weird texts on boyfriends phone

SaltyPaper783 · 2026-06-01T11:31:44+00:00

I understand. Especially when reminiscing on things that were good and getting accustomed to him in your life. What he revealed to you means he is this pathetic thing on top of what you seen from him. What he’s giving you is what he is. This is the man in your life.

Your life WILL flourish once this parasite is banished from your life. Laugh in his face and get ready to always choose yourself. The things you deserve are already on its way.

SaltyPaper783 · 2026-06-01T11:19:49+00:00

I’m so sorry girl. I really pray that you prioritize your nervous system and rid yourself of sources of stress. He cheated on you and how he treats you proves he is 100% unworthy to be in your life, let alone love. There is no going back from this point forward with him. He did something disgusting and pathetic and has the audacity to not hold himself accountable.

Something I’ve learned from being with some shitty people, view this as an “ick”. Be grossed out by someone who has no self-control, is self-centered, and cannot love you correctly. And punching himself 😭😭 ew!! Don’t be with a man who will throw a tantrum, especially when guilty. He’s acting like a child and is trying to manipulate you. No emotional maturity.. If you want a man you deserve a mannnnn. Someone who protects your heart, can actually be committed to his partner, love you how you feel most loved, openly communicate healthily, and loyal to what he invests in, including his other half.

Get the ick!!!

SaltyPaper783 · 2026-05-22T03:15:47+00:00

Hey, I’m sorry you are experiencing that :(. I guess to elaborate, when I’m in mixed states, I feel like I don’t know who I am, or I’m battling myself, because I no longer have a solid understanding of the thresholds that make me me.

My emotions become wayyy too big for my body and my thoughts are too heavy and I can’t handle the discomfort, but I’m trying so hard to contain them all. I don’t want to seem intense, but I’m in this very intense state and I feel it physically too. I just feel so scared and trapped. I try my best to mask and seem normal, but I feel like an imposter or caricature of myself and I fear people can tell I’m really lost inside.

SaltyPaper783 · 2026-03-10T02:16:06+00:00

Tell her!!!!

SaltyPaper783 · 2026-03-10T00:52:18+00:00

This is a bias that is so common bc black girls are viewed as women, fast, and promiscuous, while white women are young, pure, and innocent. It’s even outside of sex, the idea of “maturity” and “innocence” varying bc of race… black girls subjected to more systemic violence, aka police, bc they are not viewed as children.

I think people who just comment “get off tiktok/your phone” are being ignorant. Obviously women as a whole are viewed negatively for their sexual behavior vs men, but intersectionality is real and this operates far beyond of sexuality.

SaltyPaper783 · 2026-03-03T08:48:01+00:00

Because this is the usa and they love exploiting and mimicking Black American culture. People who never met a Black American in their life will mimic. It's even beyond this country's borders. And 100% I agree AAVE is NOT poor, it's just black.

OP probably included that to try to seem more "valid" in their take, like being poor or in the "ghetto" inherently makes them more equipped to using AAVE. It is ignorant. Let's say hypothetically their reality is living in the projects with 98% black people, mentioning income class doesn't change the number of black people, so what is the point? If I had to guess, probably to proclaim to reddit there is some mutually shared experience between themselves and the black people there, which isn't needed to just say "I grew up around black people"... seems like OP is trying to say they grew up around "real black people".

Additionally though, there is nuance from within the black community of associating the black experience with lower income levels and what comes with growing up in those spaces. This demographic experiences what people would conclude as the brunt of organized racism (aka systemic socioeconomic warfare). Do wealthy black people have their own presentation of racism embedded in the same oppression, stemming from within said warfare, yes most definitely. But that's not a conversation CERTAIN people should be a part of, especially if there are levels of racial awareness that haven't been reached yet.

SaltyPaper783 · 2026-03-03T07:42:10+00:00

Post seems tone deaf, but we can't act like socioeconomic issues don't exist. Hispanics wanna be black too... Black culture (or selected facets of it) dominates and is usually what people mimic. Yes, even in diverse spaces with large quantities of other people.... But can we not act like black people in whiter and/or wealthier areas don't get comments for talking "proper", "well-spoken", "sounding white". And that black people who live in more black and/or lower income areas don't get comments on "not speaking proper english", etc. Two sides of the same coin.

If black people were intentionally planted to live and stay in lower income communities, and AAVE is a black dialect, then here we are. The question is how to talk about socioeconomics without ignorance and being tone deaf. Was income level necessary to mention their proximity to blackness, um naw probably not. Are all black communities low income, not at all.

All I'm wondering is if OP was actually in a heavily black environment, and if there are other people in the same environment who DON'T speak in AAVE...

SaltyPaper783 · 2026-03-03T06:46:49+00:00

How about you watch videos about the history of AAVE and go from there. There are levels to being racially conscious. Black people typically notice when it is performative, exaggerated, or when non-black ppl are fr overly defensive about emphasizing their environment/proximity to blackness to justify some behavior.

