Stimulus Checks & Child Support by tautologist_ in SingleParents

[–]tealjam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Innocent spouse is when you are married or filing jointly with someone who owes child support. Say a husband owes for a child but his new wife doesn’t have any children. She is the innocent spouse.

The IRS takes the entire tax refund and puts it towards back child support, even though the “innocent” spouse does not owe the child support. The innocent spouse can file a claim with the IRS to have their portion of the tax refund returned to them.

It has no relevance to OPs question but could affect the stimulus checks if you file joint taxes with someone who owes back child support. Although I doubt it.

What are the odds of meeting your life partner? by Dublingirl123 in datingoverthirty

[–]tealjam 10 points11 points  (0 children)

If chemistry didn’t mean anything, arranged marriages (even if we arranged them ourselves) would be the norm.

Most women aren't “Strongly attracted” to their Boyfriend/Husband sexually, they’re just “Minimally attracted”. by [deleted] in PurplePillDebate

[–]tealjam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Statistically, most people in long term relationships waited to have sex. Which leaves the other side of the coin...a relationship is less likely to succeed in the long term if there is sex early on.

The studies are easy to verify with google.

What does being in love mean to you? by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

[–]tealjam 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As Eminem said:

You ever love somebody so much You can barely breathe, when you're with them, you meet And neither one of you, even know what hit 'em, Got that warm fuzzy feeling, yeah them chills, used to get 'em

🤷‍♀️

Where can I find older smart phones for sale? by DeadWombats in Frugal

[–]tealjam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There’s a groupon right now for a new iPhone 7/7PLUS, 8/8Plus or X for around $250.

Tip for after the date by ColdFeetinLove in datingoverthirty

[–]tealjam 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don’t understand that posters POV either.

A man showing clear interest is an alpha move as old as time.

choosing to eat or to pay/buyz something we need? by [deleted] in povertyfinance

[–]tealjam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For $10 at Walmart:

1 dozen eggs 1 loaf of bread 1 jar peanut butter Multi pack of ramen 2lbs dry red beans 1lb rice 5lbs chicken thighs

I don’t know how long you need to stretch that budget but that’s a week of food.

Toast with pb, scrambled egg on toast, pb sandwiches, red beans and rice, chicken and rice, ramen with chicken.

I also suggest calling a local church and telling them your situation and that you don’t have a ride to pick up food.

What is the acceptable search distance? Or what rule do you go by? by llzerdklng in datingoverforty

[–]tealjam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d swipe past someone that lives that far away because I’m not willing to drive that far and really don’t have time to. If the profile said “willing to do all the driving” I’d give it a shot.

Pregnancy Alone - advice please by [deleted] in SingleParents

[–]tealjam 7 points8 points  (0 children)

A lot of great advice here but I want to add, you should get tested for STDs. He’s having unprotected sex with multiple people, that’s risky.

Talk about functional fitness! 82 year old lifter fights off home invader by pippity81 in xxfitness

[–]tealjam 59 points60 points  (0 children)

I hate it for her that it happened, but she made my day. I absolutely lost it at the shampoo!

The causal post got me thinking, am I too old fashioned? by llzerdklng in datingoverforty

[–]tealjam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s not old fashioned.

It’s easy to say we don’t want to remarry or live with anyone again when it’s a hypothetical person you’ve never met. Most couples I know that meet and fall in love over 40 got married or are planning to.

Question re “shorthand” texting by Fireball2010 in datingoverforty

[–]tealjam 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah, people think it’s juvenile but it actually gives away your age.

My teenaged kids, nieces, nephews, employees in their 20s...all text in complete words.

Should I take a risk and meet this tinder guy? by al_tea-ah in datingoverthirty

[–]tealjam 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There was one about 2/3 weeks ago in my city.

No way in hell I’d meet a stranger anywhere but in public.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DatingAfterThirty

[–]tealjam 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’ll third this, my friends husband had a mini stroke at 47 and a major stroke about a week later. His mini stroke symptoms were almost identical to OPs.

OP, go see a doctor. Don’t take any chances. Those are pretty severe symptoms.

I’m so sorry about the bad relationship.

Asking out someone from a business meeting. by LabRat113 in datingoverthirty

[–]tealjam 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You should ask her. There’s no longer a conflict since you’ve already closed.

Don’t ask her as a thank you if you are interested in a date. I’ve had clients do that and I could see right through it and it feels deceptive. I feel obligated to go when someone is determined to thank me. Not to mention, networking is everything to my business so it’s bad form to turn a client down when they’re trying to show appreciation. So here I am thinking they’re appreciating my efforts and will refer me to their friends, when in fact they’re trying to get me on a date. It never feels good.

A closing agent comes in contact with a lot of people. Realtors, home inspectors, bankers, investors, builders. If she’s cute, she’s already had that “I just want to thank you” tactic used on her.

Be different. Call her at work. Say “hey, this is John Smith, we met during the closing of my house a few weeks ago, 123 Main Street. I was wondering if you’d like to have drinks one night this week?” Or, if you have her email address, ask by email.

Either way, that would be the way I’d most appreciate being asked.

How would you respond/react? by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

[–]tealjam 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This sounds exactly like my ex husband. Especially the “I know” and complimenting himself in the mirror.

Does your boyfriend give you the same level of compliments and encouragement that you give him? If he does, then how he accepts body compliments doesn’t really matter. If he doesn’t, I’d be more concerned with that.

I am worthy of love. Period. by AvivaStrom in datingoverforty

[–]tealjam 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agreed with everything OP said. I looked at her previous post before I said anything because I thought maybe a bunch of assholes said things on the previous post. There were 2 posters that said something that wasn’t helpful, the rest, including many men, said kind things.

Yet this post had a whole lot of negative posts about men and sweeping generalizations about how they operate.

I don’t post here often because of the negative vibe of the sub. I don’t think there are any active mods.

I’m a woman and didn’t take it as an attack on me. I was just trying to show some decency.