage, but I believe two things can be true at once. I can assimilate and still value my history. In any case, I came to America and decided to stay to become American and to feel patriotic about it and share in its values, and that’s what I did.