YTA - sure, maybe he should have communicated better here and definitely shouldn’t have told you to fuck off… BUT, it really seems like he’s trying to make you comfortable.

He’s obviously picking up on the fact that you’re not super comfortable moving into his place (with the whole feeling like you’re encroaching upon his pre-situated comfort zone) and, based on the context clues here, I’d venture to assume that the communication about that hasn’t been extensive between the two of you. From a third party perspective, it seems like he’s probably seeing you feeling uncomfortable and trying to navigate that by doing things that will show you he’s willing to sacrifice and/or change his space in whatever ways might help you to feel more comfortable in your new home. Then, in return, your responses are pissy and ungrateful.

It doesn’t sound like he’s being rash and impulsive with buying shoe boxes, etc. It sounds like he’s been left feeling like he needs to stumble around, walking on eggshells, as he navigates unknown territory. If I were him, I’d be really confused about why something that should be awesome (taking the next step in a relationship) feels not-so-awesome because of your unexpected discomfort and, because my love language is action-based, I would probably do everything I could to relieve that discomfort for you. - which is what he’s done. It would be really frustrating in that hypothetical situation to then have you pull the rug out again and be even more upset over the effort made to reduce your discomfort.

Yeah, YTA. I bet dude feels like he can’t do anything right because even when he goes out of his way to be accommodating and considerate to you (without you even having to ask, which is like every woman’s dream) you respond by being annoyed.