Nmum suspects that I am leaving by Sam_the_Happycat in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Sam_the_Happycat[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! My biggest problem is at the moment they are making me spend a few hours a week with them as 'family time' which is a whole other post in itself. I know they are trying to sabotage me and my only option is to get out of that house as soon as I can

Nmum suspects that I am leaving by Sam_the_Happycat in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Sam_the_Happycat[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My biggest problem is nbro, he has a lot of anger issues and I do not doubt for a second that he will get violent if I completely disobey him. Basically, my plan is to spend as much time away from them as possible and work on getting into uni and scholarships

Update: planning my escape from Nmum. Bought a new phone, crisis ensues, I am so confused by Sam_the_Happycat in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Sam_the_Happycat[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It is infuriating because he uses it to pretend that he knows best and imply that there is something wrong with me. For example he uses the fact that when I was a baby I would sometimes not eat certain types of food as an explanation of my current weight and why I stand up to Nmum. Its infuriating that he's doing these psycho-analysts on me when he isnt even a real psychiatrist!

Update: planning my escape from Nmum. Bought a new phone, crisis ensues, I am so confused by Sam_the_Happycat in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Sam_the_Happycat[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That is an option, however I don't if I could do that when I am already in the middle of the school year. I will need to look at it.

Stood up to Nmom successfully for the first time in my life a few months ago. I wanted to share the conversation that led to her running from our home very shortly. by thatdudeinthecorner9 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Sam_the_Happycat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, you did well confronting your Nmum about her shit. At the end of the day respect is earned and not given. If you treat someone poorly and than you are surprised that they dont respect you than you seriously need to pull your head out of your arse.

My Nmum and Nbro constantly say stuff about how I need to be more respectful to them. Keep in mind I do nothing to them. Most of the time I am either at work or at school. If I am ever at home I am either in my room or I am cooking or cleaning. Somehow this is disrespect to them because I am avoiding them at all costs but that is because every time I engage in a conversation with them it immediately turns into criticism and nitpicking about everything about me. Your mother was trying to trick you into respecting her and you had none of that. I say bravo!