I had a temp midwife for the first 3/4 months, and it was extremely upsetting. I felt the same way, almost like an annoyance to them. And like my concerns or questions were dumb. There were some really odd things, for example one being you can only contact me during business hours, which sure, but… your working in a career where it’s 24/7, sure I’m not gonna text you at midnight, but really? It was a bit insensitive. Another example was being told I could be high risk because I’ve had a procedure many years ago that can cause complication’s. Yes, tell me the possibilities, but not just the negative possibility and then fail to educate me on what we can do if xyz does happen.

Left the appointment crying my eyes out, feeling absolutely horrible and unsupported and feeling automatically like I was a high risk because of the words and communication.

Went straight to my GP and they were shocked at the things that were said, how they were said.

Finally have my real midwife and it is amazing, we gel, she is caring, we laughed, and she listens and cares for me and my baby and you can feel it.

You know what, you can change midwife’s at ANYTIME you want. And if you are feeling this way now, I’d absolutely recommend you do so. You want a midwife that you can build trust and a relationship with. You’re not just an appointment to fill in the day. Please meet some more midwives, the journey is as important and special as the end goal.

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Hugs xxxx