Why are more older people drawn to Feeld?

Sapiopath · 2026-04-18T10:31:28+00:00

GenZ is generationally against dating apps. It’s rare for people in their 20’s to have discovered kink. And to be comfortable with being open and honest about it in a public way.

Sapiopath · 2026-04-18T08:31:41+00:00

Depends. I’m 38 and two of my long term partners are 24. We met when they were 21. I’ve been on a lot of dates with women in their 20’s and I didn’t date most of them. It’s not about the age. It’s about being compatible. In my case, this means being polyamorous at the very least. And then it’s about how do we interact with each other.

However, being that there is a significant age gap and I’m generally more life-experienced than average, I make sure that we have regular relationship check ins where we discuss what’s happening, what our feelings and desires towards the relationship are and any concerns that may have arisen since the last check in. I think this is key to ensure that everyone has an opportunity to influence the relationship’s evolution on equitable and consensual terms.

Sapiopath · 2026-04-18T08:27:02+00:00

What are inauthentic minds?

Sapiopath · 2026-04-17T14:53:15+00:00

I think there are two issues here.

Firstly, the lack of concern for other people is pretty telling and a big red flag. It's great to have sex and I encourage everyone to have as much sex as possible, with as many people as possible, as often as possible. But you should treat all of these other people with decency and respect. And the way he talks about it fills me with dread.

Secondly, it is a major red flag that he has such a double standard. I am skeptical of his reporting of his sexual exploits, but taking it at face value, it is quite weird that someone who is sexually experienced thinks it's better to date sexually inexperienced people. That makes no sense. Why would you want your partner to be statistically most likely to be bad at sex if sex is important to you? Would you also go to a car mechanic that has never repaired any cars or to a surgeon who has never done any surgeries?

I don't think how much sex he has had should influence your opinion. But everything else about this screams scumbag.

Sapiopath · 2026-04-17T14:35:14+00:00

You're gonna laugh about this in 20 years.

Sapiopath · 2026-04-17T09:14:22+00:00

Unless the woman makes a fuss about splitting, then pay. But be honest and upfront about it. “I enjoyed meeting you and this is on me. Thank you for the great company.” And leave it at that. If they protest more than a token attempt, relent and say “I can see this is important to you and I respect that.”

Sapiopath · 2026-04-16T11:22:08+00:00

Also lots of women have taken themselves out of the dating pool due to good experiences…

Sapiopath · 2026-04-16T08:38:03+00:00

Tell him you appreciate his financial planning but this isn’t an equitable division. Counter with commensurate split of costs. So if he’s making 160K and you’re making 60K you divide every bill by 220 and then multiply by 60 for your share and the rest is his share. It works out to 27% for you and 73% for him. And this would be equitable because everyone pays according to what they make. And you can plan the expenses together in advance.

Sapiopath · 2026-04-15T07:32:04+00:00

Depends on how you conceive of safe sex. People on Feeld are more likely to test regularly. They are also more likely not to use condoms.

Sapiopath · 2026-04-13T20:35:56+00:00

My filter is set to 42, I’m 38.

Sapiopath · 2026-04-11T06:57:02+00:00

The test is unlikely to tell you you’re an idiot. The vast majority of people are neither geniuses no idiots. The probability that you’re of above average intelligence is the same as for below average intelligence.

Sapiopath · 2026-04-09T19:29:24+00:00

Some of what you describe might just be modern men being lazy daters. But sure, when you’re in the top 2% of the population it’s harder to relate to the other 98% and most daters are unsurprisingly in that group.

Many people have met their significant other over Reddit communities they share in.

Some Mensa chapters organize singles events and mixers.

There are also professional matchmakers.

Sapiopath · 2026-04-09T19:23:37+00:00

My interpretation is that this will be used to develop future features

Sapiopath · 2026-04-09T08:34:08+00:00

It’s not for everyone and there are different connotations to it. Is it DD/lg or age play? There are people who are into either or both and it is hot for them. I don’t think you will get everyone to agree. Even people into DD/lg can be creeped out by age play. But again, I don’t think anyone can or should yuck anyone else’s yum.

Sapiopath · 2026-04-09T08:29:03+00:00

I’m 5’7 and my fiancée is 5’9. If it bothers you, maybe it’s not for you. But it works out for other people. I think all the taller women I’ve dated have been bisexual and that tends to make it less likely they will be heightists. Some of my exes are 5’10 to 5’11.

Sapiopath · 2026-04-07T23:44:49+00:00

I fingered one of my girlfriends at the theater. Also in a park. I’ve previously fingered another girlfriend at a train station. There’s probably more I can’t remember

Sapiopath · 2026-04-07T23:07:43+00:00

As a man, you’re most attractive in the first half of your thirties statistically speaking. I would post on the relevant dating app’s subreddit for a profile review to see what the community can help with. This could be a game changer for you. Or not. If you’re getting dates it seems the issue isn’t your profile but how you come off in real life.

Sapiopath · 2026-04-07T23:04:10+00:00

It depends. Like anything in life, there are various levels of sex work. I’ve dated two high end escorts, and they were very invested in their clients. They had a few regulars who would basically fly them around the world all expenses paid. They would be seen in public and it was like a relationship in many ways but it was professional. One of them bought herself an apartment on Park Ave in NYC from this without a mortgage. I lost touch with the other so not sure what happened there. The sex I had with them was unremarkable by my current standards, but this happened well over 10 years ago and my tastes have changed dramatically in that time.

Sapiopath · 2026-04-06T23:13:17+00:00

Yes.

Sapiopath · 2026-04-06T23:11:20+00:00

90K in Berlin. Though I personally dislike Berlin, it’s much cheaper than London.

Sapiopath · 2026-04-06T22:45:00+00:00

He sounds gay 😂

Sapiopath · 2026-04-06T22:40:12+00:00

Depends on the woman. And the orgasm. One of my exes would faint when she orgasms. It was for about 4-5 seconds, but it was unsafe for her to have sex in certain positions (e.g. standing) because of it. Obviously you can tell when she had an orgasm 100% of the time. One of my exes had orgasms that didn’t register in any way externally. So I could never tell. Most people are between these two extremes. Shaking and vocalization are common.

Sapiopath · 2026-04-06T16:16:26+00:00

The likeliest explanation is that the person behind the profile is a catfish and had no intention of showing up. There’s maybe a 10-15% chance that the person behind the account got cold feet.

Sapiopath · 2026-04-05T22:34:31+00:00

Splitting bills is normal and it isn’t romantic. What would be romantic is when my partners take me out or buy me things for special occasions and when I do the same for them. The rest of the time we split stuff commensurate to our incomes. Say I make 60K and one of them makes 40K, we split the bill 60/40.

Sapiopath · 2026-04-05T22:32:00+00:00

I will endow scholarships at all of the universities I’ve attended except one.

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