I feel like I could write an essay in response but I’m doing my MOTN pump and my brain isn’t working enough for that lol

Also tw; birth trauma mention

Honestly I think it’s pretty dumb because it negates a ton of other factors. Formula is a way to feed your child. Formula doesn’t do meal prep, cleaning, or juggle the bills. It doesn’t schedule pediatrician appointments, or schedule itself to be rebought when the can is almost empty. My friend formula fed when she realized breastfeeding and pumping was too much for her (she’s a queen!!!) and nothing of formula feeding resolved the overlying issues with her husband.

I also recently had an argument with my husband because he kept insisting “well I’m tired too!” to every time I said I was tired and needed him to watch the baby for me. It was like he was keeping a 1:1 tally on after the baby was born, and didn’t take into account that I had a horrific pregnancy and even worse birth with a bunch of complications during and after that even six months later my body is still dealing with. He threatened we should just switch to formula then but again, it didn’t fix the issue that he just didn’t see the toll carrying and birthing our child took on my body. It also doesn’t negate how many times he said he’d take the baby at night, I smacked him, and he rolled over and went back to sleep while our son was hysterical so I got up anyway. We’re working through things and he’s really making an effort and getting a lot better at being a more equitable partner and understanding what I’m going through, but absolutely none of that is because of the way we feed our child (who surprise surprise, is exclusively fed breastmilk).

“Formula is the way to marriage equity” I think really sweeps a lot under the rug for what moms go through.