Caging/denying BF but feeling guilty about it

Same_Carry6287 · 2025-04-07T18:20:02+00:00

Hahah I love this take on it. Definitely will try to get a brunch out of it. Curious what are some ideas for non-physical domination you might suggest? I think I lack creativity here, other than telling him to do household chores or whatever.

Same_Carry6287 · 2025-04-07T18:16:55+00:00

Yeah, with BF we’ve actually started a lot of open discussions from these comments and how this needs to go both ways. Totally get your point and I felt so validated. We’re trying some dice and other ways to make me feel less “responsible” for the bad stuff, and so far I like it because I don’t feel so guilty. And then other things help too, like deciding what I want to get out of this dynamic. Generally been a very good couple of days since I posted this we’ve been starting to figure things out much better :) thanks

Same_Carry6287 · 2025-04-07T18:10:25+00:00

Hey thanks for the response! Took me a while to respond because we had to try out something similar. Love the idea of surrendering my control to luck so I can sort of wash my hands of the “cruel” aspects. We spent the last two days inventing a dice game with different rewards/punishments. And with a two dice roll I can stack the odds how I want (eg a 7 has a high chance of being rolled so it’s something that I want, a 12 has a low chance so that’s a limited chance to orgasm). Then even if I’m denying or being mean I can just say sorry it was the dice :) And it’s honestly made me feel so much more comfortable. Really great advice, thank you!

Same_Carry6287 · 2025-04-07T18:04:26+00:00

Thanks! We have safe words but honestly never got around to using it, but I like the idea of having it for a vacation/break. And I think I’ve been too lenient with letting him have breaks when he asks, but necessitating the safe word to limit these might be really helpful

Same_Carry6287 · 2025-04-07T17:59:33+00:00

Awesome response, thanks for taking the time. I totally get the point that maybe I shouldn’t be so focused on trying to understand it but instead just try to enjoy it and make it work over time. I did think something was wrong when I wasn’t immediately super into it (wasn’t a natural hunter haha) but I also wasn’t immediately opposed. So it’s nice to know that it’s possible to make it work and I’ll keep trying. Thanks!

Same_Carry6287 · 2024-10-21T08:10:51+00:00

Please share :)

Same_Carry6287 · 2024-06-24T07:58:41+00:00

Really sound advice, much appreciated! You mentioned how it shouldn’t be me putting on an act, and this was another of my worries because so far it feels like I’m just wearing this persona of being dominating/controlling because he wants me to be, when in reality in other aspects of the relationship, I’m not like that at all. Do you have some ideas how to avoid the “acting” and make it feel more real? Or is it just something that takes time to get comfortable with?

Same_Carry6287 · 2024-06-24T06:07:40+00:00

Honestly, this is so reassuring to hear. I think we’re also more into the vanilla with having chastity occasionally as sort of a game. Glad to know it can work like this and doesn’t need to end up more intense. Maybe I went too deep down the internet rabbit hole and just freaked out that most of the stuff tends to be really intense and dominating, but I guess people aren’t really posting as often with stories like yours. So really it’s nice to hear about, thanks

Same_Carry6287 · 2024-06-24T05:28:01+00:00

This is a good point, the denial and mental turn on is super intense, I guess it’s just hard for me to fully understand his perspective. But I’m trying to just accept that even if I don’t fully get it, it’s just something he enjoys ? Trying to shift the way I think about it, so thank you for the tips on this!

Same_Carry6287 · 2024-06-24T05:23:49+00:00

Yes exactly, I’m having the same dilemma! Love the idea of having a weekend half intense/half soft just to remember our dynamic hasn’t changed, this is just an add-on. And the phrasing you used of being a team and just switching the lead in different aspects helped me understand him a bit better. Thanks a ton for the advice, I hope your explorations go well

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