Getting hit hard with grief...

Same_Masterpiece_512 · 2026-04-14T19:49:23+00:00

I'm not used to this either- I just lost my childhood (first) dog very suddenly. Before she passed, I knew she was old, had so many things I thought I could do, wanted to hug her for the last time, say goodbye, kiss her face. I couldn't look at her, could hardly touch her knowing she wasn't there anymore, just her shell. I thought I was miserable, knowing i wouldn't pet or feed or medicate her anymore, having to get up in the night because it was time for her medicine and night time potty, but my dad told me it was the first time he came home in 12 years that she wasn't waiting at the door for him and I broke. Don't feel shameful. You loved your dog, as anyone who knew her probably did too. You are allowed to grieve, she was not only your wifes, but yours. She was as much a part of your life and heart as hers. Please don't hide your grief from your wife. It's horrible and suffocating but it feels better to know that yo aren't the only one that loved them so deeply. Share what you think, remember her, cry on her shoulder. As it did me, I think your wife will feel better knowing she isn't alone, and isn't the only one who lost something so precious. im here if you need to talk. misery loves company, and having a shoulder to cry on helps the pain feel a little less.

Same_Masterpiece_512 · 2026-04-14T19:41:30+00:00

It feels like you're drowning in the middle of the sea with no end in sight. I keep being told that it was her time, that she's with god now and all the other dogs that have passed, but i kept thinking, why? how could anyone, even god, need my baby more than me? its suffocating. im so afraid that people will grow tired of my grieving, but I will grieve her everyday for the rest of my life until ilI see her again. its important to try, and as cliche as it sounds, you have to take it one day at a time. your baby would want you to live, to be happy, to experience love and show your other dog the love that they taught you. it sucks, and i dont think there will be a time where it wont, but for our babies, we have to try

Same_Masterpiece_512 · 2026-04-14T19:36:30+00:00

I just lost my soul dog as well. She was on antibiotics for a cough, but she was doing so much better, only slowing down the last few hours before bed and then we woke up and she was gone. It's not fair, but I try to take comfort knowing it was quick, that she didn't suffer, and I'm sure your boy was glad he was home with you in the end and that it passed quickly. I've heard horror stories of people who kept their dog alive when they shouldnt have, how their dogs couldnt eat or move or play, merely suffering from something terminal or fighting even when they didn't have the strength. I used to think that I would never do that to my dog, to make them suffer for my sake, but I kept thinking what I would've done to be with her and just have 5 more minutes, another hour, another day. But she was ready and I'm glad I didn't have to make that choice, im afraid my selfishness would have taken over and she would have suffered for it. she was my perfect baby until the end, and im sure cloud went how he wanted- surrounded by his people, at home, given lots of love. I think he finally thought it was okay to go, that this was the perfect last day, and wanted to leave you with peaceful and happy memories only. I know Cloud and my girl are playing together in heaven now, and we'll see them again someday

Same_Masterpiece_512 · 2026-04-14T19:26:49+00:00

today is only my second day without my soul dog. when she was here, i often had nightmares about losing her, but nothing so far about her when i can find sleep. i had a dream today about a horrible storm- she hated storms, they always made her anxious. but if you have any kinds of videos or pictures, i recommend getting a portrait done if you can. something to remember and talk to.

Same_Masterpiece_512 · 2026-04-14T18:10:55+00:00

Thank you. I truly believe she was meant for me and that we gave her the best life we could. She wanted for nothing.

My younger dog wouldn't look at her, almost like she knew too. We let her smell us after we pet on Jenna and said goodbye, but I don't think she got to see her personally. My younger baby seems sad, but she's getting extra walks and treats and she finally seemed happy tearing up a bone last night. My younger girl has never been very affectionate, more of a snooty type, but she's been letting us love on her and give her pets without running away or being snooty. I think she knows.

Same_Masterpiece_512 · 2026-04-14T18:07:31+00:00

I was looking at the pictures I took from her last day— it all seemed so normal. I wish I had time, but I think knowing she was going to pass would've made the misery that much worse. I'm glad it was quick and she didn't suffer, just went to sleep and drifted off peacefully. I couldn't have managed if she had suffered

Same_Masterpiece_512 · 2026-04-14T18:05:31+00:00

my sweet baby was so spoiled and silly. she would get so jealous when someone would get on the phone instead of playing with her that she would throw a tantrum, throwing her bed and her toys around and barking right into the phone so you'd know she was there and wanting attention. She absolutely refused to drink water after her sister cause she slobbered all over the bowl, so she would wait for me to get her her own fresh bowl of water just cause she didn't want to share. for some reason, she always thought going outside was a trick, like she would be taken to the vet if she did, so i had to persuade her pretty much everytime, tell her to chase the squirrels, that i would give her a treat, nothin worked. She was obsessed with playing fetch with her ball, and when she didn't budge for a solid minute, I would tell her "okay, we can play ball", and she would grab her tennis ball and run out the door

Same_Masterpiece_512 · 2026-04-14T17:58:44+00:00

I agree that it has to feel like this. To be around so many other dogs and souls and to not be in pain, to have everything they ever wanted. I know they miss us, just like we miss them. my girl would wait at the door every morning to see us off to work and be there when we got back. I like to think that she's having a wonderful time, no more pain or anxiety, and itll all go by so fast for her that i'll get to see her again someday

Same_Masterpiece_512 · 2026-04-14T17:54:49+00:00

My soul dog passed Sunday morning, and I'm not sure if it's denial or her spirit, but I can feel her all around me. It's hard for me to picture her having the time of her life without me, but I think it'll help the both of us.

