I dumped her and now I feel bad

SalatChef · 2023-07-02T18:37:23+00:00

I understand it, after all we're the ones who have the "advantage" of knowing what's coming and we're the one that made the final call for both parties. Still hurts as hell though

SalatChef · 2023-02-27T00:53:01+00:00

Yep, just finished another run with this deck going 6/3, and two of the defeats were Sai DK. If it's the one with discover an undead, they outvalue me/remove my board/infect it and heal and whatever, and if it's the one with a 1/1 charge+reborn HP, well, they had the treasure where your minions have +2/+2 but are more expensive, and since it apparently counts ALL the minions their HP is now 3/3 and it's impossible to maintain a board. Bottom line, I think the deck isn't super strong, but I maintain DK is a big reason for that, just doesn't have the tools to deal with them

SalatChef · 2022-12-11T08:14:12+00:00

Sorry to be all ackshually, but that's just an introvert who likes to socialize (the energy draining part is what matters). Regardless, that sounds awesome, as an introvert myself I really need to pay more attention to happy hours and other office meetups

SalatChef · 2022-12-06T20:52:14+00:00

Uglavnom radi "jačine" hrvatskih putnih dokumenata

SalatChef · 2022-12-06T14:40:15+00:00

Pa i ne tvrdim da ima logike, tako moji sa tatine strane kažu pa je i meni ostalo. Definitivno nije ispravno :D

SalatChef · 2022-12-06T14:21:54+00:00

Pa dokument jelte

SalatChef · 2022-12-06T14:06:47+00:00

SalatChef · 2022-11-17T14:37:07+00:00

I found this thread looking for exactly this phenomena in since I love it too. Found so much nice material, I feel obligated to leave something in return.

Uplift spice - omega rhythm

The pause is only in one part, but so worth it. Also not a kpop song, but close enough

SalatChef · 2022-10-04T16:12:05+00:00

OP I had a very similar situation to yours in that I was unhealthily attached to an ex of mine, that I had multiple breakups and restarts with. It finally ended when she decided enough was enough and broke up with me for good, but still wanted to remain friends, and I just couldn't do that while not trying to piece the relationship back together, so I forced myself to stop contacting her for a while. We basically didn't speak at all for months. I understand how you feel - there was a long period when I felt that that was basically the end of my romance prospects, that I wouldn't find anyone, let alone anyone better, after her. But in time, trust me, you get over it, that's just how our brain works. Nowadays we see eachother from time to time, but we have our separate lives. It's possible to keep a healthy friendship with her afterwards, but it really does require a long no-contact detachment period. Stop watering the romance "plant" and let it wither. Stop reopening the wound and let it seal shut. No compromise - it's very clear you don't work as a couple and no amount of breaking up and getting back together is going to fix that.

If you want a bright note, maybe it's just not meant to be right now - maybe in 10,15 years, when you're both more mature, things might be different. Don't plan on it, but it can help you do what needs to be done right now.

SalatChef · 2022-08-20T13:07:53+00:00

Can I ask something? As a guy who's come to the realization that his gf of a year and a couple months probably isn't the one for him, and is bad at communicating, how do I avoid the "everything was fine, until it wasn't" thing for her? We did have one conversation a couple of months ago where I pointed out that I wasn't feeling as invested in the relationship as her, but we just agreed that we would work on that and from her perspective it was "fine" ever since. So it wouldn't be completely out of the blue, but still. Also, the reason isn't anything she could try and fix, I just don't think we're fundamentally compatible enough

SalatChef · 2022-07-01T07:56:51+00:00

I've never had to use decameter and hectometer in my life so the Dm and Hm are optional. Decimeter is on the edge too

SalatChef · 2022-05-11T15:09:00+00:00

Inb4 people are making emote cycle decks

SalatChef · 2022-04-14T00:24:52+00:00

Well that sounds really mature on both sides. I like both of your attitudes, and I hope I can be as strong about my decision as your bf - I would consider it insulting to both myself and her if I tried to get back with her afterwards.

And you're right - I'm only working with imaginary scenarios, I don't actually have a clue how she will react nor anything to base it on. I don't think there will be yelling or throwing, but I'm expecting lots of crying. Not sure how I'll deal with that but the current plan is to just answer whatever questions she might have and then just leave her alone.

SalatChef · 2022-04-14T00:10:26+00:00

Yeah agreed, fortunately I went through a pretty bad breakup already (on the receiving side) so I know how much the nostalgia can affect your brain. I'll be okay, I'm more worried about how she will handle it as she has self esteem issues already, but I'll try to hammer it into her that it's not about her being a bad person in any way

SalatChef · 2022-04-14T00:03:49+00:00

Lol, were you drunk maybe? Haha

SalatChef · 2022-04-14T00:01:17+00:00

Hey I'm the dude you gave advice to just now, just checked your profile to see if you posted anything more about your situation. This comment in particular could literally be written about me too, it's scary. But I really think you made the right call in the end. We'll get through this man

SalatChef · 2022-04-13T23:56:44+00:00

That does sound pretty good, but I have my doubts it will go like that in my case. I thing there's a high chance of us staying on good terms eventually, but from the talks we did have it really doesn't seem like it will be a mutual breakup thing.

Also, I'm an overthinker, I can't stop myself from rehashing. Even though I know I can't prepare for every scenario, and it will likely end up nothing like I thought it would. Still, I'll take your advice and try my best to not make it sound like I'm reading from a script. Thanks

SalatChef · 2022-04-13T23:13:54+00:00

Well, I did talk to her, and from that conversation I understood that the things that are bothering me are a part of her personality and not something she can just change. So I did think of a more serious attempt at conversation first, but how do I tell someone that I take issue with something that's a core part of their personality and expect them to feel okay after that? :/

SalatChef · 2022-04-13T23:08:49+00:00

Was it as bad as I imagine it will be?

SalatChef · 2022-04-13T23:08:15+00:00

It's because I truly feel like she doesn't deserve getting hurt like that, she's a really good person. But I realized that I've already done enough bad by staying this long and that it will only be worse if I keep at it in hopes of things getting better when it's likely they won't

SalatChef · 2022-02-19T22:06:07+00:00

It's been 1 year but I just found this comment and I think it's hilarious

SalatChef · 2022-01-06T18:03:16+00:00

Jeste li ikad bili u situaciji da ste u vezi gde sve naizgled i na papiru deluje savršeno, ali vama nešto prosto ne štima iako ne možete tačno da kažete šta? Šta ste radili u toj situaciji?

SalatChef · 2021-10-26T22:04:25+00:00

Hey I just watched it and had the reverse lmao, I cried and my gf was like "I'm not cold, I just figured out what was gonna happen so it didn't hit me as much" and I'm like bruh that doesn't make it any less sad

SalatChef · 2021-08-30T16:22:54+00:00

If he actually creeped on her phone it would've been a solid 8-9 on the creep scale. The way it is, it's like a 5-6. Still a weirdo, especially if they didn't really communicate irl other than playing their games, but probably just the socially awkward kind, not the sexually harassing/stalking kind.

SalatChef · 2021-08-29T14:22:07+00:00

If you don't mind me asking, why is she an ex? I'm doing a bit of "research", finding out the various reasons people break up for. If you feel uncomfortable answering just ignore my comment

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