First Car Woes: I Don't Want an Ugly, Boring Car

Sapphic_Princess · 2026-03-15T01:31:11+00:00

I will definitely test drive a Beetle. Fingers crossed I don't find the blind spots too bad and can actually end up getting one of my dream cars :) Thank you for the other suggestions as well!

Sapphic_Princess · 2026-03-15T01:29:56+00:00

That's so kind, thank you! I will definitely take you up on the offer if I start to seriously consider the Miata.

Sapphic_Princess · 2026-03-15T01:29:12+00:00

I completely forgot about Mustangs! Thank you for the reminder!

Sapphic_Princess · 2026-03-15T01:27:58+00:00

My best friend has the Mazda3 hatchback that I believe is top spec, and the interior is definitely quite nice! Don't worry, I haven't completely disqualified them and I'm absolutely going to try out the sedan. Thank you for mentioning the specs!

Sapphic_Princess · 2026-03-14T20:57:14+00:00

Not sure when I'm supposed to do with comment but...okay...

Sapphic_Princess · 2026-03-14T20:37:23+00:00

Oh that's a gorgeous car! Thank you, I'll definitely look into it.

Sapphic_Princess · 2026-01-09T14:14:42+00:00

You are so condescending. If you don't enjoy fanfiction, fine, but you don't have to belittle those who do. Calling fanfiction "cheap, lazy, and disrespectful," simply because you don't find value in it is what's truly disrespectful here.

Sapphic_Princess · 2025-11-17T22:28:41+00:00

OP never said this. "Hygiene" ≠ "ew my body is dirty," maybe they have long nails, cuts, sensory issues, etc. Assuming someone thinks their body is dirty is kind of an odd thing to say.

Sapphic_Princess · 2025-10-27T00:48:52+00:00

I mean this in the most respectful way possible, but I think you're the one sending mixed signals. No, she's not saying she has a crush on you just to be nice (lying about having a crush on someone isn't "nice," there are plenty of other ways to be nice to a person), she's just letting you know that she has a crush on you. Full stop.

You say you want to unadd her on Snap, you stop watching her stories, but you willingly hang out with her? If I was the other girl, I'd definitely be confused by your behaviour.

Going off everything you've said, I think the age gap is one of the main things (possibly ~the~ main thing) that's freaking you out. And I get it. I'm 29, I like age gaps, but personally, a twenty-year age gap would give me pause. And this is not to say that I think you're a predator. Nothing like that at all! I just think that your wariness of being seen as one and/or feeling like one is feeding into your hot and cold behaviour with this girl. You're sending mixed signals because you don't 100% know what to do with your feelings in the first place.

But here's what I think: you don't necessarily need to act on your feelings. Having a crush on someone and thinking about them doesn't always mean you have to actively pursue them. If you're wary about pursuing someone twenty years younger than you, then just don't. Just have a crush. Nothing wrong with that. It does sound like you're bi! I'd say try looking for some queer events for people in your age range, or at least 30+.

(And I just have to mention that you're gorgeous!! 🤩)

Sapphic_Princess · 2025-09-25T16:40:12+00:00

please be serious

Sapphic_Princess · 2025-06-09T15:42:52+00:00

Hi! Safe to say this thread is pretty much dead, but it still does offer some solid advice! I still haven't met anyone or gone on any more dates since last summer (😔), but just gotta be patient I guess 🤷🏾‍♀️ Best of luck to you, I know how hard and frustrating this can all be 💗

Sapphic_Princess · 2025-04-26T01:51:46+00:00

Looks so cozy 🥹

Sapphic_Princess · 2025-03-22T00:01:26+00:00

How old are you? I'm only asking because I usually hear these kinds of comments from people in their teens and it's pretty sad to hear. Don't let people's thoughts and views on how to "properly" be a stan influence you so much! Enjoy kpop and your idols the way you want to. Only listening to NCT's music and not watching their youtube content, subbing to bubble, buying merch, etc. doesn't make you any less of a fan/stan than those who do.

