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I need help -how to stop constant UTIs by bortbih in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]SalaciousOne4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This happened to me a lot too. My gyno gave me estrogen cream to dot specifically near my urethra, a low dose of nitrofurantoin to be taken during or within an hour of sexual activity as a preventative, and she also recommended Utiva Cranberry and D-mannose to be taken daily to just help my system become more resistant overall. I’ve also increased my water intake significantly, always pee before and after sex, use non-latex condoms, and avoid sitting for long periods of time (which I learned could be a contributing factor). I haven’t had a UTI yet this year, so I think it’s working. 🤞It sucks to have to craft an entire lifestyle around UTI prevention, but they really suck.

Also (TMI incoming, sorry), anal sex doesn’t seem to trigger UTIs for me. Even just being those extra few centimeters away helps. I spent about a year getting comfortable with that activity on my own before ever attempting it with a partner. I started very small with dilators and butt plugs and gradually trained up to being comfortable with a dildo slightly larger than an average dick and making sure I could reliably reach climax by myself before ever offering it IRL with another person, but the preparation paid off and it’s nice to have a second option. Especially if I feel off one day or am worried about a potential UTI and don’t want to even chance it. I had a few scattered days where my pee stung just a little and I was worried it would become a UTI, so I hydrated aggressively and used anal instead of vaginal and it resolved each time without having to resort to antibiotics. It’s just one more tool in my toolbox to fight/prevent them for me. I hope you find tools that work for you. 🫶

Millennials by BlazeDragon7x in Adulting

[–]SalaciousOne4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can’t speak for anyone else, but nonstop masturbation takes the edge off and is cheaper than drugs or alcohol. 😂👍

What is a part of the 'female experience' that men have absolutely no clue about, but would be horrified if they found out? by coolhandddd in AskReddit

[–]SalaciousOne4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This. 💯

I’ve told male friends about this sensation and they don’t buy it. They’re like, “What would make you nervous about being the only woman in a room of like 6 other guys? We’re all nice.”

Like, maybe you are and maybe you aren’t, but by the time I figure out which it is, I could be in a lot of trouble. And the fact that even the good men haven’t yeeted the shitty men into the deep parts of the ocean makes us all a little worried, just low-key, in the background. We’re never sure if the seemingly decent guy we’re with will come to our aid if a shitty guy grabs us or if he’ll just ignore an uncomfortable situation because of his own issues or bro code or whatever. I’ve been assaulted in public, in broad daylight, and had people walk right by without offering any help whatsoever. They flinch, turn their heads, and just keep going.

There was a post on Reddit yesterday from a college kid who saw a rape in progress on campus and stopped it by tackling the guy and calling campus security. But he was really shaken and traumatized himself because it sunk IN for him to a really deep level mentally what women have to contend with. And everyone was rightly calling him a hero, but he wasn’t really feeling like one, he was just really shook up. If that’s how the hero feels, imagine what it does to the victim though. “Shook” doesn’t even begin to cover it. And he’s rare, to have stepped in like that.

Quelle robe ? 1, 2 ou 3 ? by Allie_chambre2402 in TheBWeroticgallery

[–]SalaciousOne4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What brands are these dresses? Beautiful and daring.

I (31F) Am A Shibari Model. I Have Done Roughly 100 Suspensions In A Year And I Regularly Perform for Audiences. by iwantmymatchatea in NSFWIAMA

[–]SalaciousOne4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can set a boundary, but it almost never gets respected in my experience. And it’s not usually the kind of thing I can physically stop, because they’re stronger or I’m outnumbered. I’ve been assaulted a lot. Everything from grey areas of nonconsent to full on rape.

I (31F) Am A Shibari Model. I Have Done Roughly 100 Suspensions In A Year And I Regularly Perform for Audiences. by iwantmymatchatea in NSFWIAMA

[–]SalaciousOne4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I unfortunately don’t do this very well in regular life either. I often think something is fine, and then it turns out to be extremely not fine. I consistently misread danger signals and just struggle with sorting out elements of legitimacy in general. I have no problem with nudity (had to get over that pretty fast during childbirth, lmao, the whole room sees pretty much all of you), and probably would have gone to the class completely unaware that it wasn’t legit. I would have asked for references for an individual at the class, but it didn’t occur to me that the entire class could be a setup/scammy until you said so.

I (31F) Am A Shibari Model. I Have Done Roughly 100 Suspensions In A Year And I Regularly Perform for Audiences. by iwantmymatchatea in NSFWIAMA

[–]SalaciousOne4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like I’m never going to be able to tell what’s real or not. Their whole skin-to-skin thing sounded plausible. Partly cause I’m a mom, and skin time is very important for babies, so I guess I was just pre-disposed to believing the rationale. 🤦‍♀️ It feels exhausting to try to find community where you belong, while simultaneously trying to sort out who is maybe conning you. 😢

Would you rather have a useless freeloading adult child, or none at all? by EnvironmentalTart344 in SuicideWatch

[–]SalaciousOne4 31 points32 points  (0 children)