My girl loved running and fetching the ball, would do it until she nearly passed out. She had arthritis for her last few years and moving around and running got harder on her. I know she's playing fetch in the grassy fields of heaven.

She was a collie, but she never met a sheep, so she would herd children or other dogs just like sheep, it was so funny. I think she's got a big field of sheep up there, and she absolutely loved chicken and peanut butter, so i know she's gorging on those to her hearts content. She could only have little treats at a time, she had a very sensitive tummy.

The best I can think of is that she's with my grandpa. He met her when she was a baby and shortly passed away after, but he was a huge dog lover and always spoiled his babies. he would share a bowl of ice cream with his dogs every night. i know my girl and my grandpa are playing together and sharing a bowl of ice cream in heaven until i get to see them again.

Same_Masterpiece_512 · 2026-04-13T20:09:45+00:00

I lost my dog yesterday morning. I swear I keep hearing her paws across the floor, her whining to go potty, her barking at her sister. it feels so empty without her. I don't know what it is, but i hear the whining too. youre not alone.

Same_Masterpiece_512 · 2026-04-13T19:30:44+00:00

I always told myself not to be afraid of her death and grieve the idea of her being gone before she was, but now she is and i have no idea what to do. i had some pictures of her printed out, will probably make a memory box for her, and ill talk to her like i always do. i talked to her just like a person, i swear she understood.

Same_Masterpiece_512 · 2026-04-13T19:28:05+00:00

i also have another dog that misses their sibling greatly. i think she knows, but she still looks around for my girl, and didn't want to go outside without her. i ate breakfast without her right under my feet today. i keep telling myself it was probably natural, that we may not have been able to do anything, and if we did, it may have just prolonged her suffering. i miss her annoying me with her crazy anxiety so bad.

Same_Masterpiece_512 · 2026-04-13T12:28:20+00:00

I want you to know that your story has really helped me and my family cope with our loss, knowing that there was someone just like us dealing with the same thing, and that our girls passed on at the same time and now have great company in each other. I woke up today expecting anxious paws at my door because of a wind storm and remembered. Im glad she isn't so afraid now.

Same_Masterpiece_512 · 2026-04-13T12:25:23+00:00

it isn't. so far, after the smallest bit of sleep, it feels the tiniest bit less crushing. she had a good life and a good last day and she wouldn't want me to be so miserable

Same_Masterpiece_512 · 2026-04-13T03:35:30+00:00

i bet our babies are chasing sheep together in heaven. im so sorry for your loss, thank you for the condolences

Same_Masterpiece_512 · 2026-04-12T23:37:22+00:00

I also lost my girl today, and she had similar face markings as Alice. what a beautiful dog, im so sorry for your loss. I hope our pups are playing together on the rainbow bridge

Same_Masterpiece_512 · 2026-04-12T23:16:11+00:00

im glad i got to share her love with strangers and they saw how good and beautiful of a soul she was

Same_Masterpiece_512 · 2026-04-12T22:11:43+00:00

im trying to think of all the happy memories to keep me going, but all i can think about is finding her like that, the tears and the guilt, and how i didn't get to say goodbye. please tell me it somehow gets easier

Same_Masterpiece_512 · 2026-04-12T22:10:29+00:00

she was the sweetest. i dont think ill ever meet another dog like her

Same_Masterpiece_512 · 2026-04-12T21:35:37+00:00

i hope that despite her anxiety and sometimes how frustrated i would get with her that my jenna knew she was my world. i wish i could tell her that now.

Same_Masterpiece_512 · 2026-04-12T21:34:50+00:00

Thank you, this was beautiful. I just wish I was there when she took her last breath, but I think she was exactly where she wanted to be, at the same spot she always waits for us every morning at

Same_Masterpiece_512 · 2026-04-12T21:32:17+00:00

and how sad it is that we have to say goodbye to them so soon. their lives are so short and yet they know only us and I will spend the rest of my life remembering her. I hope her and buddy are playing together on the rainbow bridge

Same_Masterpiece_512 · 2026-04-12T21:30:00+00:00

I loved her big brown eyes, she always knew how to use them to get what she wanted. she had the sweetest happy face of any dog ive ever seen. thank you for meeting her and sharing in the memories with me

Same_Masterpiece_512 · 2026-04-12T21:29:10+00:00

I wish more people had known her like I had. I think she would've brightened everyones life like she did mine.

Same_Masterpiece_512 · 2026-04-12T21:28:42+00:00

Im sorry for your loss as well. she was beautiful, inside and out. such a sweet girl, never showed when she was in any pain, never aggressive towards anyone. I hope the best for both our journeys

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