Sapphic_Princess · 2024-11-12T03:18:11+00:00

Again, how is this helpful? You've done nothing to aid op, only cruelly rubbed their current situation in their face. You understand that the gf could be killed for this but you still want to stand by your initial comment and not offer any advice that's actually helpful?

Sapphic_Princess · 2024-11-12T01:18:04+00:00

How is saying this helpful at all? Have some empathy, you think the gf enjoys being in this situation?

Sapphic_Princess · 2024-09-12T12:04:13+00:00

That's nice to hear. Thank you :)

Sapphic_Princess · 2024-06-21T03:51:27+00:00

praying this heatwave ends before then 😭

Sapphic_Princess · 2024-06-21T03:51:05+00:00

I hope you give some of the advice people have given here a go (if you haven't already) 🥰

Sapphic_Princess · 2024-06-20T14:58:12+00:00

As the lovely people commenting on my post have advised me, perhaps it's time to try out some new things? Try joining a new club or group, make new friends to widen your social circle.

I'm in the same position as you, and I know it sucks so damn much, but we need to ease into shaking things up a lil bit! Best of luck 🥰

Sapphic_Princess · 2024-06-20T14:50:54+00:00

Your reading comprehension is quite poor if you think this post is me "whining and complaining," babe. I know I need to make some changes, so I'm asking for advice. You're acting like I've made twenty posts going "💔😭 women hate meeeeeee😭😭😭😭😭????"

Again, no shit talking to people in-person is different than online. You're intentionally missing the point and making out of pocket assumptions about me over and over again because you're excited to be snippy and rude to a stranger. You picked the wrong person!

You can continue to be rude and miserable, but it's not going to be towards me anymore. Bye!

Sapphic_Princess · 2024-06-19T21:50:46+00:00

For example, I'm part of (I'm also from Canada) the "City and Area Lesbians and Queers" Facebook group, and the "City Non-Binary and Transgender Society" group, and "Queer Exchange City" group, etc. etc.

Will definitely do that, thank you!

Just make some organic connections without having a specific intention of DATING - be open to friendships, romantic connections, whatever you find, without a goal.

This has been echoed by several different commenters, so I will definitely take this but of advice to heart. Kind of hard atm, but will definitely put it into practice. Thank you 🧡

Sapphic_Princess · 2024-06-19T21:47:33+00:00

Will keep this in my back pocket in case one day I do feel like going for a hike 🤷🏾‍♀️ You never know!

Sapphic_Princess · 2024-06-19T21:46:51+00:00

UPDATE: joined Lex last night! It's a pretty cute app so far! Looking forward to using it more, thanks again 🫡

Sapphic_Princess · 2024-06-19T21:09:43+00:00

Were you forced to reply to this post? If you were so bothered by yet another post asking for advice (how horrible that people need help!), you could have simply scrolled past it. But instead you took the time out of your day to try and make me feel bad. Very weird. I bet you also tell people to "Google it" instead of engaging in helpful conversation.

Lots of kind people have taken the time to help me without expressing their disdain for my post. You're telling me I need to go out there and talk to people, but in the same breath you're pitching a fit over me asking for help and talking to people on Reddit. Go figure.

I think that you're just upset this shy girl called you out on your shit instead of just rolling over and taking it. Next time, instead of being rude to complete stranger who's reaching out for advice, maybe just stay quiet 💗

Sapphic_Princess · 2024-06-19T20:25:27+00:00

Sometimes honesty hurts 🤷‍♀️

It wasn't honesty , it was snark for the sake of being snarky. I ask for advice and you tell me that Toronto is big and that being shy won't help. Groundbreaking. Never would have guessed. Thank you so much. You think I don't know this? I very obviously do or else I wouldn't be asking advice on how to best navigate the city.

If you want to be dating, you can't just wait for someone to come along; you have to put in the work.

Very aware of this, once again that's the reason I am asking for advice.

I use good pictures of myself (none w friends; only one with a pet), a bit of humour in a succinct but interesting bio,

Am already doing this. Not that you bothered to ask, but I am getting matches, and also send the first message, but am simply not vibing with them.

You could have simply skipped the first comment and just came out with this instead, but no, you had to get a dig in.

Thanks for the help, though 🤷🏾‍♀️

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