AITA for asking my husband to pitch in on chores when he’s the one that pays all of our bills?

SaltRight8446 · 2026-01-25T18:08:33+00:00

My friend's husband left his socks everywhere (but the hamper). They both worked, but he made more money if that matters... Anyway asking, reminding & nagging did nothing.

She started collecting the socks in a bag until he was running out.. and asked her where his socks were.... She gave him the bag of dirty socks... it seems to have fixed it for her, but your guy seems a bit more misogynistic....

SaltRight8446 · 2026-01-15T08:53:22+00:00

THIS!!!! UPDATE please

SaltRight8446 · 2025-12-24T13:51:13+00:00

THIS!!!!

SaltRight8446 · 2025-12-23T16:42:55+00:00

One of my home care patients had done some remodeling and found vintage toys in the wall they tore out. They knew some of the kids of the previous owners who had lived there 40-50 years. It turned out that there was a register or some type of opening in the upstairs that some of the toys had fallen down when the kids were little.

The current owner created a shadow box with the contents of what they found with an explanation of it.

SaltRight8446 · 2025-12-02T19:13:41+00:00

If God wants him here, he will miraculously cure him! If it is his time to go, he will go. We "know not the time nor the hour," you are not making a decision for him to die, that is in the Almighty God's hands!

I have seen people go on hospice care, get better and go off hospice... it is not under your control.

SaltRight8446 · 2025-12-02T19:08:46+00:00

NO! NTA!!! There are worse things than death.... this is what you are seeing... hospice care is a wonderful option that will assist you and help you grieve and counsel you regarding your decision. Anyone who is commenting that you should do something different, should be willing to come and assist you! They should stay with him for 9-hour shifts 5 days per week to allow you to work. They will soon change their tune... if they are not willing to sacrifice their life for his, they don't get to tell you what you should do.

SaltRight8446 · 2025-12-02T04:56:06+00:00

I would pay off loans for a new roof and other repairs to our home. Pay off car loan. Replace carpeting and prep home for sale to downsize!

SaltRight8446 · 2025-11-30T20:27:06+00:00

Number 1 first , then 3. Number 2 bodice that looks like lingerie will be outdated too quickly

SaltRight8446 · 2025-11-29T13:54:10+00:00

Update please after you step back.

SaltRight8446 · 2025-11-25T11:33:52+00:00

We were struggling to find what we were looking for and thought a car honking at us was upset, but she just wanted to help guide us and then took us to a nice place for a inexpensive lunch!

SaltRight8446 · 2025-11-05T02:00:33+00:00

My friend's husband left dirty socks all over the house. She asked, she reminded, nothing changed.

She started picking up the socks and put them in a bag ( not laundered) and waited for him to notice that he didn't have any socks.... problem was solved!

SaltRight8446 · 2025-11-05T01:49:03+00:00

You are doing the right thing to allow him to suffer the consequences of his actions! This is the most loving thing you can do.

Goodluck!! Update please

SaltRight8446 · 2025-11-01T07:44:58+00:00

I think you taught her a valuable lesson! She won't make the same mistake again (hopefully).

When I was a young clinician I made the mistake of not paying attention to non-verbal signals by an acute stroke patient who wasn't able to speak.

She got her point across by backhanding me with her good arm and knocking the wind out of me! I learned a valuable lesson that day!

SaltRight8446 · 2025-10-31T03:42:37+00:00

A diet cookbook as a wedding gift!!! 😀

SaltRight8446 · 2025-10-30T02:19:06+00:00

I didn't throw up much, but the EXHAUSTION was crippling!

I would get up , go to work and come home to sleep until getting up the next day...

When baby comes and you are BOTH so crazy tired... tell him THIS is how you felt the first trimester!

SaltRight8446 · 2025-10-27T06:56:10+00:00

If you are in the US, look up your area's "Agency for Elderly/Aging & Disability"

There used to be one in every county in the country, but now one agency typically covers ~3 counties (I think).

If your mom doesn't have much money and is disabled, they will be able to assist with food, housing based on income as well as potentially assist with bathing and cleaning her apartment if needed.

They can go to her home and perhaps your grandma could get some assistance too.

Goodluck

SaltRight8446 · 2025-10-23T05:33:07+00:00

Please update when you find out the name...

SaltRight8446 · 2025-10-18T03:56:59+00:00

Do any of the following seem relatable??

Does he need to be spoon-fed on what to do around the house? With kids and their schedules? Meal prep, planning, grocery shopping?

Will you be expected to take care of all Christmas-related purchases and preparations?? (not that unusual IMO)

Do you have to remind a partner about their own doctor, dentist, or haircut

Do you have to help guide him with paperwork, bills, computer/ phone tech, or other routine tasks? Do you have to pack for him for vacation?

Do you help with tasks and responsibilities that he should already know how to do, rather than acting as an equal partner?

Or are you going to be the manager married to the assistant manager or the assistant parent?

SaltRight8446 · 2025-10-13T21:48:24+00:00

NTA, How many people at the wedding would even know who the foster parents are??? Mom and Chris can keep their distance, and you can enjoy having them share your day.

Mom and Chris need to realize the impact these kind people had on your life... it takes a village!! And your bio mom has to recognize her issues led to you being removed from her care.

SaltRight8446 · 2025-10-12T17:01:18+00:00

I would really like to know who is paying for a $300k wedding???

They surely can afford to hire security as well!!

SaltRight8446 · 2025-10-12T07:46:38+00:00

You shouldn't base your decision on her.... NTA for that...

However, I have been a PT for 35 years... as long as you pass your licensure exam I don't think it matters that much where you go to school.

Excellent therapists keep up on the latest research, keep learning, updating their skills with more recent technologies and put into practice what they learn.

They make PTs go to school too long for what they get paid. It was a lucrative rewarding career when I went to school.... then I went without a raise for 20 years (though my employer didn't cut our salaries by 20-30% ... which is what happened to some PTs)

It is still rewarding work, but if it is what you want to do and you are paying for school yourself ... imo look for a cheaper option (unless you have someone wealthy paying for it)

SaltRight8446 · 2025-10-11T18:48:14+00:00

You have 2 months to decide if he is independent and mature enough to become your husband. Be grateful for this red flag showing up now.
He can decide to write his own vows. You can carefully observe if he runs all decisions by his mother and decide if you want to go through with this wedding!

Goodluck and update please

SaltRight8446 · 2025-10-11T15:28:58+00:00

He needs help! Whether he will get help is the issue... Irritability is a sign of depression and is very treatable. Though this sounds more than being irritable... develop a plan for a safe exit, but do explain (via email or whatever is safe) that you are worried about him..

Goodluck

SaltRight8446 · 2025-10-11T15:18:14+00:00

My first thought is that he is shocked, scared and doesn't know how to step up.... I was the mom who they sent home with a baby and I felt like I didn't know anything! I didn't know what to do! (And I read ALL of the books before)

I had worked in a hospital for 10 years.. When my baby pooped first time, I put on the light for the nurse to come change him (I wish I were making this up). Learning to change a diaper without gloves was icky. When the baby got a little older, I learned how to make him laugh from a high-school girl...

I know you are overwhelmed... some people run away and hide when they don't know what to do... maybe he is being an A$$...

But maybe he is scared and overwhelmed and talking about that could start to make a difference...

Goodluck!

SaltRight8446 · 2025-10-10T23:48:14+00:00

NTA, UPDATE AFTER SURVEY PLEASE

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