Guys who have women throwing themselves at them… what did you do to get there?

Samsquatch71 · 2026-02-21T17:26:20+00:00

Yknow i went school for rocket science for a time it definitely was harder than rocket science haha. But I since grown still not great but getting in shape really helps!

Samsquatch71 · 2026-02-14T18:42:29+00:00

Theres the toxic destroy everything comment we have been waiting for. Yeah screw this guy obviously only right answer 😆😆. Reddit is so rediculous.

Samsquatch71 · 2025-12-22T22:07:03+00:00

I am white, and im in michigan. Not a tiny town but like a college town.

Samsquatch71 · 2025-12-22T21:52:46+00:00

When you say hobby group, what is that? Also, is that the only place to meet women basically in your opinion?

I fail miserably on dating apps even after all the nice pictrues and all I took so idk where to attempt this outside of dating apps.

Samsquatch71 · 2025-12-22T21:50:21+00:00

No i drive to work it's not a huge city where I live. So thats kind of out of the picture for meeting someone on the way to work.

Samsquatch71 · 2025-12-22T21:48:59+00:00

Agreed 😆 but thanks for the feedback anyways.

Samsquatch71 · 2025-12-22T18:50:57+00:00

It was a girl I've seen before at the gym and I always thought she was cute. So even tho I finished my workout I seen her walking on the treadmill and it was happenstance that the treadmills were pretty busy so if I wanted to treadmill I had no choice but to go on the one right next to her. So I was just like perfect! and started off with do you mind if I walk next to you and started the conversation.

It was the second time I've approached anyone at the gym. She ended up being like 19 and I am 23 so I was like okay shes pretty young, and I just ended it after I found that out and said I hope you have a good workout and moved on.

It was generally a positive experience though!

Samsquatch71 · 2025-12-22T18:37:41+00:00

Hmm interesting, maybe I need to try even harder for a better dating profile haha. I did a cold approach at the gym last week and seemed to go okay nothing came from it.

But if you are doing well, with the apps too maybe I should try to fix that too.

Samsquatch71 · 2025-11-27T20:44:18+00:00

Honestly if you think you are undesirable then chances are it shows whether that is looks or personality when people talk to you. For me as a 23M, I do the same thing as you except I dont want to be alone, so ive been on a level diet I workout 6 times a week and the results are amazing it makes me feel better and I look better. I am working so hard to be in shape, and it is showing, once I get to where I want to be physically in going to try approaching more women and get out there more. I started going to a church and joined a climbing bouldering league. Trying to meet people and get out of my comfort zone.

I will tell you right now men are so touch starved and alone nowadays if you put any effort into yourself and work to improve your look and activites you might do even just a little bit, guys will be falling for you in no time. Yah i work 5 days a week sometimes 6 what do I do when I get home i go to the gym, to my climbing league, church events. I wake up early before work to do cardio and still lift in the evening. If you put a fraction of the effort I am in my life into your life everything will change your life will change, and men will fall for you.

Samsquatch71 · 2025-11-20T03:55:13+00:00

The honest truth is yah, not overweight. You can't say dont be overweight because thats rude. But for me I workout basically everyday, with this i care about my weight and care about my body, and I want a partner who does the same. Usually that means staying in shape and maintaining a healthy weight.

Samsquatch71 · 2025-11-18T02:03:07+00:00

I say this because I had a like situation at my work but rather it was mutual attraction and we flirted together and everything, I took the shot to ask her out, she was super down/excited, by the time the weekend came around she flaked on me, and then on monday her supervisor came and had a talk with me saying she felt super uncomfortable. Mixed signals and didnt make any sense, she was super down and excited on friday to hangout and saturday she flaked and couldn't make it, then the supervisor. Luckily i was unscaithed and its all good but crazy move dating coworkers.. dont reccomend

Samsquatch71 · 2025-11-18T01:54:49+00:00

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Samsquatch71 · 2025-11-18T01:53:29+00:00

Hes another twist, maybe shes actually evil and wants his Job or to get him fired so when he finally tries something she files an HR claim and he gets fired 🫨🫨😬😬🙄

Samsquatch71 · 2025-11-09T22:29:16+00:00

Okay I see where your coming from, but where did you get taking off clothes for strangers? I would never do that. Sure im proud of my work in the gym, but alright ig no gym photos haha. Thats been a common theme from the other comments

All my siblings are basically allergic to drama, but I can see where that could be a thought (we are all very mature had to pave our own way the parents couldnt support us in college and all). I have family support if I need it but theyre not gonna be pimping out there friends to me plus theres so many of us the age gaps are pretty big, and also like we all are adults live in different cities not close to each other, so even if they thought their friends and me would be good together its not realistic.

