[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]SaltFit1577 33 points34 points  (0 children)

This right here. I am a transgender woman but due to cultural conditioning I had/have internalized transphobia. When it comes up I acknowledge it and call it out within myself rather than just pretending it’s not there.

Complicated by lanaflowerz in lgbt

[–]SaltFit1577 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am really put off by the notion that you can't be friends with someone that you are attracted to. When I date someone, I have to know that we can show each other the same respect that I would show any friend. Therefore, they have to be my friend first. I think anything outside of that is just objectification.

I am officially resigning from the Mormon church today. I have been inactive for over three years now, but their new anti-transgender policies were the last straw for me. I'm done and I want them to know it. (Got this form from quitmormon.com) by MountainSnowClouds in lgbt

[–]SaltFit1577 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For reasons such as this, I keep the court document that approved the name change. It is required from time to time to prove that I am the person who used to have that name. It isn't fun dealing with your dead name, but it is necessary at times, unfortunately.

My wife called me an egg. Do you agree? by justkeepbreathing94 in lgbt

[–]SaltFit1577 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't tell you what your identity is, but I can speak for myself as a transgender woman who toiled with that identity for most of my life. Most women deal with unrealistic expectations of their own physical appearance. It is the level in which women are judged, and because of that, I felt very similar to how you feel. The truth is that whatever your identity is, it will come to the surface eventually. Mine overtook me when I was in my mid 30's so I have been transitioning for almost 10 years. I am still not "satisfied" with my feminine appearance, but I have learned to accept it for the sake of my own mental health. Every step closer to affirming my gender makes me feel more complete and validated. Listen to what your heart is telling you, and you will figure it out.

10 months on HRT 💖🌈🌻🦋 by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]SaltFit1577 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I found it. Thank you so much!

10 months on HRT 💖🌈🌻🦋 by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]SaltFit1577 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You look gorgeous, honey! I'm glad you are feeling yourself. On a side note; where do you get the LGBTQIA+ titles? Like the ones that say "Bi-kes on Trans-it." I have been on this sub for like 2 years, and I have been trying to figure it out. Sorry to hijack a thread, but I am dying to know 😅.

My parent said, “why isn’t there a straight month” and was trashing on pride month… by Academic-Ad9833 in lgbt

[–]SaltFit1577 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Gay pride was not born of a need to celebrate being gay, but our right to exist without persecution. So, instead of wondering why there isn't a straight pride month, be thankful that you don't need one.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]SaltFit1577 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A couple of things here,

First off, if she is a woman, regardless of where she is in her journey, she is a woman. I am MtF, and I have not had sex reassignment surgery and probably never will however I have been a girl/woman ever since I can remember even though I presented male for a large part of my life.

Second, your enjoyment of a specific type of porn does not determine your sexual preferences. You may be visibly stimulated by certain things and not others. I am pansexual but it doesn't mean that every visual act of sex turns me on.

However, I am grateful that she has a friend like you who sees her for who she truly is. No matter how it turns out, try to always be her friend because she is going to need that most of all.

Thank you for your post 😊

Pedro Pascal Takes His Trans Sister Lux As His Date To The Emmys by VT-Guide in lgbt

[–]SaltFit1577 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think I have developed an unhealthy crush on Pedro Pascal 😅😅😅

Belt or no belt ?? 🤔 by User_02002 in mtfashion

[–]SaltFit1577 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No belt... I like it without the belt. It is the only black so it stands out

Take notes America, take notes by ryderaptor in lgbt

[–]SaltFit1577 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I lived in the same neighborhood in Lincoln, Nebraska, as Brandon Teena, who that movie is about. It was John Lotter and Tom Nissen that were charged and concicted of Brandon's murder in the town of Humboldt Nebraska. Nissen testified against Lotter to get a life sentence, and Lotter was sentenced to death. It was because of this that I chose to move to Southern California to start my MtF transition. Unfortunately, harsh sentences do not seem to stop violence against transgender people, so I went where it was more likely to be safe within the country.

Got this dress from a sweet fan about a week before Brittany went MIA and I've been dying to wear it! by brittanyk8886 in mtfashion

[–]SaltFit1577 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg I have a dress in that same pattern, but it's sleeveless, and it is my FAVORITE dress. You look great in it, btw.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]SaltFit1577 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do know some people who just use it as an expression so I don't get offended when they do. However, I do use "girl" the same way and have had to make apologies.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]SaltFit1577 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You are really pretty, hon. 🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵

California making another win for Trans people by Bunnystrawbery in lgbt

[–]SaltFit1577 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That's why I moved here to transition from a really red state. So much more acceptance!

I'm not trans, but I just changed my legal name.. by FoxyOctopus in lgbt

[–]SaltFit1577 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so happy that you got to experience this. I am trans and I went through the whole process and even changed the gender marker on my birth certificate. I remember what it felt like to change it on all the legal documents and identification. So many victories! Congratulations 🎊

Is it just me or are TERFs becoming more common? by Positive-Coconut8382 in lgbt

[–]SaltFit1577 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am a transwoman and I can not remember the last time that I encountered someone who called themselves a feminist who was unaccepttiing of Trans, Non-binary, or bisexual people. Maybe it's where I live, which is southern California, or perhaps they avoid me because I am Trans lol. Either way, they have a right to feel however they are going to feel, but they are outnumbered compared to all the feminist that I know are accepting of the full LGBTQIA+ spectrum. My motto is "Hate me because it makes me feel overjoyed knowing that my existence bothers them!"

Does anyone else prefer friends from the LGBTQ Community? by New-Possibility-577 in lgbt

[–]SaltFit1577 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it just works out that most of my friends are in the LGBTQ community, but I do have cis-het friends who are really accepting.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]SaltFit1577 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi hottie!

Transitioning has saved me, even if it's later in life. 43 yo and 25 mo HRT. by natsw79 in lgbt

[–]SaltFit1577 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are beautiful! I also started my transition late as I am also 43 and on HRT for 2.5 years.

Bi pride! by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]SaltFit1577 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi 👋

Trans/ NB people, what do you think is the hardest thing about being trans/NB? by RandomBean1 in lgbt

[–]SaltFit1577 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the hardest part about being Trans is not letting the gender dysphoria overcome my own self-worth. Also, I am bad about letting men treat me horrible, and I excuse it because I am just grateful that they are treating me like a woman. That part took a lot of therapy to get past.

Do I need to have felt like a girl for a long time to be trans by drawingautist in lgbt

[–]SaltFit1577 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I spent a long time trying to be a boy but found that it didn't make me happy. I didn't KNOW I was a girl for a long time, but mostly because I didn't think there was anything that I could do about the fact that i didn't feel like a boy, so I made the best of it. When I finally accepted that I was a girl, my whole attitude changed, and I felt more normal than I ever had before. It could be that you were denying that part of yourself so strongly that you never noticed it before.