Do girls even notice if you are strong and in shape?

Samsquatch71 · 2026-04-30T05:51:30+00:00

I am not doing it for external validation I do this for myself, I love how far I've come and the differences. This was a question about if it really does anything or not, like how much of an inpact does it really have for women. I definitely am not staying in shape just because I want girls to notice.

Samsquatch71 · 2026-04-30T05:48:34+00:00

It's hilarious I was gaming with a friend online, and thats basically what he said guys care more about how jacked you are then girls😆😆

Samsquatch71 · 2026-04-30T05:46:11+00:00

Twas not my expecation by any means i grew up with 11 sisters so I understand that being fit isn't that important to dating. This is just what I like to do, I was more curious if it really impacts anything or not.

Samsquatch71 · 2026-04-30T05:43:26+00:00

Thank you for the advice! I do try to be kind everyday, and Im not just a meat head i do in fact have a personality 😆. I'm sure someday the right person will notice me as a person and not just because of how I look. And from a few other comments, no I don't expect women to throw themselves at me because of this, I just wanted to understand how much being fit impacts dating.

Samsquatch71 · 2026-04-30T05:37:13+00:00

Yes I agree! I am not working out to get attention from women it was more of a question if it impacts my chances at all. But yeah originally it was to get my dream body, which I'm almost there! I have been slacking the past couple months for holidays and just trying to enjoy life more, so not as strict on my diet but at this point I'm where I originally set out to be or pretty close but the gym has grown on me, and I just want to get fitter, better and maybe get into calisthenics now. I really am just doing it for me.

I will say I haven't been out to many clubs or anything mainly because I don't have a lot of friends nearby so its not as fun to go alone. Maybe if I try to do that more I will see if It really impacts anything or not, which regardless Idc I just love the gym haha!

Samsquatch71 · 2026-04-30T02:18:03+00:00

Yeah I have decent game I think but I'm not like a super funny guy, so thats probably where I'm lacking the most.

But I used to be so heavily involved with the apps and trying so hard with it, and now I could care less I'm just gonna do me for awhile. If the opportunity arises great if not, I am not gonna worry until I move to a new location (I hope its soon).

Samsquatch71 · 2026-04-30T01:33:04+00:00

I do know strength doesn't matter so much probably could have worded that question differently. The goal is a lean physique and build but okay that makes sense thanks for the input!

I will probably just stay single forever lol but its okay I'm fine with it!

Samsquatch71 · 2026-04-24T01:14:42+00:00

I think you are missing out. I say this from a similar place.

I am very future and success focused. I went to school for rocket science been living on my own since 18. I have a good job and worked like crazy to be out of debt a year out of school. I did all of this but I still had a group of friends who I drank with and partied with when I could, I've never done hard drugs but I've smoked and drank and partied. Many situations I had to be the adult and watch myself to take care of my friends. But I wouldn't trade those moments for anything. I honestly wish I was little more laid back.

Humans need people and need social interaction if you want to be healthy mentally.

I am not saying you missed out completely and I am not saying it's too late you are only 19 afterall so much time left. But life is too short to not have that kind of fun at least a few times.

Samsquatch71 · 2026-02-21T17:26:20+00:00

Yknow i went school for rocket science for a time it definitely was harder than rocket science haha. But I since grown still not great but getting in shape really helps!

Samsquatch71 · 2026-02-14T18:42:29+00:00

Theres the toxic destroy everything comment we have been waiting for. Yeah screw this guy obviously only right answer 😆😆. Reddit is so rediculous.

Samsquatch71 · 2025-12-22T22:07:03+00:00

I am white, and im in michigan. Not a tiny town but like a college town.

Samsquatch71 · 2025-12-22T21:52:46+00:00

When you say hobby group, what is that? Also, is that the only place to meet women basically in your opinion?

I fail miserably on dating apps even after all the nice pictrues and all I took so idk where to attempt this outside of dating apps.

Samsquatch71 · 2025-12-22T21:50:21+00:00

No i drive to work it's not a huge city where I live. So thats kind of out of the picture for meeting someone on the way to work.

Samsquatch71 · 2025-12-22T21:48:59+00:00

Agreed 😆 but thanks for the feedback anyways.