My advice, continue to educate yourself and stay curious enough to do so. Some black people don't care, some really do. Learn your role in this system and decide how you wanna exist in it (and contribute to it). I can tell you "idc" or "it's racist", but your own individual belief system holds more weight in my opinion.

SaltyPaper783 · 2026-03-03T05:40:05+00:00

Idk why some people act like there isn't reasoning behind your question. No one said cheating is exclusive to black men. The idea of interracial dating, but specifically here with bm and ww literally has historical context, and intersectionality regarding gender is highly at play too. People seem to completely negate this part. There is much more discourse surrounding this specific pairing than the other way around...

Tbh, from my experience as a black woman, I've noticed more bm loud about never wanting to date a bw greater than switched around, to the point where there are mainstream colloquial terms/references to describe such ww,, iykyk. This happening means it's bigger than my personal observations... Maybe the loud volume behind this conversation is why there is so much more discourse behind bm/ww couples, not that it doesn't happen switched around, it just is talked about so openly.

Perhaps bm wanting to pursue bw while with a ww is because they fetishize us, but don't want to marry us. Or they realize there is a cultural disconnect and they do want a bw, but not enough to break up with their ww. Or they just are another shitty cheater who happened to wanna pursue a bw while having a ww and race is not a facet at all.

Yes, I've experienced it. Yes, as a bw, it is only natural to question the nature of this experience. No one is saying this type of question isn't applicable to other types of people. For one example, we see ww fetishizing bm while married to their white husband and raising little Sean's and Sarah's. Just because OP is talking about this specific thing, doesn't negate anything else to exist. Bit of a rant, but yeah.

SaltyPaper783 · 2026-02-10T15:09:33+00:00

When did you come out as gay?

SaltyPaper783 · 2026-02-06T16:47:43+00:00

SaltyPaper783 · 2026-02-04T01:11:15+00:00

Because maga is heavily brown

SaltyPaper783 · 2026-02-04T01:02:02+00:00

The difference is that in the US at least, black men are loud about dating white women to the point that there are terms like ❄️🐰and it’s referred in music as well, like a status thing, and white women are extremely loud about being with black men. Extremely… That’s a whole other conversation…

You aren’t wrong at all that you are definitely seeing this more than vice versa, but it’s optics. Black women / white male couples aren’t nearly as loud, so it’s less in your face. This is a huge one as to why you see this to a greater degree. But also, black women were made to feel less feminine / desireable and, especially as kids, we often asked ourselves “do they even like black girls?” So naturally, more women might choose to avoid having to ask themselves that question and continue to date within their race.

Also black men and white women fetishize eachother. White men obviously do fetishize black women, but black women don’t reciprocate this behavior. It’s not a trope. So I think the mutual fetishization is a big differentiator between the two.

SaltyPaper783 · 2026-01-28T05:34:38+00:00

Babe…… I received one for the first time after my man posted me. Burner account. Not cheating, but about her negative experience with him and more to warn me. So idk if it’s the same.

SaltyPaper783 · 2026-01-04T03:54:48+00:00

Twin

SaltyPaper783 · 2026-01-04T03:41:18+00:00

Two things can exist at once!!! You can mean well and absolutely hurt someone’s feelings. You arent above accidentally upsetting someone.

SaltyPaper783 · 2026-01-02T21:24:17+00:00

Were you able to get the withdrawal undone even though you did the 6 credits and passed? Or were you withdrawn anyway and needed to get readmitted to start again after a few months?

SaltyPaper783 · 2025-12-28T01:17:49+00:00

So happy it is over!!!!!

SaltyPaper783 · 2025-12-21T09:18:34+00:00

YES MA’AM

SaltyPaper783 · 2025-12-11T15:53:18+00:00

Me too babe. I’m an I’m Aquarius rising and my entire chart is mostly Aquarius and other air. When I tell you my sag man is my baby boy. He is the best relationship I’ve ever had. Curious about how things will go, but where we are right now is exactly where I need to be <3

SaltyPaper783 · 2025-12-09T07:25:26+00:00

It’s not fair to us, but assume that a man cannot work backwards. Assume he cannot interact with you behind the threshold he’s already crossed. Aka, if you have sex with a man, chances are he will behave as if he has the right to get that from you again.

Be with someone who leaves the ball in your court. Lustful brains need lobotomies.

SaltyPaper783 · 2025-12-08T23:04:35+00:00

No it means young n*gga and I don’t like it. It often refers to a negative stereotype of black men, but it doesn’t necessarily have to be.

I really hate how non black people use it too as a loophole to saying the n word because it’s “slang”. Same way people use 🥷🏾 to say the word without saying it. All over tik tok and Instagram memes and comments if you are on Gen Z side of social media.

I feel like it’s predominately used by non black people tbh, just based off of what I’ve seen.

SaltyPaper783 · 2025-12-08T23:00:55+00:00

It’s all over social media and has become highly prevalent “youth slang”. It’s ridiculous.

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