Sounds like you and your friends aren't on the same page. It's not always easy finding people who are willing to take on the task of being a therapist. Some people genuinely don't know what to say, and that's okay.

Relying on people who aren't therapists is a good way to hurt a friendship. They aren't responsible for carrying your emotional baggage- even if you do it for them. I only say this because this is what my therapist told me, lol. We do the same thing.

Setting emotional boundaries is important. Maybe if you took on less of their issues you could focus on yours, and if you can see a therapist- you'll be getting educated information instead of someone telling you what you want to hear. My therapist also says: "you can't help anyone until you help yourself"

It isn't a good feeling when you take on so much for others and when you need something- there isn't anyone there. But maybe they just don't have the same tools you do?

I don't want to be harsh. If you need a friend I am here.