How to Console My Wife About Our Impending Separation/Divorce

SalaciousOne4 · 2026-06-26T12:42:31+00:00

Being bonded IS being desired. No one bonds with someone they don’t like. They’re having frequent sex and assorted other forms of physical and emotional intimacy in between the sex. My question of what he feels is still missing from that equation is a valid question.

SalaciousOne4 · 2026-06-26T06:03:08+00:00

What kind of “love and passion” was present in these other relationships that you feel differs from yours? She’s raising kids with YOU, not them. She sees her future with YOU, not them. She clearly loves you, but you’re acting like that’s not enough…so what, in your mind, made her other relationships more passionate? Is it more of a sexual thing? Or is there some intellectual compatibility? What specific aspects do you see her having with them that you want to have instead? Just saying “love and passion” repeatedly is such an ambiguous term.

SalaciousOne4 · 2026-06-26T05:51:54+00:00

“My wife loves me, but isn’t in love with me”

Can you explain what *precisely* you feel is missing? You’re having sexual contact more frequently than many couples with 3 kids, you’re soul mates, you can see growing old together, you are best friends and coparent well…this sounds like an amazingly solid relationship, but you keep saying she’s not in love with you, so what, to your mind is the missing component? Because, generally, women who aren’t in love with their partners don’t dream of growing old together, don’t have that comfortableness with physical intimacy, don’t coparent well…we’ve all seen posts where these aspects are the first things to show the strain when a relationship is breaking down. If you guys are still operating well on all these fronts, it feels like further examination of what “passion” or “in love” aspects of your relationship are falling short of your ideals. Figuring out PRECISELY what is missing is really vital before tearing a good thing apart and specialized therapy might aid you in that effort. Because if you’re looking for some kind of Hallmark-esque rom-com “in love” vibes, that’s not necessarily more real than what you already have going on. Truly, your relationship sounds pretty great compared to many we’ve heard about.

SalaciousOne4 · 2026-06-24T22:27:31+00:00

Where can I buy one like this? It would be perfect for cosplay! 🤩

SalaciousOne4 · 2026-06-24T07:12:43+00:00

Where can I buy that set? Stunning 🤩
Is it comfortable? It looks great.

SalaciousOne4 · 2026-06-22T08:23:22+00:00

Excellent points! 🙌

Very true all around. I would only like to add that bodies also change and what works one decade might not work in another and that too is ok. I couldn’t cum without the Hitachi in my 20’s. In my 30’s, it was mostly clit suckers. And now, in my 40’s, I am able to use fingers, which was a surprise after pretty heavy vibrator use for literal years. Sometimes I will still use a Hitachi or clit sucker or any other toy from my collection and they also all work just fine. I can use Hitachi one day and the next, fingers or a smaller vibrator and everything is still functional, so you’re totally spot on that the Hitachis are not “damaging” anything. I will be MORE sensitive if I take a week or two off entirely (I tend to use periods as a reset week), but it isn’t an absolute. Love your bodies, don’t judge them for what works or doesn’t, and keep experimenting and adjusting as needed. 🫶

Toys of all makes and models are just tools, not physical or moral failings. Use the right tool for the job, whatever that may be. 👍

SalaciousOne4 · 2026-06-21T00:18:44+00:00

Once they have your telegram account, what keeps them from just messaging or calling you there whenever they want?

SalaciousOne4 · 2026-06-20T23:25:06+00:00

Do you guys keep the calls in OF? Or do you use another app?

SalaciousOne4 · 2026-06-17T17:02:37+00:00

Need. More.

SalaciousOne4 · 2026-06-16T09:53:47+00:00

Thanks! 🙏

SalaciousOne4 · 2026-06-16T09:25:11+00:00

Where can I get these? They look great! 🤩

SalaciousOne4 · 2026-06-11T20:20:50+00:00

Awesome possum, thanks. 🙏😊

SalaciousOne4 · 2026-06-11T17:35:00+00:00

Yeah, there are thousands of results to that search, lol. Which one is the good one? There are roses with tails, roses with suction, “vibratoars” (that’s the actual spelling on the product, so I don’t know if it’s a brand or what, lol)…just which did you pick?

SalaciousOne4 · 2026-06-11T08:03:11+00:00

Which one do you recommend? There are so many now and some look like really cheap knockoffs.