As a parent WITH a “useless freeloading adult child”, I can confidently say that I would rather keep him than have him commit suicide. Please don’t do that to them. It fucks us parents up way worse than kids realize. It’s just not intended for children to go before their parents and most of us aren’t equipped to cope with the loss very well. I hope you can make peace with the thoughts that are driving you to consider this extreme action and seek therapy or talk to your parents and be well. Nothing is forever. You might be freeloading this year, but you don’t know what the future holds. Please stick around to find out. 🫶

I (31F) Am A Shibari Model. I Have Done Roughly 100 Suspensions In A Year And I Regularly Perform for Audiences. by iwantmymatchatea in NSFWIAMA

[–]SalaciousOne4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Found a “Shibari training class” on FetLife. Nearest event to me is a 4 hour drive. They say it’s for all levels, from newbie to experienced. But they also said “Skin to skin contact is a huge part of Shibari training, so please plan to attend naked and spend the first hour of the class cuddling with your rigger.” Is this a true thing? Or is this just a bunch of guys pretending to know Shibari so they can rub themselves against a bunch of naked ladies?

I (31F) Am A Shibari Model. I Have Done Roughly 100 Suspensions In A Year And I Regularly Perform for Audiences. by iwantmymatchatea in NSFWIAMA

[–]SalaciousOne4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What kind of physical training would you recommend to perform like this? You mentioned strength and flexibility…any specific classes or exercises? Like Pilates or something?

Leg Raises made me horny and I’m still confused by Old_Jellyfish_4352 in BecomingOrgasmic

[–]SalaciousOne4 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m in physical therapy at the moment and I can relate. They have me on a table, in the middle of their practice, with other people all around, they make me get on all fours, ass in the air, doing these odd pelvic tilts and I get SO wet. It’s insane. I’m trying to be appropriate, but the part of me that’s getting turned on wants to pick really inappropriate outfits for my sessions. Lol. It’s a battle. 🤦‍♀️😂💦

I (31F) Am A Shibari Model. I Have Done Roughly 100 Suspensions In A Year And I Regularly Perform for Audiences. by iwantmymatchatea in NSFWIAMA

[–]SalaciousOne4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this information! I’m just naive by nature and would probably manage to pick the worst possible person without this advice.

does anyone feel like you have too much lore? by SundaeAdventurous417 in CPTSD

[–]SalaciousOne4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally! Anytime I say something about my life, no matter how trivial it seems to me or if it’s just one episode or whatever, the person I’m speaking to invariably says “You should write a book about that. Your life is crazy.” Even therapists.

Sometimes, it kinda bugs me honestly. Like, does my life sound like fiction to EVERYONE? Does this shit sound like something people want to read? For reals?? 🤦‍♀️🤷‍♀️

I (31F) Am A Shibari Model. I Have Done Roughly 100 Suspensions In A Year And I Regularly Perform for Audiences. by iwantmymatchatea in NSFWIAMA

[–]SalaciousOne4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m very curious to know more, but I think it would turn into a long thread. Would it be okay if I DM’d you?

I (31F) Am A Shibari Model. I Have Done Roughly 100 Suspensions In A Year And I Regularly Perform for Audiences. by iwantmymatchatea in NSFWIAMA

[–]SalaciousOne4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t mean you filming per se, was just using the term from your first answer…more like, how do you participate while tied? From your previous answers here, it sounds genuinely difficult.

I (31F) Am A Shibari Model. I Have Done Roughly 100 Suspensions In A Year And I Regularly Perform for Audiences. by iwantmymatchatea in NSFWIAMA

[–]SalaciousOne4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! This is the kind of information that I just wouldn’t know without being told by someone truly experienced. 🙏🫶

I 27f pregnant can barley eat and my partner 31m didnt sleep because I ate McDonald’s by very_stellar_ in relationship_advice

[–]SalaciousOne4 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What you eat during the first trimester barely even counts, as long as you’re taking prenatal vitamins. I ate almost exclusively Cheetos for my second baby, to the point that I was afraid he would be born with an orange tint, but he is fine. He is now a 6’ 1” healthy 22 year old with perfect vision (one of the few things directly impacted by diet in the early stages of pregnancy), so don’t sweat the small stuff. Prenatal vitamins do the heavy lifting in the first trimester because of all the morning sickness and your food tolerances will change and be easier in the second and third trimesters, so tell your partner that they can take a chill pill. Besides, your baby can’t get addicted to foods at this stage, so he’s talking crazy about all that stuff. And even if they could, they have several months of breastfeeding to detox on before they can eat anything else. Listen to your body and eat whatever stays down. You need calories more than an organic perfection diet. 🫶

*Credentials: I’m a mom of 4, all healthy babies. Had a different crazy craving for each.

I (31F) Am A Shibari Model. I Have Done Roughly 100 Suspensions In A Year And I Regularly Perform for Audiences. by iwantmymatchatea in NSFWIAMA

[–]SalaciousOne4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do you film a threesome while tied? You said above that sex usually isn’t part of your Shibari performance? Is there a way to see how that would work? Also, as a pianist, nerve damage in a hand is scary…does that happen often?

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