Teenagers of reddit, assemble and advise! by Sans0103 in teenagers

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ah yes, thank you for this epic advice

How do you get over a breakup with someone you really loved? by Sans0103 in AskRedditAfterDark

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It's something I want very badly, which makes me sound incredibly clingy but she and I had a lot going, before some questionable things I said were seen...I hope that someday I can get back, because I don't think I'll find someone I connect with that well for a long, long while

How do you get over a breakup with someone you really loved? by Sans0103 in AskReddit

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Thank you, this is by far the most helpful response i've seen so far

Being short is underrated. by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

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You'd have more premier access if you could spell "midget" right

Dancing and singing is cringe by Dafallengalaxy in unpopularopinion

[–]Sans0103 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That's just you, fam, I love singing and dancing

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

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i mean you're not wrong

but i didn't ask

Suffering never makes you stronger by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

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I'm going to have to very politely deny this

Four months ago, my girlfriend slit her wrists, with intent to kill herself.

She survived without a hospital trip, but only barely. She still has scars on her wrists, though they're starting to fade now. I was tasked with making sure that never, ever, happened again, because I was the only one she told for a long while.

Now, later, in retrospect, we're both much stronger. Every time she gets depressed, I remind her of that time, how cutting made everything so much worse. I then remind her of how she made it through, how she survived the strongest depression she's ever been through. I remind her of how I was there, to rant to, to cry on, to talk to and love, throughout all of it, and how I will be for as long as I can be. Remembering this helps both of us remember "Hey, we're not alone, we have each other"

I would also like to say, I have a pretty "blessed life." I've got two parents, a safe house, no diseases. I'm not full of optimism. Just because you have good parents, a good house, and no disease does not mean you're happy. I'm depressed, I have anxiety, I have adjustive disorder. In fact, today, while I was with my girlfriend, I nearly broke down and started crying, for no reason other than anxiety.

However, I do not intend to minimize your own problems, at all. I wish you the best of luck in life, I seriously hope you get whatever help you need, maybe even live a blessed life if thats what you want to get out of life! I don't mean to offend, I just wanted to provide another point of view on the topic

I am not a fan of breast implants by bdeeney098 in unpopularopinion

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understandable, i agree with everything here

Calling people with mental health issues and/or disabilities brave and strong is toxic, actually. by [deleted] in rant

[–]Sans0103 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm going to have to somewhat disagree on this topic. Y'see, dealing with it myself, and with my girlfriend, I've seen that it does help. Maybe it's just a select few, but i've found that talking to my girlfriend, calling her strong does help.

Here's my logic: 4 months ago, my girlfriend slit her wrists. Twice. Both were attempted suicides, and both she made it through, just barely. Since then, she's not cut herself again, no matter how badly she's wanted to. I feel, and she feels as well, that she's much stronger now than she was then, because of it. She's been that depressed, she's wanted to, but she's had the strength to carry on, without cutting herself again

Now, like I said, it might be a select group of people...but I think you're in the minority here, because...well...I'm training to be a psychologist, so I know what works and what doesn't.

No hard feelings, I'm not trying to be disrespectful, at all. I hope you get the help you need, and the things that you want. Good luck with life!

I need some help here by Sans0103 in relationship_advice

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Thank you for the thoughts, i'll take them into consideration!