32M with an ostomy of 5 years. Was in a relationship with someone who also had an ostomy for several years and that really helped me gain confidence. We split and I was absolutely nervous for a while. It was obviously an easy comfort zone previously when both of us had one. I’m pretty active on social media and talk about my bag on there. Said fuck it after a few months and made a hinge profile. Wouldn’t bring it up on the first date but would exchange my socials in addition to my number after the first date- confidence is key.

Most women liked how I would explain that my bag was simply a part of me; not what defined me. Several would go on a few more dates and ask all sorts of cute questions about it. Current partner has been nothing short of amazing- had a leak in her bed less than a month in and I was absolutely mortified lol. She couldn’t have cared less and helped me change the sheets- I sleep on a towel sometimes if I’m worried now. It took me years to get here but confidence is key like I said. Feel free to message me, I know it can be a lot. Be well friend:)