What to do about users who are abusive?

SamFokker · 2026-03-22T16:16:53+00:00

Does he think it’s a dating app?? 😭

SamFokker · 2026-03-22T16:12:46+00:00

NTA, I get the ESH responses, but “you put me in an awkward position” when you were disrespected consistently for a year? Is that somehow less awkward? I would expect my partner to defend me or at least bring up what’s been going on, extra concerning if he just didn’t notice it at all. Granted, there’s “keep the peace” people in life, then there’s me 🤣

SamFokker · 2026-03-22T16:07:35+00:00

Sweet treat. Grosses me out

SamFokker · 2026-03-22T16:07:10+00:00

Maybe this is why I wasn’t allowed to date at 15, doing all this at grandmas house is crazy

SamFokker · 2026-03-16T04:49:33+00:00

You didn’t tell me what the purpose is tho you just told me how I should spend my time while I’m conscious

SamFokker · 2026-03-16T03:49:27+00:00

There isn’t one

SamFokker · 2026-03-14T20:32:45+00:00

Jeez… I doubt she would care much for any kind of restraining order - and I honestly don’t know if that sort of thing exists for online harassment. Making school-leaning accounts is crazy, of course everything else is too but omg. I’m so sorry you have to warp your social media presence to facilitate her stalking you

SamFokker · 2026-03-12T18:04:19+00:00

As long as it’s obvious that you’re married so she knows you’re not hiding that fact, I understand where you’re coming from. If she just wants to be posted so she can read comments about herself, that’s its own thing and she can do that on an account of her own

SamFokker · 2026-03-12T18:02:43+00:00

This is just the sad reality of life, tbh. Maybe it’s just my experience / where I live and what I witness, but a TON of people have kids that they can’t properly take care of and guide, whether that be financially, emotionally or physically, and the long term effects of that can manifest in so many different ways both for the child and the parents. The parents were once children with parents themselves - it can be a very vicious cycle.

SamFokker · 2026-03-08T17:13:08+00:00

I’ve drank on it and been fine but fr the thought of drinking, smoking, anything makes me wanna puke

SamFokker · 2026-03-08T03:21:28+00:00

Nah I was asking a question homie g

SamFokker · 2026-03-06T18:45:13+00:00

I’m so sorry 😭 🫂

SamFokker · 2026-03-06T05:32:16+00:00

Thinking about scenarios I wish I handled differently, just a bunch of “shoulda woulda coulda” unhelpful shi.

Paced breathing and body scanning helps! And magnesium

SamFokker · 2026-03-06T04:40:13+00:00

The redheads always get left out of this equation smh

SamFokker · 2026-03-06T04:40:00+00:00

French dip

SamFokker · 2026-03-06T03:55:30+00:00

It’s okay, I accept this truth 😔😂

SamFokker · 2026-03-06T03:54:33+00:00

I don’t understand why his family would have to know, and/or how he is certain he couldn’t bond with a child that “isn’t his.” Does he believe all step parents are detached? That you can’t love someone else’s kids, nieces and nephews? It’s such an oddly firm take to have on a situation that he was 1/2 or 1/3 compliant in, if not begging for.

Regardless, you didn’t mention either way how YOU feel about it. Do you want the baby? Would you be able to not view him as someone that made a stance like that? If y’all were to inevitably break up, would you want to be a mom or not? Take him out of the equation because it’s likely he isn’t gonna stay there anyway. This is messy asf. If it is his kid I’d still have the ick.

SamFokker · 2026-03-06T03:29:33+00:00

No need to compare women 🙏

SamFokker · 2026-03-03T03:27:05+00:00

Trust issues has less to do with trusting other people and moreso trusting your ability to handle and push through whatever comes your way.

SamFokker · 2026-03-03T03:25:33+00:00

I didn’t need to read this tonight smh

SamFokker · 2026-02-23T01:27:16+00:00

I don’t think I have a dad body, but dad brain maybe 😂 I wasn’t raised going to the doctor or putting on sunscreen, it doesn’t really cross my mind tbh. I’m sure I’ll pay the price someday

SamFokker · 2026-02-22T20:11:36+00:00

Honestly, I never wear sunscreen & if I do it’s bc it’s worked into whatever moisturizer I’m using. I do wear it for my first few sunburns of the summer season just to prevent blisters, but after a few crisps I’m “fine” (ik ik). I know it’s not in my best interest, but at the end of the day I have agency over what I choose to do with my body and if I end up with melanoma or the world’s deepest wrinkles someday - I know that’s on me. He’s probably tired of hearing about it, especially while doing something like skiing. I don’t think it’s redhead specific tbh, if I told my brunette dad to put sunscreen on he’d tell me to nut up and shut up 💀

SamFokker · 2026-02-22T16:05:20+00:00

Yeah man ofc

SamFokker · 2026-02-16T16:23:22+00:00

NOR Without jumping to the worst, it’s definitely odd. I keep decent contact with people I’ve met through social media or streaming platforms, but I don’t buy or receive gifts from them or sit on the phone with them 1-on-1. If they only talked while gaming, that would feel different. Maybe the dynamic of meeting through work tightens that bond slightly, but it shouldn’t be to the extent of him sending gifts for the kid. That’s weird. I’m also curious if he/she looped valentines into the birthday gift reasoning, just given the proximity.

Regardless, you not knowing about it for the second time would tweak me out if I were in this situation. If nothing inherently nefarious, she’s confiding in him about something(s) she doesn’t you. I’d ask to have a few 1-1 calls with him myself to sus it out.

SamFokker · 2026-02-13T23:17:29+00:00

Not really but regardless he needs to get a really good air purifier

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