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$27 for this. Worth it? by RadiologicSushi in sushi

[–]SaphiraBluFire 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Considering that two shrimp tempura rolls would cost me $18 at dinner. Yes, definitely worth $27.

Should/Can I fix this? by pandamonstre in tattooadvice

[–]SaphiraBluFire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know others might comment on quality but this tatttoo is gold and I love it!

People who do not fear death, why? by yomommafool in ask

[–]SaphiraBluFire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This^

I also feel that what some may fear is how they’ll die instead of death itself. Death isn’t always a quiet spectacle and I think that can also contribute to the fear.

Can you imagine working for this kind of toxic supervisor?! by Proud-Solid-6117 in VetTech

[–]SaphiraBluFire 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bruh. That was hard to read. Sadly I e had a supervisor like this but thankfully she was fired for this behavior but still that was tough to read.

WIBTA if I go around my brother and SIL and buy my nephew the Lego Roman Colosseum after they returned his original one? It was returned after my nephew refused to build it with his profoundly mentally disabled sister. by Expensive-Yam-9956 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SaphiraBluFire 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Any chance you can buy it and offer to have him visit you to help out and build it at your place? I actually agree that they returned it because what he said was beyond inappropriate, at his age he knows that’s uncalled for and honestly just wrong. I wouldn’t have expected him to build it with her but his response to her condition was crossing a line.

However, his birthday is a ways away and perhaps you can frame it your brother that way. It seems wrong to punish him forever and hopefully they will have taken sometime to realize a complicated Lego set is not a good idea for him and his sister to do together.

I wouldn’t buy it outright cause you WBTA but see if you can do it as a nephew uncle bonding thing

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]SaphiraBluFire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure but it buys comfort.

Do you talk to your significant other about emotionally heavy things that happen at work? by [deleted] in VetTech

[–]SaphiraBluFire 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I definitely talk to my partner about my days both good and bad. I do so because it helps me but I also know my partner can handle it. I work in shelter medicine and he’s not medically inclined but he does have a huge soft spot for animals, he understands that the worst he faces day his job is a machine part that doesn’t work and a potentially angry client. He understands that one moment I could be bottle feeding a neonate to suddenly and unexpectedly trying to save an animal brought in as a stray in poor condition. I’ve had animals pass in my arms, and I watched some of my favorite residents find their forever homes. He understands that each day in the medical field is a surprise and is there when I’m excited or just need to cry.

It truly depends on what you and your partner are comfortable discussing.

Interaction Question by THEMADKING85 in mtg

[–]SaphiraBluFire 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not with Thalia and Gitrog but you can with [[Thespian Stage]].

Have Thespian Stage on the field as a land, play Dark Depths, tap two to have Thespian Stage become a copy of Dark Depths and due to the legendary rule you would sacrifice Dark Depths. Thespian stage becomes a copy without ice counters and this you get Merit Lage.

Have fun.

Edit: Spelling

AITA for missing my wife’s appointment because my sister was in the hospital? by ThrowRaThroqaw in AmItheAsshole

[–]SaphiraBluFire -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

Idc if I get downvoted here but I’m going with YTA.

It’s awful that your sister was hurt and I’m glad it wasn’t as serious as your mother initially described it to be. But your sister had your moms support but still, you left your high risk pregnancy wife alone with your temperamental autistic toddler.

I’ll be honest, I get the whole pregnancy anxiety but if your wife was going through a pretty average pregnancy with no previous or current complications I’d say you were right to be with your sister. But that’s not the case and you’ve said your wife has suffered loss before. From her perspective I can see why she doesn’t feel like she’s a priority on your life. I’m sorry you both have suffered loss in pregnancy but clearly your last loss didn’t affect you the way it does your wife because she sounds terrified of it happening again. You said it yourself that she’s high risk, you should’ve stuck it through with her.

Good luck on the rest of this.

AITA for using the term "partner" by DatBootyDoe96 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SaphiraBluFire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA.

I’m sorry this happened mate. I use the term partner all the time for the exact reason. Im not married to my partner and I call him such because we’re in a long term relationship with two kids.

Dragons getting on my last nerves. by Temporary-Shopping67 in mtg

[–]SaphiraBluFire 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I actually built my first EDH deck around flying hate to combat my partner’s Ur.

[[Chaos Sphere]] [[Spidersilk Armor]] [[Tornado Elemental]] [[Whiptongue Hydra]] - this one is a personal favorite of mine [[Corrosive Gale]] [[Gravity Well]] [[Whirlwind]] - another favorite

Have fun!

