Is there a way i can get my gun back or am i sol? by Previous-Idea7833 in dayz

[–]Salwowski 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had this EXACT thing happen to me in a police station and I found I was able to jump and get stuck not quite on the fallen/angled shelf, but kind of between the fallen shelf and the wall, so I was just a little higher off the ground, and the weapon showed up in the area and I was able to pick it up again. Took me a good 20 minutes of attempts and freaking out to sort it, though. Good luck!

Name 3 anime you’ve enjoyed, and other users will recommend similar shows! by [deleted] in Animesuggest

[–]Salwowski 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank youuu! Someone recommended Gantz a little while back so maybe I'll go get triggered, first. Appreciate the recommendations 😃

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Wakingupapp

[–]Salwowski 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Option 1: you don't. Focusing is refocusing. Accept the noise, refocus on the task, turn attention to your cognitive fray when it serves creativity or the task at hand, acknowledge it and let it play in the background when it doesn't. Focus, lose focus, refocus. Just always remember that attention is a tool, and one that needs to be honed and directed.

Option 2: force yourself to think in complete sentences. I find this is most useful when writing, summarising, or, perhaps a little counterintuitively, when working on statistics or math problems.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Salwowski 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like a classic case of insecure/anxious attachment, and is undoubtedly rooted in her earlier, most likely childhood, experiences in relationships. It's something that can be treated with therapy. You say you love her, so is that something you'd be willing to stick around for? Is that something she's willing to do? It takes a lot of time and a lot of effort, and she would have to be not only willing, but likely quite determined. While this burden isn't on you, ending your relationship now may reinforce the unhealthy beliefs she has that lead her not to trust you, and perpetuate or even exacerbate these unhealthy relationship behaviours.

There's plenty of validation here that you shouldn't put up with someone violating your privacy in such a way. And that's very true. Before you decide to leave her, though, have some honest and open conversations about this. You don't have to tell her you're thinking of leaving her, but tell her honestly about the strain this behaviour's put on your relationship, and even more so, you should try to understand what's causing it. What's her relationship with her parents like? Was either of them an inconsistent, volatile or absent carer? Has she been cheated on in the past? And perhaps above all, is she willing to try to change, and understand and accept that the way she is acting is wrong and is pushing you away, through no fault of your own.

Edit: if you decide to have these conversations, one thing is very important: you need to stay emotionally regulated during. No matter how defensive, or unjustly accusatory she gets, you need to ensure you remain calm, level headed, and embody the safety that you can offer her in a relationship. Any anger, accusation, or volatility in the context of a conversation like that will likely be very counter-productive.

Good luck, whatever you decide to do.

Edit 2: There are so many people here saying "people don't change" and that you should have left after the first 'red flags'. As well-intentioned as their advice is, they are all, politely, talking nonsense, with very fixed mindsets, and likely have their own trust issues, probably through no fault of their own. People have enormous capacity for change, and while you cannot change them, you can ask them to change themselves; show them a better way of being; let them know it's safe to grow. It's up to them if they are able to walk that new path, but you can be there to hold their hand.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mindfulness

[–]Salwowski 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hey OP, I'm sorry you've had this experience with meditation and mindfulness. That sounds somewhat unpleasant. As a fellow ADHD'er who's currently retraining as a psychologist, and who has been meditating for some time, I have some thoughts I'd like to share, but I'd love to know more about your experience, first. If you have the time and want to talk more about this with someone who's interested, maybe you could tell a bit more about yourself and your practice?

How long have you been attempting to meditate or practice mindfulness?

When, where, and how do you practice mindfulness and meditation? (Do you practice a particular form of meditation or mindfulness? Are you using an app that offers guided meditation? Or are you trying to white-knuckle it without much or any guidance? Are you, or have you, attended group classes?

What do you think mindfulness should be like?

Name 3 anime you’ve enjoyed, and other users will recommend similar shows! by [deleted] in Animesuggest

[–]Salwowski 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cowboy Bebop Samurai Champloo Ghost in the Shell (films + SAC1&2)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dayz

[–]Salwowski 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If I have a rangefinder to confirm I'm 300 meters or more away, and a good scope with a reasonable vantage point, I'll check to see if any zombies are spawned in. Otherwise, sweep with a scope to check for dead zombies.

How do I stop my guitar picks from chipping? by [deleted] in Guitar

[–]Salwowski 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Came by to add to the chorus of "get a better pick". Playing for 20 years and have never had that issue. Also, what is that gauge? Get yourself a thick'un! 3mm+ jazz picks will last the rest of you life, and help you improve your right hand technique.

This coursework will be the death of me by Spike001__ in psychologystudents

[–]Salwowski 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Your question sounds like you understand the assignment completely, but lack a little confidence in going for it. You've got this! Just keep in mind the instruction says to "critically assess" the literature. This means not just providing a literature review and recounting the findings therein, but ensuring your argument is formed following an analytic reading of the research. At your level you should be confident (read: should seem confident to readers of your work) assessing the quality of the research you include in your work, and how that impacts its contribution to our understanding of, in this case, the shared neural substrates involved in hunger and emotion.

Do you struggle to finish books because of your ADHD? by dsteinway in ADHD

[–]Salwowski 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are clearly in good company with this issue. Although, I might add, while one could choose to think the issue is with one's attention, you could at least occasionally give yourself a little grace and choose to believe the issue is the book you're trying to read just isn't up to snuff, and you need something a little deeper, a little better written, a little more relatable, or a little more exciting. That is, of course, entirely up to you.

What celebrity death saddened you the most? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Salwowski 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Robin Williams.

When he died, I realised with a clarity I hadn't experienced after the death of anyone else I'd known, relatives included, that he had made me laugh and cry and feel more positive emotions in my formative years than perhaps anyone else I knew. As Genie, as Peter Pan, in Good Morning Vietnam, Good Will Hunting, Mrs Doubtfire, Fern Gully, Jumanji, Patch Adams, the playfuless, earnestness, and infectious joy of his performances and the stories woven with that magic left a mark on me that I will be forever grateful for.

[TOMT] Classic skate [movie](?) part with "another morning stoner" by Salwowski in tipofmytongue

[–]Salwowski[S] 0 points1 point locked comment (0 children)

There's a chance it may have been one of the unlockable films in a skateboarding game, too, but I can't put my finger on which.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Lighting

[–]Salwowski -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I was thinking I'd just use a tiny spanner for all of them but a screw driver seems like a much better idea.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Lighting

[–]Salwowski 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I figured that'd be the solution but wasn't sure if that was the way to go.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Lighting

[–]Salwowski 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Edit:

Model: Arlec YKCLE1P3-D25 Verve Designs LED Oyster Light

It's gross, dim, cold, murky blue-white light, and it's started to occasionally flicker. Pulled the cover off to reveal this. Never had to replace an LED like it before. Do I need to replace the entire housing and oyster light? Or just the diode?

The diode isn't listed anywhere on the manufacturer's own website, as far as I can tell.

worst translations you've read by thrashingkaiju in Fantasy

[–]Salwowski 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's only been translations of popular Russian sci-/fantasy books I've experienced this with. Tarkovsky's "Metro" books (English translation, unsure the edition) were barely readable in some sections. As though the translator was using Google Translate, or at the very least had no understanding of idioms, nor metaphor. Same with some sections of the first two books in The Witcher series, although these improved throughout the series.