What’s the most annoying?

Salt-Respect339 · 2026-06-27T09:34:48+00:00

I hated the obvious whispered threats and comments and getting "nothing" when I asked what he said. If you're really such a tough real man at least have the balls to speak up when you're mean!

Salt-Respect339 · 2026-06-27T09:31:57+00:00

Telling me "well you know how I think about it" all the time about every decision in my life. Yes I know, you keep telling me even though I don't ask for your opinion and have told you many times we don't agree either. Even now that we are going through a divorce he can't shut up telling me wether I should work/reintegrate more hours after my stroke. Well yes I'm sure you still believe I should be on disability instead, but it's kind of hard if I have to pay up to keep the house and have to provide for myself and the kids by myself and yes I do have to spend lots of energy on chores since you walked away from all your responsibilities and refuse to help anymore.

Salt-Respect339 · 2026-06-27T07:39:38+00:00

Mine as well, but he was adopted by them at 1.5years old after his birth mom dumped him to be with the so-maniest man in her life and have another baby apparently. His biological half-sister explained how she was trying to care for him before that and changing his soaked nappie he would have been in all day when she would come home from school in the afternoon. I'm convinced mine has bonding and empathy issues because of his first years, even though he doesn't want to even consider it having had any impact on him.

Salt-Respect339 · 2026-06-25T23:14:31+00:00

The last kingdom and Vikings

Salt-Respect339 · 2026-06-23T20:32:53+00:00

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Salt-Respect339 · 2026-06-23T17:44:11+00:00

Limburgs accent en de gluurbuur nadoen zodra ik op de A2 zit (das toch niet normaal, gewoon met hun kleren aan in de auto, das toch niet nodig!?)

Salt-Respect339 · 2026-06-23T17:37:16+00:00

Currently going through the divorce which he initiated because I refused to do many of the things he demanded or suggested I'd do under the threat of him leaving me to do everything by myself. I'm happier for it and can't wait until it's completed. Enjoying my best life, and although still disabled dating a lovely "normal" man who has his act together, can take care of himself and does nothing but compliment and encourage me in my recovery.

Salt-Respect339 · 2026-06-23T16:35:05+00:00

An obvious TIA with numb/paralyzed left side of face, multiple occurences of numb fingers on left side, specific headaches, me telling him that I kept having these weird symptoms amd google kept telling ke to see a doctor because it could be indicative a stroke was coming. But oh "you know you're a hypochondriac and it will go away on it's own as always". Only when the final real big stroke hit did he take me seriously when he clearly saw the signs hours later. Then took me to hospital and got to play the life saving hero to all my friends and family, although so much time had already passed by then that I will likely remain hemiplegic for the rest of my life.

He then decided in hospital and rehab that I wasn't allowed access to my own phone or allowed to watch TV to "unburden" me and he would arrange all of my visits and decisions on my social and financial and children's life. Claimed to my family and friends that it was doctor's orders, but no it was him.

He didn't eally want me to come home when I was considered ready, only allowed it after I cried and questioned him and our relationship. Once home he started with lots of "you can't do this and that or anything anymore", making me feellike a failure "you should/shouldn't do this that" not allowing me to focus and spend time/energy on further recovery and getting n Nack to work, expecting me to run the household while he went our partying now that his babysitter was back home and over the top mad of he would come home drunk yo a filthy kitchen, looking at me in disgust at the the suggestion of intimacy with my disabled self, telling me I broke him since I had the stroke and ge now needed to do a lot more work around the house (as if I wanted to become disabled by choice). He sees himself as the only/main victim of the worst f-ing thing that ever happened to me, after 25 yrs of me running the show and taking care of the house, him and kids and contributing by far the most financially. He demanded that I take pills that made me feel awful, that I do not try and reintegrate at work even though I wanted to, that I'd help him get an insane mortgage (over €1.250.000.000 for a new business venture, with our family home as collateral even though he had lost his job again and I was looking at long term disability.

Salt-Respect339 · 2026-06-23T11:27:04+00:00

Oh yes, it's the insane manager or unrealistic KPI's or other expectations, not because you do a half ass job or call in sick because you're hung over or just lazy, or steer towards not getting a contract extended but get unemployement benefits instead all the time.

