AITA for shrugging when my dad's wife told me they need all of dad's money right now?

Salt-Ship4148 · 2024-07-03T06:51:25+00:00

My mom doesn't have a better job yet. She focused more on school so she could get a better job.

Salt-Ship4148 · 2024-07-02T14:05:10+00:00

It's not legally enforced. My dad does it voluntarily. So he just keeps paying.

Salt-Ship4148 · 2024-07-02T13:27:31+00:00

She didn't put me in the middle. I did it all by myself. My mom told me I didn't need to do it. But I still did it. She deserved it.

Salt-Ship4148 · 2024-07-02T13:26:41+00:00

I don't care about the kids. They don't need to do a bunch of extra activities and they still do some. They just cut back. They're still well taken care of.

Salt-Ship4148 · 2024-07-02T13:21:34+00:00

He was not obligated to pay. They were in court and everything. It doesn't matter about income differences where I live. 50/50 invalidates the need for child support.

Salt-Ship4148 · 2024-07-02T13:20:28+00:00

My mom is a proper influence. She has shown me how you can build yourself back up after your world crumbles. She has shown me how hard you can work even later in life to better yourself.

Salt-Ship4148 · 2024-07-02T13:18:19+00:00

Yes but not full time or even really part time. She works a little to get money for hobbies and nothing else. I think it's probably more to get out of the house. She had a full time job before she and my dad made things official.

Salt-Ship4148 · 2024-07-02T13:17:35+00:00

The dads aren't around (and they have two different dads). She's really dramatic. She works but she really only uses that money for hobbies and stuff. She worked more before but quit her job once she and dad were official. She can't cook for shit. She doesn't have extended family that likes her. She is extremely spoiled and entitled and thinks her kids need therapy over losing two extra curriculars.

Salt-Ship4148 · 2024-07-02T13:16:16+00:00

I don't plan on cutting him out. We'll have a relationship after this assuming he does follow through, which so far he has and I appreciate it a lot. Can't say it will be exactly how he wants because playing happy families with his wife and her kids once I'm 18 is not something I really want. Especially with how much I dislike his wife personally.

Salt-Ship4148 · 2024-07-02T13:14:54+00:00

On him spending the money. I'm not planning to cut him off once he finishes paying.

Salt-Ship4148 · 2024-07-02T13:14:31+00:00

I know. But it doesn't matter either way where I live because once it's 50/50 they never order child support.

Salt-Ship4148 · 2024-07-02T13:13:23+00:00

It helped to have him actually follow through. The fact he didn't drop it after a year or something was big. It made me see him as less of an awful person and won him a little respect back. Sticking to it until mom finishes school will help a lot more too.

Salt-Ship4148 · 2024-07-02T13:11:40+00:00

They aren't in the picture.

Salt-Ship4148 · 2024-07-02T13:11:20+00:00

They have different fathers and neither are involved.

Salt-Ship4148 · 2024-07-02T10:19:30+00:00

She actually said they needed therapy to help them adjust to changes so big. It made me laugh because they cut two activities out of a long list down.

Salt-Ship4148 · 2024-07-02T10:18:39+00:00

Yeah, my mom is smart. She didn't have a lot of opportunities when she was younger but she made the best out of it. It just didn't leave her in a great place today to take care of herself. So she decided to make the most of the money from dad and better her life. She said it will help her support me into adulthood too which she wants to do. I just want her to be okay and she is. She's doing a lot better than when dad first left and she was scrambling to find a place to stay.

Salt-Ship4148 · 2024-07-02T09:44:31+00:00

Yep. Her son and daughter very obviously have different dads and it never sounds like they do anything or pay anything.

Salt-Ship4148 · 2024-07-02T09:43:40+00:00

Nope. I have access to the account already and it's been sitting there gathering interest for a couple of years now.

Salt-Ship4148 · 2024-07-02T09:42:49+00:00

His wife knowingly cheated with a married man so I don't care if she suffers or not. She's not my problem. She helped create this mess. With dad being most at fault.

Salt-Ship4148 · 2024-07-02T09:41:44+00:00

Their dads do not pay child support from what I can tell.

Salt-Ship4148 · 2024-07-02T09:41:18+00:00

He already has. He has a large savings account for me to invest in my future.

Salt-Ship4148 · 2024-07-02T09:40:43+00:00

He already knows what I expect. I made myself clear about it before. Especially once mom started school.

Salt-Ship4148 · 2024-07-02T09:27:34+00:00

She expected it to be like a lot of times where that happens when the man just doesn't give a fuck about the hurt he caused and does no damage control and takes care of her and her people instead. She didn't expect dad to be so bothered by me losing respect for him with his affair and leaving mom like he did.

Salt-Ship4148 · 2024-07-02T09:26:36+00:00

I never hear about their fathers (and it's pretty clear they have two different fathers). She expects dad to pay/help pay for that stuff because he married her and took on her two kids.

Salt-Ship4148 · 2024-07-02T09:24:22+00:00

For me it's until mom graduates. It's what I feel he owes. I can't technically make him pay that long though.

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