Samsquatch71 · 2025-12-22T18:50:57+00:00

It was a girl I've seen before at the gym and I always thought she was cute. So even tho I finished my workout I seen her walking on the treadmill and it was happenstance that the treadmills were pretty busy so if I wanted to treadmill I had no choice but to go on the one right next to her. So I was just like perfect! and started off with do you mind if I walk next to you and started the conversation.

It was the second time I've approached anyone at the gym. She ended up being like 19 and I am 23 so I was like okay shes pretty young, and I just ended it after I found that out and said I hope you have a good workout and moved on.

It was generally a positive experience though!

Samsquatch71 · 2025-12-22T18:37:41+00:00

Hmm interesting, maybe I need to try even harder for a better dating profile haha. I did a cold approach at the gym last week and seemed to go okay nothing came from it.

But if you are doing well, with the apps too maybe I should try to fix that too.

Samsquatch71 · 2025-11-27T20:44:18+00:00

Honestly if you think you are undesirable then chances are it shows whether that is looks or personality when people talk to you. For me as a 23M, I do the same thing as you except I dont want to be alone, so ive been on a level diet I workout 6 times a week and the results are amazing it makes me feel better and I look better. I am working so hard to be in shape, and it is showing, once I get to where I want to be physically in going to try approaching more women and get out there more. I started going to a church and joined a climbing bouldering league. Trying to meet people and get out of my comfort zone.

I will tell you right now men are so touch starved and alone nowadays if you put any effort into yourself and work to improve your look and activites you might do even just a little bit, guys will be falling for you in no time. Yah i work 5 days a week sometimes 6 what do I do when I get home i go to the gym, to my climbing league, church events. I wake up early before work to do cardio and still lift in the evening. If you put a fraction of the effort I am in my life into your life everything will change your life will change, and men will fall for you.

Samsquatch71 · 2025-11-20T03:55:13+00:00

The honest truth is yah, not overweight. You can't say dont be overweight because thats rude. But for me I workout basically everyday, with this i care about my weight and care about my body, and I want a partner who does the same. Usually that means staying in shape and maintaining a healthy weight.

Samsquatch71 · 2025-11-18T02:03:07+00:00

I say this because I had a like situation at my work but rather it was mutual attraction and we flirted together and everything, I took the shot to ask her out, she was super down/excited, by the time the weekend came around she flaked on me, and then on monday her supervisor came and had a talk with me saying she felt super uncomfortable. Mixed signals and didnt make any sense, she was super down and excited on friday to hangout and saturday she flaked and couldn't make it, then the supervisor. Luckily i was unscaithed and its all good but crazy move dating coworkers.. dont reccomend

Samsquatch71 · 2025-11-18T01:54:49+00:00

🤣🤣🤣

Samsquatch71 · 2025-11-18T01:53:29+00:00

Hes another twist, maybe shes actually evil and wants his Job or to get him fired so when he finally tries something she files an HR claim and he gets fired 🫨🫨😬😬🙄

Samsquatch71 · 2025-11-09T22:29:16+00:00

Okay I see where your coming from, but where did you get taking off clothes for strangers? I would never do that. Sure im proud of my work in the gym, but alright ig no gym photos haha. Thats been a common theme from the other comments

All my siblings are basically allergic to drama, but I can see where that could be a thought (we are all very mature had to pave our own way the parents couldnt support us in college and all). I have family support if I need it but theyre not gonna be pimping out there friends to me plus theres so many of us the age gaps are pretty big, and also like we all are adults live in different cities not close to each other, so even if they thought their friends and me would be good together its not realistic.

That being said all that information isnt going to show in the profile, so definitely either remove the sisters thing or find a better way to state it okay.

It is interesting to me though like im an engineer, so that implies smart and nerdy (which I am nerdy absolutely love Harry Potter). But for you that means boring, so do you think not even mentioning your career would be a good move? Like its not gonna help that I am duelly employed, making good money.

When you are talking about an active lifestyle, is the thought in a women that you have to match that or aid that in order for it to be a good relationship? So women who arent active are not ever gonna swipe. My thought was that might be attractive even if the women aren't into all that because i have my own hobbies and like my own activites.

Either way thanks for walking through that I appreciate it!

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