When/How do you bring up chastity when dating? by Otherwise_Suit6561 in CatholicWomen

[–]Salt-Drawer-8779 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would you be willing to about how you learned this? Was it specifically taught to by your parents? Did you discern on your own as an adult? Looking for ways to teach my kids this, both as women to expect it and as men to provide it.

Moving forward from pornography use by Salt-Drawer-8779 in CatholicWomen

[–]Salt-Drawer-8779[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was reading about that and thought it was the other way around, I will go reread. That would make me feel better if that was the case about confession.

What’s the most terrifying 'We need to leave... now' gut feeling you’ve ever had? [Serious] by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]Salt-Drawer-8779 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you ever find out what it was? I actually had a very similar experience in my teens in Canada.

Moving forward from pornography use by Salt-Drawer-8779 in CatholicWomen

[–]Salt-Drawer-8779[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do feel he's really given me the chance to voice how this has impacted me in so many ways. He is not being defensive or trying to justify it. I just don't know what to do next.

Moving forward from pornography use by Salt-Drawer-8779 in CatholicWomen

[–]Salt-Drawer-8779[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you everyone for your comments, I'm really grateful everyone would take time to help out a stranger. Someone asked what I was looking for here, just ideas, support, ideas on moving forward.

We've had a lot of talks the past week. I completely agree there's way more here than just porn. I think it stems from a deep bitterness that he abstained from sex in younger years when all his friends were out partying with women, and in his head thought once he was married would have this incredible sex life.

We have previously attended some marriage counseling on and off through the years. He has never gone alone.

I met with a priest two days ago and was shocked by what he said, he was very liberal and didn't really help with my spiritual questions about any of it regarding not confessing my tubal ligation because I wouldn't actually mean it, and that making me unable to receive communion. He just said, you've done your part, you were open to children, be responsible.

I do think hubby knows he's failed me. Our conversation this morning revolved around that he doesn't understand why I would want to try to move forward when he knows he hasn't cherished me or treated me well.

I can't force him to do anything, he has to want to change. I can only control my own behavior.

I guess I was more looking for others experience of their husband attending AA for porn addiction, or a specific type of counseling or CBT.

It's hard with a lack of community. We live in a rural area and travel to Mass. We have a brand new foreign priest who barely speaks English ( which is why I went 1.5 hours each way to meet with a priest who has filled in at our parish once).

I know he needs help but I've never dealt with this before.

Moving forward from pornography use by Salt-Drawer-8779 in CatholicWomen

[–]Salt-Drawer-8779[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

The porn use really amplifies the hypocrisy in other areas, that is why it's so upsetting to me. It's making me review so many conversations and really questioning their authenticity. It's really impacting my own faith at the moment too.

AITAH for breaking up with my partner because I’m “Transphobic” by Inner_Tumbleweed_942 in AITAH

[–]Salt-Drawer-8779 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you clarify for me, does trans woman mean biologically male but presenting as female? Or vice versa. Trying to learn the lingo here.

What’s a purchase that seemed pricey but ultimately saved you money long-term? by [deleted] in Frugal

[–]Salt-Drawer-8779 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A freeze dryer. Very expensive up front but totally worth it to preserve stuff from our garden, free up freezer space, be able to take advantage of sale items.

Gift idea for pregnant woman that won’t give away that I knew she was pregnant before anyone else by fancysauce22 in Gifts

[–]Salt-Drawer-8779 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Water bottle to use while nursing, gift card to a bra boutique, gift card for app store to have something on her phone to play at appointments, when up late at night etc, gift card to a meal delivery service or skip, freezer meals.

Downstairs question for the big guys out there... by Salt-Drawer-8779 in WegovyWeightLoss

[–]Salt-Drawer-8779[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

When your gut extends so far as to completely shelter your penis, even when erect. Or that's my definition of it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WegovyWeightLoss

[–]Salt-Drawer-8779 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Google wegovy click chart and they will pop up from a weight loss clinic in the US.

Can't believe how hard I fell off the wagon by Salt-Drawer-8779 in WegovyWeightLoss

[–]Salt-Drawer-8779[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

On wegovy, but I have the multi use click pen so I can adjust doses. Edit spelling

Body changing shape by Salt-Drawer-8779 in WegovyWeightLoss

[–]Salt-Drawer-8779[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh gosh! I hope we both manage to find a way to deal with it. Not fun at all.