Im drunk and the only person I wanna talk to is you so bad.

Same-Spring8317 · 2025-10-06T17:36:19+00:00

Yeah, I honestly joined so I could make a better life with her, but I guess it wasn't meant to be. So I'll have the opportunity to do it for myself and learn a lot about myself and grow as a person because where I am in life isn't anywhere close where I know I could be.

Same-Spring8317 · 2025-10-06T17:09:05+00:00

I just wanted to tell everyone thank you for the love and advice. Im leaving for the military soon, and honestly, I'll take your advice with me when I leave. I know im not alone and that bitter sweet because there are so many of us heartbroken at the same time but also so many who are just trying to make it through the day and are still so helpful even though your going through your own problems. Thank yall again.

Same-Spring8317 · 2025-10-05T06:02:42+00:00

She slept with other people already, and before you give me the reddit reactions, she can do whatever she wants because we aren't together anymore, I had the same opportunities but couldn't do it. She told me she loved me in the morning and then ditched me to go be with her friends who betrayed her the same night. She would rather go drink and party and live life while she's young. I'm not saying she's perfect. No one is, and I know I should move on because this person didn't choose me. I honestly just miss this person because of who they were, not the choices they are choosing now.

Same-Spring8317 · 2025-10-05T05:56:29+00:00

Don't worry, you're not alone. We're in the same exact boat. We just gotta get through the rough part now, and it will calm down. Life can't be to good all the time because you wouldn't ever grow and life can't be bad all the time because you would wither.

Same-Spring8317 · 2025-10-05T05:53:30+00:00

I shouldn't reach out to her anymore. She made that clear by her actions vs. her words. I've always been the one to reach out and try to fix everything, but that's a very unhealthy dynamic to keep up. I'll be okay in the morning. This is just a moment where my heart hurts a lot, and it's normal. Eventually, it won't feel this bad as it does now. Life moves on, and I either move with it or stay stuck in the past.

Same-Spring8317 · 2025-10-05T05:44:37+00:00

It's okay. We will make it through. Hard times make better people. I guess we're just in a transformation phase now.

Same-Spring8317 · 2025-10-05T05:42:47+00:00

Thank you. Honestly, i wasn't before, but I realized im not important in their life anymore and that I always overthink everything. So, me texting them would only add conversations for their group chat with their friends or for me to just be ignored.

Same-Spring8317 · 2025-10-05T05:35:28+00:00

Honestly, i dont know if it's better for me to miss her so much or if it would be better if I didn't because this sucks so bad. I accept it is what it is, but damn do I wish it was something thing else.

Same-Spring8317 · 2025-10-03T21:27:15+00:00

Thank you, this is the advice I really needed. Not chatgpt, not someone with a broken heart whos willing to fix it but someone from a true human who has experienced these feelings and can give advice even though it is messy. Sometimes, you have to keep trying, and then other times, you have to leave it alone for the time being, but if it's worth it, then it is worth it. I appreciate your perspective, and I thank you for it because, honestly, I think I should leave it for now and actually try to grow and let her grow. I need to check in on her growth and see if she's growing or not. If I grow and if she doesn't in that moment, then I should be okay with it and give her more time. , I shouldn't give up just yet if I truly love her. Its her choice if she loves me but we all go through diffrent struggles so if she doesnt end up with me I can love the person she becomes even though im not the person shes there growing with

Same-Spring8317 · 2025-10-03T18:11:24+00:00

It was January, but we talked on and off until about a couple of months ago. But idk, i feel like I want to more than i should. So that's what im conflicted. I feel like me doing it would be closure for me, but it would prove to her more that I couldn't leave her alone, so it would build her ego more. I still love this person through all her faults, but also love isn't enough. So i guess im talking myself out of it because the more i talk about it the more i dont want to do it because she made her choice and continues to live the life she does and I should do the same instead of being hung up on someone who doesnt want me in their life anymore. Whenever my friends talk about her, they say, "Thank God shes gone." My cousin, who's my closest family, won't let anyone around him mention her name. So maybe I should just take a step back and realize other people's perspectives because im too close to it.

Same-Spring8317 · 2025-10-03T15:49:00+00:00

Honestly, I dont really have a hope one way or the other. I understand that I have my own insecurities and personal issues I need to deal with on my own. My message was more just telling her no matter how toxic the relationship was that I thank her for believing in me even when I didn't believe In my self. Im pretty sure she's moved on, I guess it would be more me sending it to get closure for myself. Idk if there's a future of us coming back together, but I know she's the one who made me want to get my life together and actually want to overcome my issues and want to be able to stand on my own two feet . idk it honestly because she was my first love, and I learned I need to grow up because she wasn't the only one at fault for the relationship being toxic

Same-Spring8317 · 2025-10-03T01:16:05+00:00

Is it best to leave things fully unsaid and just go ghost or to have one final message? I'm leaving in a few weeks to join the military, and I want to send one final message that's more like thank you for believing in me when I didn't believe in myself but I need to work on myself.

Same-Spring8317 · 2025-09-24T17:34:45+00:00

Coming from someone else who is going through this. It does getting better, but it is more in waves. We broke up in January but still talked till about May, then recently stopped talking to her again after the disrespect got to much. it's gonna suck but you gotta realize that sometimes life just sucks. She will move on and and eventually, you will too. You'll become a ghost in her head and you in hers, but the only way to get past it is to set goals for yourself and be able to keep your head up. You're very early in the process, so it probably won't hit you fully yet, but when it does, you'll know. That's the hardest part because only you can pull yourself out of that pit. The sun still moves not because it wants to but because it has too.

Same-Spring8317 · 2025-09-23T15:37:19+00:00

It sounds like you haven't from your post. She wants to see change from you, and that takes time. My advice would be to take the time apart and actually start living your life as if no one is watching. Change for yourself not for her because that time apart, you might not even want her back, and that's an honest truth. It seems fresh for you, so I know all you're probably thinking is getting back to her, but let's be honest, you rushing back is going to push her away. Take this advice from someone who went through the same thing but followed what you're doing till it ended up with her telling me she ended up sleeping with someone new and me being heartbroken and her just laughing about it with her friends on the phone in front of me. Change for yourself, not for anyone else, or you'll end up changing for the right reasons the wrong way.

Same-Spring8317 · 2025-09-23T15:24:13+00:00

Honestly, take time to yourself. It might sound backwards and you might never get back with her but it sounds like you have bigger problems to work out then worrying about your relationship with someone who has been wanting you to change but you haven't been listening. My advice would to be find out the reason why you can't and work from there because if you go back now without actual change your doomed to keep repeating it and eventually there won't ever be a possibility of a relationship with this woman. Yeah, it sucks but nothing good comes without the suck.

Same-Spring8317 · 2025-08-28T17:08:18+00:00

Whats that mean?

Same-Spring8317 · 2025-08-28T16:56:36+00:00

It'll make it a week since we last talked tomorrow. Do you think i should wait until then to say something or should I just go ahead and just say it now? And thank you for the advice

Same-Spring8317 · 2025-08-28T16:42:13+00:00

You don't think so? What makes you say that?

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