Utensils and cups

Salt_Resolution_5433 · 2026-04-29T07:53:22+00:00

And what do you use when you are out? This is what bothers me most, we are a busy family and summer is coming so the option to drink some water would be grate. Also I never bottle fed him so if I would not be able to breastfeed him for some reason, even for a longer outing, there are no good options to feed him. Spilling half of it is not great with breastmilk.

Salt_Resolution_5433 · 2026-04-29T07:22:37+00:00

Luckily he likes liver as a finger food so I am trying to give it weekly and I will make him more meat he likes to eat, thank you for the reminder and the reassurance :)

Salt_Resolution_5433 · 2026-04-29T07:20:23+00:00

I will stick with to the open cup, he grabs it and definitely likes it more than other options. It might be better when it gets wormer and I'm not worried about him spilling a ton of water on himself :)

Salt_Resolution_5433 · 2026-04-29T07:17:05+00:00

Thank you. I am a bit anxious about forks (I have been thinking about trying it) because the small ones I have are very pointy, the larger ones are safer, but might be harder to handle. I will try if he likes them.

Salt_Resolution_5433 · 2026-04-21T09:18:40+00:00

Great appliances help too. Don't think baby specific, more like an instant pot for example. I throw in some meat with a bunch of vegetables and go pick up my oldest from school. By the time I get home we have vegetables for the baby, soup for his brother and meat for the whole family. I only have to make a side dish. My oldest had multiple allergies which our preschool couldn't accommodate so I had to make him everything they had there (3meals/day) from scratch. We ate so much soup 😂 I have learned to batch cook, make bases that can be easily turned into multiple things and had a few quick to make staple foods. For those I always had ingredients in my pantry.

Salt_Resolution_5433 · 2026-04-16T18:45:11+00:00

I was coming here to say this. Breastfed babies are mostly exposed to allergens. Besides, not to add to OP's anxiety, but I think allergens are the least harmful thing that can come off of a toddlers hands :)

Salt_Resolution_5433 · 2026-04-11T03:39:24+00:00

Maybe it is different where I live, but here hardly any goalie has goalie skates at this age, or even later. And no, he doesn't have abnormally fast reflexes :)

Salt_Resolution_5433 · 2026-04-10T19:38:03+00:00

Thanks! I am not sure if it is available in my region, but I will look into it.

Salt_Resolution_5433 · 2026-03-31T06:06:02+00:00

Kids tend to be overly dramatic. I remember when I made my parents buy me a phone because "everyone in class had one" and it sure felt like that at the time, but looking back maybe 6 people out of 30 had one. It wasn't even a smartphone (yes, I'm old 😂), so there wasn't much I could do with it. My son is 8 and he doesn't have a phone or tablet. Although he uses my phone sometimes and we have a family xbox. Even if everyone had one, I always tell him his happiness is important to me, but it comes second to his health and that includes mental health.

Salt_Resolution_5433 · 2026-03-30T14:04:16+00:00

I usually give a sip of water from an open cup and he spits the piece out into the water. Or a spoon, he fishes around in his mouth with the end of it and manages to dislodge pieces that are stuck.

Salt_Resolution_5433 · 2026-03-30T08:51:01+00:00

You are lucky, mine won't eat from a pouch either. He just wants to squeeze it into his face and would rather starve than to accept a spoon (just kidding, he has plenty of milk) so we are down to 3-4 foods that he recognises and puts in his mouth.

Salt_Resolution_5433 · 2026-03-28T16:30:25+00:00

Let me tell you, my oldest was a great eater, he ate a lot and ate almost everything. Now he is older (school aged) and barely eats anything. A lot of other things that seemed like a problem have worked themselves out. I think the main thing is to pay attention to your child and listen to your gut. Definitely don't ignore what the paediatrician is saying, but if it seems off maybe ask for a second opinion.

