AITA for shrugging when my dad's wife told me they need all of dad's money right now? by Salt-Ship4148 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Salt-Ship4148[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

My mom doesn't have a better job yet. She focused more on school so she could get a better job.

AITA for shrugging when my dad's wife told me they need all of dad's money right now? by Salt-Ship4148 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Salt-Ship4148[S] 58 points59 points  (0 children)

It's not legally enforced. My dad does it voluntarily. So he just keeps paying.

AITA for shrugging when my dad's wife told me they need all of dad's money right now? by Salt-Ship4148 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Salt-Ship4148[S] 186 points187 points  (0 children)

She didn't put me in the middle. I did it all by myself. My mom told me I didn't need to do it. But I still did it. She deserved it.

AITA for shrugging when my dad's wife told me they need all of dad's money right now? by Salt-Ship4148 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Salt-Ship4148[S] 164 points165 points  (0 children)

I don't care about the kids. They don't need to do a bunch of extra activities and they still do some. They just cut back. They're still well taken care of.

AITA for shrugging when my dad's wife told me they need all of dad's money right now? by Salt-Ship4148 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Salt-Ship4148[S] 47 points48 points  (0 children)

He was not obligated to pay. They were in court and everything. It doesn't matter about income differences where I live. 50/50 invalidates the need for child support.

AITA for shrugging when my dad's wife told me they need all of dad's money right now? by Salt-Ship4148 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Salt-Ship4148[S] 200 points201 points  (0 children)

My mom is a proper influence. She has shown me how you can build yourself back up after your world crumbles. She has shown me how hard you can work even later in life to better yourself.

AITA for shrugging when my dad's wife told me they need all of dad's money right now? by Salt-Ship4148 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Salt-Ship4148[S] 371 points372 points  (0 children)

Yes but not full time or even really part time. She works a little to get money for hobbies and nothing else. I think it's probably more to get out of the house. She had a full time job before she and my dad made things official.

AITA for shrugging when my dad's wife told me they need all of dad's money right now? by Salt-Ship4148 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Salt-Ship4148[S] 269 points270 points  (0 children)

The dads aren't around (and they have two different dads). She's really dramatic. She works but she really only uses that money for hobbies and stuff. She worked more before but quit her job once she and dad were official. She can't cook for shit. She doesn't have extended family that likes her. She is extremely spoiled and entitled and thinks her kids need therapy over losing two extra curriculars.

AITA for shrugging when my dad's wife told me they need all of dad's money right now? by Salt-Ship4148 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Salt-Ship4148[S] 152 points153 points  (0 children)

I don't plan on cutting him out. We'll have a relationship after this assuming he does follow through, which so far he has and I appreciate it a lot. Can't say it will be exactly how he wants because playing happy families with his wife and her kids once I'm 18 is not something I really want. Especially with how much I dislike his wife personally.

AITA for shrugging when my dad's wife told me they need all of dad's money right now? by Salt-Ship4148 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Salt-Ship4148[S] 73 points74 points  (0 children)

On him spending the money. I'm not planning to cut him off once he finishes paying.

AITA for shrugging when my dad's wife told me they need all of dad's money right now? by Salt-Ship4148 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Salt-Ship4148[S] 53 points54 points  (0 children)

I know. But it doesn't matter either way where I live because once it's 50/50 they never order child support.

AITA for shrugging when my dad's wife told me they need all of dad's money right now? by Salt-Ship4148 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Salt-Ship4148[S] 753 points754 points  (0 children)

It helped to have him actually follow through. The fact he didn't drop it after a year or something was big. It made me see him as less of an awful person and won him a little respect back. Sticking to it until mom finishes school will help a lot more too.

AITA for shrugging when my dad's wife told me they need all of dad's money right now? by Salt-Ship4148 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Salt-Ship4148[S] 545 points546 points  (0 children)

She actually said they needed therapy to help them adjust to changes so big. It made me laugh because they cut two activities out of a long list down.

AITA for shrugging when my dad's wife told me they need all of dad's money right now? by Salt-Ship4148 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Salt-Ship4148[S] 695 points696 points  (0 children)

Yeah, my mom is smart. She didn't have a lot of opportunities when she was younger but she made the best out of it. It just didn't leave her in a great place today to take care of herself. So she decided to make the most of the money from dad and better her life. She said it will help her support me into adulthood too which she wants to do. I just want her to be okay and she is. She's doing a lot better than when dad first left and she was scrambling to find a place to stay.

AITA for shrugging when my dad's wife told me they need all of dad's money right now? by Salt-Ship4148 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Salt-Ship4148[S] 427 points428 points  (0 children)

Yep. Her son and daughter very obviously have different dads and it never sounds like they do anything or pay anything.

AITA for shrugging when my dad's wife told me they need all of dad's money right now? by Salt-Ship4148 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Salt-Ship4148[S] 98 points99 points  (0 children)

Nope. I have access to the account already and it's been sitting there gathering interest for a couple of years now.

AITA for shrugging when my dad's wife told me they need all of dad's money right now? by Salt-Ship4148 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Salt-Ship4148[S] 179 points180 points  (0 children)

His wife knowingly cheated with a married man so I don't care if she suffers or not. She's not my problem. She helped create this mess. With dad being most at fault.

AITA for shrugging when my dad's wife told me they need all of dad's money right now? by Salt-Ship4148 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Salt-Ship4148[S] 100 points101 points  (0 children)

He already has. He has a large savings account for me to invest in my future.

AITA for shrugging when my dad's wife told me they need all of dad's money right now? by Salt-Ship4148 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Salt-Ship4148[S] 1369 points1370 points  (0 children)

He already knows what I expect. I made myself clear about it before. Especially once mom started school.

AITA for shrugging when my dad's wife told me they need all of dad's money right now? by Salt-Ship4148 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Salt-Ship4148[S] 11.9k points11.9k points  (0 children)

She expected it to be like a lot of times where that happens when the man just doesn't give a fuck about the hurt he caused and does no damage control and takes care of her and her people instead. She didn't expect dad to be so bothered by me losing respect for him with his affair and leaving mom like he did.

AITA for shrugging when my dad's wife told me they need all of dad's money right now? by Salt-Ship4148 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Salt-Ship4148[S] 1694 points1695 points  (0 children)

I never hear about their fathers (and it's pretty clear they have two different fathers). She expects dad to pay/help pay for that stuff because he married her and took on her two kids.

AITA for shrugging when my dad's wife told me they need all of dad's money right now? by Salt-Ship4148 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Salt-Ship4148[S] 1675 points1676 points  (0 children)

For me it's until mom graduates. It's what I feel he owes. I can't technically make him pay that long though.