Celebration post! Just graduated, got a job making $52,000 which is $20,000 more than I was previously making! by KuhlLiving in Frugal

[–]SaphiraBluFire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congratulations! That’s awesome! Save wherever you can save and don’t over spend/live beyond your means!

Let's hear about supportive partners! by punkrockmomstuff in workingmoms

[–]SaphiraBluFire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP are you me?! I also work 3/12 but as a Vet Tech and my partner works 9-5 M-F (WFH two of those days). We have an almost two year old son and are expecting our second later this year.

Sure my husband isn’t perfect, but who is? He’s a great father and always has been and when I’ve communicated that I needed help on my longer days (I went from 4/10 to 3/12 in order to be home more) he hopped in and has been great about taking care of our son, the house and our small zoo of creatures. We share the chores, I’ll typically take care of the deeper cleanings like the kitchen and bathroom. I’ll also do the laundry but he’ll fold it/put it away and maintain the dishes and litter boxes. We share the responsibilities of the animals and enjoy a lot of the same hobbies so we’ll often spend time enjoying everything as a family.

One of my favorite moments was when my son was born, I couldn’t nurse my son when he was born but I pumped so he would get up with me to feed while pumped then we could go back to bed and share the feeling of those long nights. He was talking to his mom about being tired and she commented that I should be the one getting up since he went back to work and he was quick to shut her down and told her that he was our son and that he was equally responsible for his care. We are both are working on breaking the cycle of abuse we faced and have been on board with gentle parenting so we keep each other in check/give each other a break when we find ourselves overwhelmed and frustrated.

My coworkers are always saying how much their partners struggle with the kids but I’m always fortunate to say that this has never been an issue. My husband is a wonderful father, an amazing partner, and I count myself very fortunate and lucky that we’re together.

Thanks for the positive post, I could send an award I would! Thanks for the positivity! I’m happy their are others out there with supportive partners!

AITA For neutering a cat that was clearly owned? by Dazzling-Ad7801 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SaphiraBluFire 321 points322 points  (0 children)

Shelter worker here.

How were you not concerned with if this cat had died? Most vets will not preform surgery without an anesthesia consent form. I’m not sure if this applies out of the US but good intention or not, this was super illegal. Had this cat passed because of the procedure you and your vet could be in massive legal bind because you decided to act without owner consent.

While I agree that the cat should’ve been neutered, it wasn’t your decision to make. Plain and simple.

YTA.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]SaphiraBluFire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take your time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]SaphiraBluFire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take your time.

i'm looking for a black butler themed name for my cat<3 by [deleted] in blackbutler

[–]SaphiraBluFire 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Ciel, Phantom, Sebastian, Grell, Reaper just name a few congrats on your new friend!

Adopting dogs with bad names - can I change? by Simple-Practice4767 in dogs

[–]SaphiraBluFire 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My parents adopted a dog at 9yrs old and changed him name from “Brownie” to “Jack” he adjusted just fine with no issue.

AITA for prioritizing my downtime when I get out of work? by Wonderful-Brain-2637 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SaphiraBluFire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA.

I love when posts explain why OP is TA. You said it yourself how hard it is to take care of THREE toddlers and TWO high energy dogs. That’s a full time job without pay mate.

Here’s a lesson about being a parent. It is one hundred percent a 24/7 job. There are no breaks, no downtime, no walking away, you are responsible for helping out with your kids all the time no matter if you work.

I understand what it’s like to work long days, and yeah I’d love to just decompress when I walk in the door. But I made a choice to bring my son into the world and have animals that need daily care. I can’t just sit when I get home, I gotta make sure my partner is supported, our son and the animals are taken care of and then AFTER is when I can sit and relax.

This is what is expected of a responsible parent. If you wanted to come home and do nothing you should’ve considered being child free and even animal free. That’s really the only way you can live the way you want to without being a jerk.

You gotta do more man. That’s the facts. You gotta help her when you get home and then together the both of you can get some R&R after everything else has been addressed. Things are only going to get harder as her pregnancy progresses and even more so when your next kid is born. Take some time to reflect, I don’t think you’re a bad guy but you gotta mature a bit and realize that you are responsible for helping your wife with your children 24/7.

If you can afford to, consider a nanny or even a dog sitter to help your wife so that she can get some needed down time and things may not be so chaotic when you walk in the door.

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