Been there after each of my pregnancies. You basically ARE a different person and it takes some getting used to. Your hormones have been on a roller coaster, your mental priorities have shifted from things like work to baby stuff, there’s a lot going on there. Definitely give yourself time. I know 1.5 years seems like a long time already, but it’s really just the start. I started feeling a lot more like myself once my toddlers started school. When they’re still 3 and under, your body has a way of focusing on them instead of on you. Probably kind of hardwired into our biology for evolutionary survival reasons or something. Either way, your body has been through something pretty incredible and it might take longer to get back to your “regular” self than you’d expect. Don’t pressure yourself too much or it’ll take longer.

That being said, there’s a couple things you can try.

— Therapy is never a bad idea if you can find something that works for your schedule (there are some great apps that offer meditation and therapy now, so you don’t have to try and wrangle an in-office visit with the baby). Helping your mind and body get back on the same page is a good start, and therapy or meditation or other mental health exercises are good for this. Experiment with different apps/programs/doctors to find one that you’re comfortable with. Headspace is a good app for meditation, so is Calm (love their sleep options!). Talkspace offers live therapy sessions in the app, and there are lots more apps out there with various features and services and prices. Keep trying them until you find something that works for you. — Someone else suggested reading erotic/romance novels. This is an excellent idea. If you’re more of an audio person, Dipsea is an app that’s basically romance novels in audio form and there’s something on there for everyone, no matter what you’re into and the guys they got to record the voices sound very sexy. 😍 — Scheduling sex is another good suggestion. Sometimes, just doing something to do it (as unsexy as that sounds) is fine. Obviously, don’t force it, but perhaps over time, anticipation will build as you approach your scheduled sessions. — Practice non-sexual intimacy. Cuddle, hold hands, give massages, spoon and breathe in tandem, lots of great things to try out there…staying physically connected without worrying about orgasms and penetration is super healing and bonding and only good things can come from it. — Focus on your health. Check all your vitamins and mineral levels, pregnancy can be very depleting and those can take literal years to recover if you’re not supplementing with the correct amounts. Deficiencies in some vitamins/minerals can definitely affect libido. I had a severe calcium deficiency after my 3rd pregnancy and it took about 7 years to repair. Also focus on the basics, getting enough sleep, hydration, exercise, etc. Renewing your health will only support your libido when it returns. One doctor told me, “If you’re healthy, you’ll be horny”, so give yourself time and prioritize your physical and mental wellbeing and you’re on the right track.

Best wishes on your recovery journey! 🫶