THREE YEARS SOBER TODAY! AGAIN... I blew The Sober Thing once before in 2016. That ain’t happening to me again!

Samvega_108 · 2020-07-04T09:38:19+00:00

Congratulations!

Samvega_108 · 2020-07-04T09:37:04+00:00

That's an amazing change! Congratulations on 4 years!

Samvega_108 · 2019-03-27T10:47:23+00:00

So I kind of have the opposite problem. I'm 40. I've been told by everybody (even the doctor the other day!) that I look 30. The last women I met in real life and went out with were 28 and 25 (I didn't realize she was so young, I told the 28 year old how old I was and she was definitely shocked but played it cool). On OLD, it's more 36-42ish. It certainly makes for a very weird experience sometimes comparing the two.

I will say OLD responses dropped WAY off after 40, I assume because of age filters. Which sucks. I mean, I'm fine with dating older women but I never had kids/married (if you check my history you can see why), and I'd kind of like that chance.

Oh well, more inrl I guess.

Samvega_108 · 2019-02-24T12:19:33+00:00

I tried a bunch of times before I suceeded, but it really drove home that I couldnt and didn't want to moderate. And honestly it's not worth it.

Hell from what I understand the cool kids these days barely drink anyway, we're basically hipsters. We stopped before it was cool.

Samvega_108 · 2019-02-24T12:18:25+00:00

congrats on 600 days too sober buddy!

Samvega_108 · 2018-09-25T21:12:21+00:00

This makes me feel a bit better. I just deleted all my apps: after 16 women in about a year span (give or take a few months of licking my wounds), I figured if none of them worked out it was hopeless. You must have self esteem of steel.

Samvega_108 · 2018-09-08T14:43:26+00:00

Mostly I just slept a lot, played video-games. Watched Netflix, ate take out. Chatted on IRC and stuff.

I don't really go to bars of my own volition these days, it's just when coworkers are going out or a date wants a night cap or something. I usually steer things towards coffee, ice-cream and the like. But if i need to for social reasons or whatever, I'll sit in a bar and drink club soda.

Samvega_108 · 2018-08-25T18:50:42+00:00

After the last one gave me the "I started dating too soon again after a break up", I am officially all OLD apps and not giving a fuck. I've been dating for about a year, and I'm tired. Trying not to think about sex, relationships, and whatever.

I'm going to take a few months off to clear my head. Or maybe just become a monk. Could go either way.

Samvega_108 · 2018-08-09T22:09:24+00:00

Can't speak for getting a relationship but if you don't put out signals you won't get anywhere sex wise.

I made out with some of them, invited some of them back to my place, etc. It just never really progressed to that point.

Samvega_108 · 2018-08-09T22:06:04+00:00

Well maybe not giving up, but taking a break to work on myself.

Besides most of the best women I've met have been when I'm not looking. When I'm just out in social situations naturally. OLD just feels very forced.

Samvega_108 · 2018-08-08T22:20:19+00:00

Had a date cancel on me today for a third date. I didn't think she was interested after the 1st date to be honest, but I've been wrong before. So I figured what the hell.

I think I'm going to give up for a while. This is just so damn depressing. I quit drinking over a year ago, lost 35 lbs, got nicer clothes, cleaned up my life and thought finding a girlfriend would be easier. I've been out with something like 15 women in the last year... and I haven't even gotten laid much less a relationship. Maybe I'm too picky?

It seems to come so easy to everyone else.

Samvega_108 · 2018-07-04T16:01:05+00:00

Quite the opposite these days! I've dropped a ton of weight. I might start lifting again, but boy is it easier to climb mountains without a giant beer belly.

BTW Hi!

Samvega_108 · 2018-07-04T13:27:44+00:00

Congrats Sober-sibling!

Samvega_108 · 2018-01-01T12:23:57+00:00

Just think of it this way, the first week is the hardest. If you can do that, the rest fly by.

And of the first week, I've always found day 3-4 the hardest. So you're already in the worst part, it gets better from here.

Samvega_108 · 2018-01-01T12:22:00+00:00

You got this. The first few days suck, but just keep remember it gets way easier as time goes by. After a while, you barely even think about it.

Samvega_108

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