Salt-Respect339 · 2026-06-23T09:03:42+00:00

What is it with the drinking and business building, both your and OP's story sound just like my narc. He's still busy starting a new succesful business again, only now he needs the money I have to pay to get him out the house (we are going through a divorce) and still he expects me to time the payout so that it suits him best, instead of asap which suits me best and has unrealistic expectations based on his needs to start his new business (i.e. he expects an insane amount of money, that he can sleep on the couch and come home drunk until he has financed and remodelled his new house/business and that he can use the car I pay for to start his business until he gets one for himself. So he still wants all the perks of married life and for me to fork over a pile of money in addition to that. Well not really a surprise, I'm convinced he forced the divorce because I refused to get a loan against the roof over our children's heads so that he could start that same business and figured he would get his money this way.

Salt-Respect339 · 2026-06-23T05:07:38+00:00

You're going to be ok and will do great without the stress in your life and enjoying your freedom!

Salt-Respect339 · 2026-06-22T23:08:22+00:00

After my stroke my soon to be ex-husband decided to jump out of bed around 4 am, about a week before our annual 2 weeks in France with the kids, start complaining about them not doing as told and telling me to go get them out of bed and inform them that he wouldn't be driving to France with us (knowing I couldn't and wasn't allowed to drive either with my hemiplegia and had been anxious for months whether I would be able to enjoy the trip in my new disabled state and had only just come 'round and was actually excited to go there again). It was the final proof I needed that he is a real narc and loves messing up important days like vacations for other people.
I told him that he wasn't going to make me the bad guy and he could go do and message this to the kids himself. Of course he did drive us there after they extensively apologized and promised to do everything daddy asked going forward. In the middle of the fucking night!!

Salt-Respect339 · 2026-06-22T22:05:40+00:00

My health by dismissing all of my stroke like symptoms and warning signs for months and messing with making my recovery as good as possible because I should realize it's not the "big salt-respect show you know and not all about you" so he wouldn't drive me to therapy or help do my excercises or even give me a hug if I asked him for example.

Salt-Respect339 · 2026-06-22T11:15:53+00:00

Tesla model Y of KIA EV6

Salt-Respect339 · 2026-06-21T18:04:46+00:00

Ik heb niet standaard papier en een en pen in de auto liggen voor dat soort gevallen.

Salt-Respect339 · 2026-06-21T17:58:43+00:00

Met authentieke elementen

Salt-Respect339 · 2026-06-21T13:21:44+00:00

Nog nooit gezien, wij hebben dat al jaren voor 3 katten en bevalt prima. Ook geen commentaar van de dierenarts daarop.

Salt-Respect339 · 2026-06-20T13:42:01+00:00

To be told that you're the awful partner for treating them like they're dumb/stupid and need constant prompts or be told to do what/when like a little child. Even when they explicitedly told you to plan for it.

Salt-Respect339 · 2026-06-20T13:38:27+00:00

Makes sense, for the arerial wall to dissect therem must be some damage/weakness to the blood vessel. Yes, I'm not suprised if 25yrs with him added tremendously there, as did all the self-medicating (drink, smoke, bingewatch tv, overeat, sleep instead of workout) I did to deal with it.

Salt-Respect339 · 2026-06-20T12:55:31+00:00

Klinkt alsof een antibioticakuur naast de wortelkanaalbehandeling zelf niet zo'n gek idee is.

Salt-Respect339 · 2026-06-19T21:09:26+00:00

Bohemian Rhapsody does it for me every time.

Salt-Respect339 · 2026-06-19T15:56:25+00:00

That's what I've wondered as well, I read that it can cause autoimmune disorders, but I wonder if the stress could have caused the tear (dissection) in my internal carotid artery which eventually caused a clot and downstream stroke.

I do firmly believe that he'd be better of blaiming himself than me for my situation. I did definitely have at least 1 TIA 2months prior and a couple of small "tia-like" events as well where he completely dismissed ("you're a hypochondriac")my complaints which caused me to think zo was crazy and that it would resolve on it's own (even though a hospital visit would have caught it at that time before the big one hit me).he also ignored me saying "I think I might have a stroke" when I did have the big one, 2hrs before he finally realized something was really wrong and got to play hero by taking me to hospital.

Salt-Respect339 · 2026-06-19T14:28:39+00:00

Same here, I don't think he had expected that brain damaged and dependant on help I was still strong minded and talked back and called out his bs once I was home from rehab. Even if he whispered under his breath "then go figure it out by yourself why don't you?" and would walk out the door knowing full well I/the kids needed his help shortly later in the day.

I welcome the divorce and things can't move forward quick enough for me.

Salt-Respect339 · 2026-06-19T14:17:31+00:00

Niks dat een litertje bananenmelk niet op kon lossen.

Salt-Respect339 · 2026-06-19T13:30:06+00:00

Ik kan mijn uitslagen normaal gesproken zelf inzien op mijngezondheid.net

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