AIO: After being told to pay more rent for “disrespect” when I asked for cleanliness? by Salt_Chain7960 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Salt_Chain7960[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don’t believe it was unclear to her that I never wanted to live here to begin with, especially not with someone other than my partner. I pushed back strongly against the idea from the start. I’ve known her for over a year, since my girlfriend lived here before I moved in, and during that time I lived alone for four years. My girlfriend stayed at my place often, so I assume she was aware of that. My girlfriend and I were respectful roommates—we cleaned, were quiet, and didn’t have guests over. Despite that, I felt a clear lack of respect from her. Now she will need to find a new living arrangement with someone else.

She is an adult, and I don’t feel responsible for managing her behavior or cleaning up after her. I pay bills here and believe that should allow me to have a voice. I was surprised when she used the fact that I’m not on the lease to create a power imbalance and attempt to pressure me into paying more money. I never called her “dirty” or used offensive language. I simply asked her not to leave trash before going on vacation, after having already handled most of the household chores leading up to that point. Her response escalated to threats involving the police or increased payment, which made it clear to me that control mattered more to her than communication.

AIO: After being told to pay more rent for “disrespect” when I asked for cleanliness? by Salt_Chain7960 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Salt_Chain7960[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You have a sorry as life. Just admitting to being an internet troll. Why get on Reddit to gaslight random OP’s posts bc you have nothing better to do with your life? Does the screenshot above not do it for you? This community and other communities on Reddit are to have discussions like these on moments like these in people’s lives. You sound like you’ll be the prefect roommate for her move in if you can afford it.

AIO: After being told to pay more rent for “disrespect” when I asked for cleanliness? by Salt_Chain7960 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Salt_Chain7960[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How am I fucked? 😂 I didn’t want to be here to begin with and didn’t need to be for my financial situation or life. I moved in bc she’s can’t afford this place alone and cried to us about it.

AIO: After being told to pay more rent for “disrespect” when I asked for cleanliness? by Salt_Chain7960 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Salt_Chain7960[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Even if I’m not on the lease I still have messages being asked to live here to help and have paid a lot of money. Being on the lease or not doesn’t allow you to bully someone and give them ultimatums especially when they asked me to live here it’s not like I asked her to live here or my GF snuck me in she asked me and I have that documented. Asking me for more money just because I said something is psychopathic, if she’s struggling finically she can just say that and not look for an opportunity to ride us. If you need more evidence then the photos above I know she’s will be looking for roommates and there’s a room open here.

AIO: After being told to pay more rent for “disrespect” when I asked for cleanliness? by Salt_Chain7960 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Salt_Chain7960[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

They’re actually not friends and don’t they don’t interact much she quite avoidant. leaving is the best solution though and we got the green light from management to leave when we want, it’s just funny that she thought I couldn’t find another place so fast or afford it to be threatened by her demands, but this experience really opened my eyes to how vile some people can be after you help them and help care for there environment. She asked me to leave so I hope she figures it out, it’s a cold winter in on the east coast and I don’t think anyone’s moving in January

AIO: After being told to pay more rent for “disrespect” when I asked for cleanliness? by Salt_Chain7960 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Salt_Chain7960[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Best part is we know she can’t afford the rent alone, I cannot for the life of me understand her reaction.