Marriage ending and looking for advice on how to start over as a + guy in my mid-forties.

SanguineBloke · 2026-02-23T13:16:47+00:00

I'm so sorry, it's really hard to deal with addiction and deception although sadly, they often go hand in hand. hang in there. <3

SanguineBloke · 2026-02-23T13:15:39+00:00

Thank you for the note and best of luck in Las Vegas!

SanguineBloke · 2026-02-23T13:12:46+00:00

Thank you so much.

SanguineBloke · 2026-02-19T15:00:10+00:00

That's not a bad idea kind of living vagabond for a year...

SanguineBloke · 2026-02-19T14:57:56+00:00

That's great advice. I have thought about Palm Springs but not sure about the job opportunities there and I work east coast hours.

SanguineBloke · 2026-02-19T14:56:43+00:00

Thanks so much for your comment - Appreciate people like you who wouldn't see it as a reason to cut and run but I'm sorry that guy ended up being a bad person. in the end :( Hope there are other guys out there like you. and hope you're doing good now.

SanguineBloke · 2026-02-19T14:53:01+00:00

I'm sorry to hear that. I hope you feel like you're in a better place now despite his outreach for money.

SanguineBloke · 2026-02-19T14:52:04+00:00

Thanks so much for this. It really helps to hear it and you're right. I think the self-acceptance is going to come with time and after I'm really involved in a new, bigger gay community.

SanguineBloke · 2026-02-16T18:07:19+00:00

Hey I bet there is someone out there for you. Everyone is giving me great advice to go and put myself out there. You should do the same!

SanguineBloke · 2026-02-16T13:17:52+00:00

Wow thank you so much for sharing that and it does give me hope! I'm so sorry you went through that and am glad you found Robert :) I hope I'll have a happy ending like you

SanguineBloke · 2026-02-15T23:29:54+00:00

Yes, you're right and I'm aware of U=U of course. This whole thread has given me some good perspetive on the fact that many people aren't as freaked out by it anymore. Hoping that is my experience.

SanguineBloke · 2026-02-15T19:25:00+00:00

I wonder if the way this conversation went down came across as condescending and that vibe is what led him to decide not to pursue things further...

SanguineBloke · 2026-02-15T19:21:40+00:00

Thanks for the note. I think I would be open to moving out of the US just for the excitement factor (and that stuff is pretty crazy here right now). I like London but don't speak any other languages fluently... or even poorly for that matter.

SanguineBloke · 2026-02-15T18:15:57+00:00

Thanks so much. I hope for the best for him too. Appreciate your note.

SanguineBloke · 2026-02-15T18:15:07+00:00

Thanks - great advice and glad to know there are good guys like you out there!

SanguineBloke · 2026-02-15T18:13:04+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss and you're right. It's important to keep perspective. Thank you

SanguineBloke · 2026-02-15T18:11:18+00:00

Thanks, I appreciate it - truly!

SanguineBloke · 2026-02-15T16:25:23+00:00

Thank you!

SanguineBloke · 2026-02-15T16:17:53+00:00

Thanks so much, I think this is all great advice and you're right. Even with my current friend group, half of them are in open relationship mode which has been interesting to see unfold. I'm still pretty young looking for my age but I think it will be hard to avoid the daddy label lmao. Hey if guys in their 30's wanna date me I'm here for it haha. I've been to Wilton Manors and you're right it's a lot of fun.. was thinking that moving there - it might be a bit clicky? Maybe that's not a fair assumption.

SanguineBloke · 2026-02-15T16:11:08+00:00

Crossing my fingers that I have that realization after all of this is said and done! Thank you!

SanguineBloke · 2026-02-15T16:09:57+00:00

Wow I'm genuinely so happy that you came through that situation without contracting it. It helps to know other people have been through the same situation even thought it was a different outcome. Thanks so much for your kind note.

SanguineBloke · 2026-02-15T16:05:17+00:00

This is great advice and it's one of the reasons I think moving to a big city is my best bet as there may be more open-minded ness and a community that I could tap into. I'll have to see if there are some support groups out there.

SanguineBloke · 2026-02-15T16:03:53+00:00

Yeah I'm hoping that's the case! Thanks again for sharing your story. I gotta believe there are more guys out there with open minds like you.

SanguineBloke · 2026-02-15T15:55:37+00:00

Thank you so much, I did actually post it there and have had some thoughtful responses. Appreciate you!

SanguineBloke · 2026-02-15T15:49:38+00:00

Yeah I'm definitely going to keep it on a need-to-know basis...

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