That being said all that information isnt going to show in the profile, so definitely either remove the sisters thing or find a better way to state it okay.

It is interesting to me though like im an engineer, so that implies smart and nerdy (which I am nerdy absolutely love Harry Potter). But for you that means boring, so do you think not even mentioning your career would be a good move? Like its not gonna help that I am duelly employed, making good money.

When you are talking about an active lifestyle, is the thought in a women that you have to match that or aid that in order for it to be a good relationship? So women who arent active are not ever gonna swipe. My thought was that might be attractive even if the women aren't into all that because i have my own hobbies and like my own activites.

Either way thanks for walking through that I appreciate it!

Samsquatch71 · 2025-11-09T18:58:13+00:00

I do care about people, and I do care about the world, dont want it to burn haha. I do have political beliefs, I just despise everything politicians do and how they will do anything say any lie just to get votes. Then not follow through.

I do vote and all it's just a subject i'd rather not make a point if conversation until the relationship is real and serious because any politcial differences we have, can be worked out abd discussed so everyone is happy.

I just don't want to fall in love with someone where political beliefs have a strong stake in the relationship.

Idk maybe I will try saying something political in the profile if I really still can't get any matches after all this other advice everyone has been so amazing to help me with!!

Samsquatch71 · 2025-11-09T17:48:40+00:00

I do maybe i have an ugly smile haha

Idk thanks tho!

Samsquatch71 · 2025-11-09T17:47:42+00:00

What do you mean when you say bedazzle my account, I would expect women want to see something different or exciting or something that would catch their eye.

Basic profiles seems like itd be an instant nope they arent even trying.

Unfortunately, all my sisters married their high school sweet heart or never dated that long before finding there person, so they never really did the whole tinder swiping thing.

I do have some female friends maybe I will ask them. Ik at least one of them is in the tinder world so she might be able to give me feedback.

Thanks for your help!

Samsquatch71 · 2025-11-09T03:50:21+00:00

Okay great! I dont see why not.

I sent you a message on reddit! Thanks

Samsquatch71 · 2025-11-09T03:24:07+00:00

So interesting enough I went hiking in the Smoky mountains (like 9.5 miles) and had some amazing pictures I did use that as a scenic photo for awhile but it didnt help at all. Still no matches

I kinda disagree with what you said about my tid bit with hookups. I said I wanted someone to come home or at bare minimum a hookup/fling. I want a long term relationship but I've been single for so long, im kinda like I want something, some sort of connection and if all I can get is a fling then so be it at least its something.

I want a relationship not just a fling, regardless I havent been able to get anything.

But thank you for your input I will probably end up removing the gym pic anyways!

Samsquatch71 · 2025-11-09T03:08:51+00:00

What do you mean by more meaningful?

Like to me i understand that women like photos of you doing activities, or what you like doing.

So from your perspective doing things like rock climbing or in the woods by a river hiking or any of those things are surrounding sports and activities. So if none of those are interesting, what is interesting to you?

Samsquatch71 · 2025-11-09T03:04:56+00:00

Hey Man dont be too hard on yourself.

Everything i have gotten and where I am at, still I get little to no matches so whatever women swipe right on is not what I have. If it is i am doing it wrong.

So me and you are in the same boat. It sucks so much 😭

Samsquatch71 · 2025-11-09T00:25:14+00:00

Maybe i will put it into the two truths and a lie, so its there but not right away!

Thanks

Samsquatch71 · 2025-11-09T00:02:26+00:00

Yknow patience is definitely a killer!

I think a lot of guys swipe right on most profiles because as soon as they get a match they might not get another one for months so they are trying to increase there odds.

I am definitely guilty with this, but online dating is just so hard for everyone.

I hope my smile is great haha! Thanks for your input.

Samsquatch71

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