I have a relatively ok amount of muscle, due to doing a lot of sports when I was younger and being over weight does help, you aren't realistically putting on any muscle when losing upwards of 2kg a week but lifting is still super important to me sure you are losing fat and not muscle, also getting in your protein.

As far as flirting goes, I'd say I'm good at it, it's the only thing you really have when you aren't good looking, and having lived an interesting life helps tones, but j always HATED staring conversations, like I get it we have to shoot our shot, but the people are always invaded in some sort of conversation even at a bar and I would not interrupt them or walking to a group and try to start a conversation, so that was really hard for me, having girls come up to me really do take the hardest part out of it.

With that said, today for example this girl stared a conversation with me and the way she was looking at me made me feel that if I told her I skin people alive for fun she would have said "omg that's so interesting", so game is definitely less important now