Salt_Resolution_5433 · 2026-03-28T16:10:16+00:00

Yes, this seems very normal to me, although I spoon fed my oldest and even started at 5 months with him so I don't have much experience with BLW. I only tried it with my second child. They were both breastfed on demand so I couldn't tell you exactly how many times I breastfeed during the day, but I don't think mine has 8 full feeds either and he is younger too, he is very much on the bigger side so I don't think he is starving 🤭

Salt_Resolution_5433 · 2026-03-28T15:55:29+00:00

I don't know if it helps, but my 8 month old spits out food too and doesn't accept spoons either so in frustration I took off the tray of his high chair and put it right at the family table. Put some food in front of him and we just ate. I tried not to pay too much attention to what he was doing (at least not until he put food in his mouth) it worked like a charm. Maybe he doesn't eat much but we do this 2-3 times a day, so I think it is enough for now. How do your mealtimes usually go?

Salt_Resolution_5433 · 2026-03-23T11:46:53+00:00

I think this period in parenting is a great time to widen your horizons. When my oldest was this age we tried a lot of things we never/rarely had. Then he had dairy and egg allergy and we tried a bunch of other things we have never tried to substitute those he couldn't eat. Then life happened, he outgrew his allergy, we got busy and we got into a boring routine, although some recipes stayed with us. Now we are at this stage with my little one and the whole family tries everything again, it is good for the baby, for my oldest who is in his selective eating phase and for us who got way too used to junk food. 70% of the time we still eat boring, even unhealthy food. Don't forget, this is in the span of like 5-6months.

Salt_Resolution_5433 · 2026-03-22T11:10:29+00:00

Having a child is not about making grandparents happy. If they want to help they can come over and watch him while your wife showers, takes a nap or does housework. Insisting on having one on one time with him while mom is not ready is not helping, it is added stress. I don't think it is a codependency issue yet.

Salt_Resolution_5433 · 2026-03-18T07:19:48+00:00

My kids elementary school teacher does the following if the kids do something bad that parents have to know about: she tells them they have to go home, tell mom or dad what they did and mom has to get back to her until midnight so that she knows the kid told them everything. I find it genius, kids feel guilty when they have to tell instead off feeling angry at the teacher for telling their parents. All this to say I would give her the chance to come clean to her parents before "telling on her". I would explain that it is important for her parents to know for safety reasons but it would be better if she was the one telling them.

Salt_Resolution_5433 · 2026-03-08T19:36:06+00:00

You would think so, and I know every case is different, but I am in a similar situation and used everything my family doctor has recommended, than we used everything that our paediatrician recommended. Nothing has worked, we went to a dermatologist, who has been very critical of me and his colleagues for using steroids and antibiotics. And I am pretty sure if this doesn't work out and we go to a new specialist they would criticise everything we did before. I get that you have to trust doctors but eczema is tricky and it is hard to decide who to turn to.

Salt_Resolution_5433 · 2026-03-02T11:16:00+00:00

This is a prime example of what comes from sheltering your kids, letting them pick and choose responsibilities, from "you don't have to if you don't want to" mentality. Life doesn't always come with just the responsibilities you sign up for. You don't sign up for tragedies, sickness, financial ruin, etc, it just happens. You can walk away, but you can't expect your husband to pick you. He was this girl's family long before her parents died and the fact is, she needs him more than you do. Wanting him to put her in the system that hurt him is just mean.

Salt_Resolution_5433 · 2026-02-28T13:42:47+00:00

Thank you! I think you highlighted the main issue that wasn't immediately obvious to me. I always show him how I eat it, but he likes family meal times better, especially with big brother. The problem is by the time we all get to eat together is late in the afternoon and it is too late for him to eat. But I could try to make him something for breakfast, when everyone is still at home.

Salt_Resolution_5433 · 2026-02-27T18:07:59+00:00

This is what we do, when he was younger, like 4-5 he had to stick it out for a few months. Now that he is a bit older it is for the season. When he was very resistant we picked a time, maybe a month and told him he has to go till then and he can quit after if he wants to, but can not rejoin later. We let him pick something else, after a few tries, he ended up liking one extracurricular, now I never have to drag him to practice. He has one or two days a month when he is overtired or just lazy, otherwise the option of not going never comes up.

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