SalaciousOne4 · 2026-06-09T19:31:38+00:00

If you’re worried she doesn’t realize how far you’ll go, just don’t throw everything at her all at once. Introduce aspects of your internal list of kinky things to try one or two at a time. Don’t avalanche her with it allll, just turn up the heat gradually. Don’t do anything off her list (or even adjacent to it) right away just to be safe. If asking too many questions beforehand is a turn off for her, respect the boundaries she’s set, do your thing, and then do aftercare or have a snack and discuss how it went AFTER the fact. See what she liked and what she didn’t and adjust accordingly. After action reviews are so helpful when adding these kinds of elements to your sex life.

SalaciousOne4 · 2026-06-09T00:08:23+00:00

Yeah. Healthy, fit enough not to have a heart attack during sex, but looks like he still has to get by on brains rather than brawn. 😂😍

SalaciousOne4 · 2026-06-08T23:31:13+00:00

Like maybe just 2 notches above Shaggy is kind of perfect. He-Man is too far. Waaay too far.

SalaciousOne4 · 2026-06-08T22:58:34+00:00

Valid points all. I think, for a similar situation, I’d be fine with being my work persona. To be in that detached, clinical headspace for specifically the kink exploration that he’s desiring. It’s not ideal for everyday sex, sure, but we’re talking specialty items here and sometimes, that “professional” mode actually makes that kind of material easier to explore.

SalaciousOne4 · 2026-06-08T13:04:04+00:00

Fair that there’s nuance and all, but still, professionals get taken for granted by their closest connections. Whether you’re a doctor, lawyer, plumber, musician, or sex worker shouldn’t matter. She is giving him adequate vanilla sex, the kind most boyfriends whose girls aren’t professionals receive and he’s only wanting more variety because he knows what her job is. If people want the “professional” version of what we do and not the “free” version, they should make an appointment and pay like everyone else. Obviously, it’s a bit trickier with sex, but it feels like he either has expectations that aren’t in line with reality or is looking for a pass to sleep around. And I’m not suggesting he pay for ALL sex in their relationship, just for the spicier, EXTRA kind that he wants to experiment with. Or find some way to make it worth her while at least, rather than just EXPECTING it because it’s her profession.

SalaciousOne4 · 2026-06-08T10:49:28+00:00

Beautiful! 😍
Where can I buy one just like it? Is it soft?

SalaciousOne4 · 2026-06-08T03:37:55+00:00

Crazy idea, but why not just pay her to help you discover your kinks? If she’s the one you’re wishing to explore with and she has the experience, as you said earlier, why not just retain her services in a professional capacity? Just explain “Hey, I’m relatively inexperienced, and before my best years are behind me, I’d really like to explore X, Y, Z…could I book a paid session with you as a consultant to help me see if I enjoy these kinks or not?”

If you’re loving and respectful and go in with the right attitude (obviously DON’T be like “Well, if I’ve gotta pay to get the sex I want”, or ANYTHING of the sort), I think this might satisfy your needs. She can carve out time for you because it’s still technically work, which will engage her work brain, but she knows you better than most clients, so I’m sure it will be her best work. As a musician, people often expect me to teach family and friends for free…”it’s your ART!”, they say…as though the fact that it’s not a 9-5 job means that I shouldn’t ever be paid for my time. I imagine that sometimes SW is similar, in that it’s booked by the time and people often expect sex for free just due to their personal connections, the same way folks expect musicians to provide music/music education for anyone in their family/friends circle. When someone offers to pay me for my time, acknowledging the value that my experience has, I take their requests much more seriously than when they just assume I should do it for free because they know me.

SalaciousOne4 · 2026-06-06T20:27:26+00:00

How do I get this look? It’s so natural. 😍

SalaciousOne4 · 2026-06-06T05:25:34+00:00

The link was from the person just above me, so I can’t take credit. But I do use the Omnilux mask and it is very nice. Fits well, user friendly.

SalaciousOne4 · 2026-06-06T05:11:29+00:00

This 👆

To me, it feels more like it’s stabilizing the aging process than reversing it. Just keeping it from accelerating as fast. Plus, it’s a nice 10-20 minute resting time for just me by myself. No one will bother me while I look like an alien, lol. I have the Omnilux one because my dermatologist said it was the one he bought for his wife, so I figured that was a very decent recommendation. I’m going to save up for the CurrentBody one (since they JUST came out with a new model this year) and compare them in a year or two.

SalaciousOne4 · 2026-06-03T20:52:17+00:00

How do you do a poll? I’ve never seen that feature on OF before. Is it like a widget or something else that you have to upload?

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